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Munches and sloshes - 7/9/2005 5:30:31 AM

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It amazes me how many people don't know what a munch or slosh is when I mention it. We belong to the Dayton BDSM munch group and they have weekly "meets". It's nothing phenominal, just a gathering of like minded folks who talk and mingle over a meal, but it does give you a chance to have open discussions and compare notes, not to mention you make a lot of friends. And with our particular group, I have never seen such a bunch of huggers in my entire life..not that I dislike being hugged by a bunch of big breasted women..lol. I personally advise most newbies to find a local group and interact, if nothing else it get's them in, rather than feeling they are on the outside looking in. Anyone else want to share their experiences with attending munches or sloshes.

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RE: Munches and sloshes - 7/9/2005 6:44:55 AM

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Hi ScooterTrash,

I have been active in my local BDSM community for about five years (now Secretary on BoD) and while I attend our once a month munch faithfully, I have never heard of the term "slosh" - so it doesn't surprise me that many people don't know what is a munch is either : )

I enjoy this event, not only for those hugs (MmM, strong arms too) but because it gives me the opportunity to meet and talk to other members at length on "neutral ground" so to speak. Events held at the club tend to be a little chaotic, with so many people and so many activities going on at once. Plus, the munch is the perfect opportunity for people curious about Desert Dominion (shameless plug) to go and meet others who are both curious and old members which alot of times relieves anxiety.

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RE: Munches and sloshes - 7/9/2005 8:13:19 AM

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I've attended munches and BDSM groups locally and in the UK and have had positive experiences for the most part. I also am not familiar with the term "slosh", but am curious as to the origin of both words. :-) I tend to enjoy smaller, more private groups, as the larger, more established ones I have attended are sometimes a bit "cliquish". Overall, I enjoy getting together casually with likeminded people, and even if the conversation isn't about D/s or BDSM, there is a certain comfort level being with people who you know enjoy the same things you do.

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RE: Munches and sloshes - 7/9/2005 8:22:24 AM

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I've noticed that "slosh" tends to be more mid-west middle-American and "munch" is more east and west coast.

It depends on how long they've been active in the scene. As for the huggers, yeah I know. Absolutely some people use a munch as the prime time to show off how HAPPY they are with their dom and their "subbie sisters."

Ewww, I typed it.

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RE: Munches and sloshes - 7/9/2005 8:53:04 AM

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I've been attending munches for years, and I have never heard the term "slosh" either. Is it something that's developed locally? I assume it's like a munch with alcohol.

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RE: Munches and sloshes - 7/9/2005 9:02:43 AM

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quote:

I have never heard the term "slosh" either. Is it something that's developed locally? I assume it's like a munch with alcohol.

Yep, that it is. Every community well I probably should'nt say every but most have sloshes. I'm not sure its a good thing, but also not sure they are a bad thing.
I know if I'm meeting someone for the first time I don't want to meet anyone but who they really are on a normal basis.

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RE: Munches and sloshes - 7/9/2005 9:34:11 AM

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Ayecrumba lol seems slosh vs munch could almost become one of those sub vs slaves debates if people thought about it hard enough ;)

Never heard the term 'slosh' in my life (re BDSM gatherings that is) and I'm thinking its probably been borne out of someone who doesn't know the history and thinking hmm Munch doesn't really describe what it is we are doing, like err we're not eating...

Strangely enough the orgin of Munch does have its humble beginnings in a kitchen, the kitchen of BK to be exact (I'm sure it was BK, someone can correct me if I am wrong...not sure of the fast food outlets in the States) but that is where it ends...despite it's name, people didn't stop bonding and bondage and start discussing food... Munches never deviated from what they were set up to do... meeting/s of likeminded people in a non-threatening environment... started by a woman who originally advertised (in print, not internet) to meet likeminded people into BDSM at local fast food burgar joint... hence munch, for a munch.

Used to be involved quite heavily in the BDSM scene in New Zealand, running a BDSM group for four years before stepping down for some peace and quiet, and agree getting involved locally is an excellent way to introduce yourself and make contacts and networks, and long lasting friends in most cases.

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RE: Munches and sloshes - 7/9/2005 10:20:23 AM

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quote:

Ayecrumba lol seems slosh vs munch could almost become one of those sub vs slaves debates if people thought about it hard enough ;)

I don't think so, they all mean the same thing. A mixer of sorts to meet others with like minds.

My personal opinion is drugs and alcohol. I just don't like them period. Where some peope can be responsible the masses cannot.
I have a good friend who is with a dom. The dom is an alcoholic...and he says nasty and hateful things to everyone he meets all of the time. Then comes back later and says well "I was drunk" That is not an excuse.
He chose to take that drink knowing full well what affect it would have on him. Therefore he should know the consequences before hand. Accept them.

Generally if a person has been drinking their inhibitions are down. They may say and do things they normally would not do. If it is slight even.
So, if I am searching for a partner I am not going to go to someone with a drink in their hand. I'm going to go to the sober one. It is just my preference.

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RE: Munches and sloshes - 7/9/2005 10:37:56 AM

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I have to agree with ScooterTrash here. I attended my first munch in January or Feberuary of this year (time flies and I am busy hence the memory lapse).

I felt like I belonged for one of the few times in my life. Everyone was pleasant and talkative. This first meeting brought me out of my shy shell and into what I am still becoming. Everyone should start out with a local group and attend the munch. It is a great way to meet people without all the worry of "is this person safe". AND, if you are going to meet someone, what could be a safer way before you meet to play privately. If they won't show up in public to meet you, you may want to be wary.

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RE: Munches and sloshes - 7/9/2005 5:09:41 PM

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Around here we have attended both, and yes the Sloshes tend to be more prevalent when the meeting place is a bar, but from what I have noticed, at both, everyone seems to want something to eat. I have yet to attend a Slosh where there was not food available, and surprisingly haven't seen anyone endulge to excess (of liquid stuff). The city where we attend now (Dayton) as far as I know only have munches however, perhaps due to the negative images that come to mind from the name...lol. In any event, they are pretty much for the same purpose.

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RE: Munches and sloshes - 7/9/2005 11:16:18 PM

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OK ... this is the negative me speaking. I'd heard good things about munches on this and other sites and so I made the effort to attend one just yesterday and found it to be a disappointment. For a shy retiring wallflower like me it didn't help to be totally ignored by the munch organiser and to have the other new people I found and started talking to dragged away by the organiser to 'meet people' while I was left to sit on my own.

Like most things I guess the same event can be seen in different lights by different people.

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RE: Munches and sloshes - 7/10/2005 1:50:34 AM

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Munches is the term in Australian. Never heard the term sloshes.
Re wetsub's munch. I am sorry to hear you had an unwelcome time. Melbourne is usually a very social group to chat with. I tend to travel fairly regular and they yak a lot :). I do hope you attend another one or perhaps someone one on one. Also they have quite a few clubs down there as well. Melbourne also used to have a submissives only group if you are interested. There is a local list for melbourne bdsm

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RE: Munches and sloshes - 7/10/2005 7:55:40 PM

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quote:

OK ... this is the negative me speaking. I'd heard good things about munches on this and other sites and so I made the effort to attend one just yesterday and found it to be a disappointment. For a shy retiring wallflower like me it didn't help to be totally ignored by the munch organiser and to have the other new people I found and started talking to dragged away by the organiser to 'meet people' while I was left to sit on my own.

They key to a good first munch is e-mailing the organizer prior. Letting them know you are a first timer...and asking them to introduce you around.
Most will take you under their wing the first time.

Of course there are those rude groups...I've been there. I used to attend a munch where you would arrive early. Sit next to the host. As their friends would come in...they would ask you or whoever happened to be sitting there to move....continue moving. Until there would be about ten people between anyone new...or anyone not one of their close personal friends and them.
Those people do exist but they are far and few in between.

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RE: Munches and sloshes - 7/10/2005 8:25:33 PM

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Personnally I never heard of it before joining this site.

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RE: Munches and sloshes - 7/10/2005 10:09:11 PM

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Munch I knew...Come munch on some good (or bad) food and let's talk. Slosh I hadn't heard of and I did smile when I saw the term in the subject line. But I assumed, and it seems correct, that it would be used to refer to a no-play get together that includes alcohol and/or is hosted at a bar.

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RE: Munches and sloshes - 7/10/2005 10:15:21 PM

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ORIGINAL: ScooterTrash

It amazes me how many people don't know what a munch or slosh is when I mention it. We belong to the Dayton BDSM munch group and they have weekly "meets". It's nothing phenominal, just a gathering of like minded folks who talk and mingle over a meal, but it does give you a chance to have open discussions and compare notes, not to mention you make a lot of friends. And with our particular group, I have never seen such a bunch of huggers in my entire life..not that I dislike being hugged by a bunch of big breasted women..lol. I personally advise most newbies to find a local group and interact, if nothing else it get's them in, rather than feeling they are on the outside looking in. Anyone else want to share their experiences with attending munches or sloshes.

Munches and organized fetish parties are not for everyone. If someone chooses not to attend one or tries them and does not go to them, it does not mean they aren't making an effort to meet and connect with someone. I went to a few things and made a decision not to do it any more.

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RE: Munches and sloshes - 7/11/2005 1:06:41 AM

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I personally hadn't heard of the term 'sloshes' - in the Uk - 'munch' is used or just plain ole 'group'. SOme are good and some are bad - just takes time to find one that suits your personality and if you can't - why not start one yourself?
I used to belong to another site where people were a mixture of BDSM and full on swingers and they used to just meet up regularly and have a great time. That wasn't so much a munch, more of just a group gathering, but it started to become a regular occurance.

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RE: Munches and sloshes - 7/12/2005 8:21:22 AM

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I'd heard good things about munches on this and other sites and so I made the effort to attend one just yesterday and found it to be a disappointment.

It is dissapointing that this happens, but it does occasionally. We attended a Munch group for several months in Indy and had similar experiences. It seemed everyone was in their own little "click" and were not terribly interested in new folks. We spoke to a few people on occasion (seemed like the ones no one else wanted to talk to, cause they were, er, uh, OK wierd), but finally decided this was not the environment for us. We didn't get bummed out by it however and just kept checking out different groups till we found one that "fit". The one we currently attend everyone make an effort to make sure a newbie is quite welcome and we drag them into conversations and make sure introductions are made...in other words, we bring them in, not make them have to push.

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They key to a good first munch is e-mailing the organizer prior. Letting them know you are a first timer...and asking them to introduce you around.

Good advise sub4hire, in ours you actually have to join the group on-line, so it's obvious the organizers know you are new. But in instances where this isn't the case, I suspect most organizers would be certain you were introduced and brought into the flock so to speak.

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But I assumed, and it seems correct, that it would be used to refer to a no-play get together that includes alcohol and/or is hosted at a bar.

Pretty much defines a slosh in a nutshell Dusty..actually our Munch is held in a bar that serves food, so I don't know there is really much of a distinction, just another term depending on who did the naming..lol.

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Munches and organized fetish parties are not for everyone. If someone chooses not to attend one or tries them and does not go to them, it does not mean they aren't making an effort to meet and connect with someone.

Hmmm..I don't know if they aren't for everyone, or if maybe more accurately every group will not fit that particular person. I have to believe it's a good thing to be able to mingle and talk with like minded people in a neutral environment. I have spoken to folks before that are WAY too private about their choices to every be open about it in public, but I have to feel they are missing something by doing this. I have to liken it to someone who says they would NEVER go shopping at Goodwill for fear of someone they know seeing them. If they see you...they are there too...surprise. I don't know that it would necessarily be a good place to "connect" with someone, but it is another option, and a more immediately personal option than on-line.

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