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cuckolding? - 7/9/2005 6:19:48 AM   
ShiftedJewel


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Status: offline 		I don't get it... what is it that is so thrilling?

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RE: cuckolding? - 7/9/2005 9:46:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		I don't get it at all, I mean what is it about? From what I have read it is another man doing your wife because you can't handle her, is this right? May be stupid question but can't seem to find an anwer and if this is somewhat right, than yea, what is the pt?

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RE: cuckolding? - 7/9/2005 9:59:40 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel

I don't get it... what is it that is so thrilling?

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Just the usual run of the mill behaviourial motivators...psychological bondage/control, humiliation, being humbled, personal anguish, stripping the male ego and utter devotion to a woman they adore ;)



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RE: cuckolding? - 7/9/2005 9:50:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		Forcing a man to watch while you make his wife come as you're fucking her like a whore is just one of life's visceral thrills. Making him clean her off afterwards is even better.

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RE: cuckolding? - 7/9/2005 9:56:18 PM   
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But hay Lam it's Your boat~

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RE: cuckolding? - 7/10/2005 5:09:40 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster
Forcing a man to watch while you make his wife come as you're fucking her like a whore is just one of life's visceral thrills. Making him clean her off afterwards is even better.


Although it makes for a hot scene and its a fantasy of many I kind of find the idea of whoring myself on my back to fullfill someone else's visual fantasy a bit boring. It makes me want to question this notion a lot of men have that to be included in the cuckold equation the woman must be a screaming banshee in ecstasy begging for more of his big hot member because either God or fate has landed her with a worthless peewee matchstick between the legs and she's on heat from lack of sexual satisfaction and will beg and whore for the first decent cock offered to her. Not saying that this isn't a fantasy of cuckolding, but I kind of see it as two male (?) driven fantasies ... the cuckolds and men who enjoy playing the stud or bull...and it leaves me wondering where me and my desire to cuckold someone fits in?

What I find hot is the 'stud' or 'bull' isn't doing the cuckolding...I am. I am in control of both of them (cuck and stud)...he is a means to an end and if it wasn't him it could easily be anyone else, and if he doesn't service me well or too my desire he'll end up in the predicament the cuckold is in. ;) I suppose I get the same rush the stud in Lordandmaster's post, a horny power trip ;) I kind of liken it to having the ultimate sexual freedom...the stud's dispensible, the cuck is not ... hot horny sex and a devoted submissive partner.

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RE: cuckolding? - 7/10/2005 11:46:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		I honestly could not understand this less. Lying on your back fulfilling someone else's visual fantasy is hardly the same thing as being fucked like a whore. To be fucked like a whore you have to participate and enjoy it (at least) as much as the man who is fucking you. When I say "whore," I don't mean a prostitute who does it for money. I mean a woman who allows men other than her husband to fuck her because she enjoys it.

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ORIGINAL: Jasmyn

Although it makes for a hot scene and its a fantasy of many I kind of find the idea of whoring myself on my back to fullfill someone else's visual fantasy a bit boring. It makes me want to question this notion a lot of men have that to be included in the cuckold equation the woman must be a screaming banshee in ecstasy begging for more of his big hot member because either God or fate has landed her with a worthless peewee matchstick between the legs and she's on heat from lack of sexual satisfaction and will beg and whore for the first decent cock offered to her. Not saying that this isn't a fantasy of cuckolding, but I kind of see it as two male (?) driven fantasies ... the cuckolds and men who enjoy playing the stud or bull...and it leaves me wondering where me and my desire to cuckold someone fits in?


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RE: cuckolding? - 7/10/2005 10:47:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

I honestly could not understand this less. Lying on your back fulfilling someone else's visual fantasy is hardly the same thing as being fucked like a whore. To be fucked like a whore you have to participate and enjoy it (at least) as much as the man who is fucking you. When I say "whore," I don't mean a prostitute who does it for money. I mean a woman who allows men other than her husband to fuck her because she enjoys it.
Lam


If your not able to understand, re-read what I said in my post and realise I said I personally find the notion of fullfilling two male's fantasies (one been the partner watching and the other been men who wish to play the part of the bull) boring and the dynamic doesn't fit with who I am as a cuckoldress. Great for the married women who want you or other men to fuck her while her partner watches...like I said, can make for a hot fantasy... but I personally wouldn't label it 'cuckolding' ... fucking someone else's wife yes, cuckolding no.

Am currently cuckolding a young man and its suffice for him to know that I will get sex where and whenever I wish with others while he remains celibate and faithful to me. I don't need him present in the room for me to be cuckolding him.

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RE: cuckolding? - 7/10/2005 11:06:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ordinarily, "cuckolding" presumes a married couple. (Look it up in a dictionary if you don't believe me.) If you'd like to call what you do "cuckolding," no one is going to stop you, but don't be too surprised if other people imagine the word differently. (What you do sounds more like "poly" to me, but an argument over terminology is pointless.)

Anyway, the one thing this thread has proved is that there are various species of cuckolding. The OP might want to specify which particular kind of cuckolding she had in mind when she asked why it's thrilling.

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RE: cuckolding? - 7/11/2005 4:03:20 AM   
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Status: offline 		LaM, in Shakespear the word 'cuckolding' was used to mean a man's wife had run off with another man.

Just two pennies worth from a Shakespeare fan.

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RE: cuckolding? - 7/11/2005 5:22:40 AM   
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Anyway, the one thing this thread has proved is that there are various species of cuckolding. The OP might want to specify which particular kind of cuckolding she had in mind when she asked why it's thrilling.


Lam.... I don't think I mean any "type" in particular... it's just that I have seen it in so many male submissive's profile and I just don't get what they big thrill for them is? I see that listed as an interest and honestly... my first thought is, hmmm voyeur.. wants to watch people they know screwing.. So I'm thinking that I have to be missing the full concept of it or something?

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RE: cuckolding? - 7/11/2005 5:42:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		Traditionally a cuckold was a man raising another man's child/children which he believed to be his own. And to cuckold someone was to be an unfaithful wife.



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RE: cuckolding? - 7/11/2005 6:20:34 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster
When I say "whore," I don't mean a prostitute who does it for money. I mean a woman who allows men other than her husband to fuck her because she enjoys it.

Lam

One can, of course, do both.

Whoring fantasies are rampant in the scene and played out often.

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RE: cuckolding? - 7/11/2005 8:09:27 PM   
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... my first thought is, hmmm voyeur.. wants to watch people they know screwing.. So I'm thinking that I have to be missing the full concept of it or something?

Jewel


Oh yeah...waaaaaaaaaaaaay deeper than that. I could go on for days on this subject, but suffice it to say...it ain't all about voyeurism.

Here's an interesting link for those with a curiosity: http://www.adultcommunitiesonline.com/forums/cuckold/index.html

Like any other online community you have posers here, those that write simply to hear themselves talk, and even those leading the conversation such that they end up getting back in response exactly the fodder they desire themselves, but along the way reading between the lines on occasion, you'll find those who live the lifestyle and with that, you'll also find some of the allure.

It's delish :)


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RE: cuckolding? - 7/12/2005 7:10:30 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel

quote:

Anyway, the one thing this thread has proved is that there are various species of cuckolding. The OP might want to specify which particular kind of cuckolding she had in mind when she asked why it's thrilling.


Lam.... I don't think I mean any "type" in particular... it's just that I have seen it in so many male submissive's profile and I just don't get what they big thrill for them is? I see that listed as an interest and honestly... my first thought is, hmmm voyeur.. wants to watch people they know screwing.. So I'm thinking that I have to be missing the full concept of it or something?

Jewel

Jewel,

i've seen cuckolding listed in many a Domme's profile here as well. it must be a turn on for at least a few of them given the number that list the activity as an interest. For the male submissive that isn't married to the Domme, it's probably the voyueristic appeal at work. i would think for the Domme it would be the power to force one to watch with no ability to participate (tease and denial tie in???).

i find the practice mildly interesting from a purely voyueristic standpoint.

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RE: cuckolding? - 7/20/2005 5:42:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've personally read a lot about cuckolding, not because I am interested in it as a practice, (whether it be bull or cuck), but because it is a fascinating subject to read about. There are a couple of message boards out there that are dedicated to cuckolding/male chastity/hot wifing, and it really truly is something to read. My personal take....


The intense rush of emotions that everyone feels in this type of situation.

The cuck: The humiliation, anger, frustration, sadness of hearing/watching/knowing that someone else is pleasuring your wife, and knowing that she doesn't think you can. A rush. I know, guys, sounds weird to think that someone might get off to that, but some people think being on the receiving end of a single-tailed whip is weird too ;) Too each his own.

The bull: The feeling of supremacy, obviously an ultimate rush. This woman will openly give herself to you, while her loving partner just sits there and watches, and actually enjoys it. Bulls are typically very masculine and well-endowed, so it just reinforces his feelings of dominance. And maybe even the little cuck will do other things for you. I've read stories of cuckolds that will cook the bull meals, wash his car, do his laundry, all while the bull is using his wife like a cheap whore.

The wife: She can lay there and be reamed by some big dominant male, all the while her little cuck is just sitting there with loving, begging eyes, just like a puppy dog watching the entire thing, hoping that he'll get a chance to get himself off when she is finally satisfied. Clearly a rush that only somoene with some sadistic tendencies can enjoy.

In short, I guess it all just touches on those deep down feelings and tendencies that just make you high. Different things for different people. Obviously this one is pretty damned extreme, and not for the faint of heart. But, if any of us on this board were completely satisfied got off to 'vanilla', then we wouldn't be here. I think the cuckolding crowd is just a little less 'vanilla' than most of us

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RE: cuckolding? - 7/21/2005 10:16:46 PM   
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Um, newbie chiming in here, but one who has had some of these fantasies (not sure this theme would work out often in reality though). I think Jasmyn pretty much nailed it in her first post though she made it sound pretty mundane and took some of the fun/sting out of it, but hey, for those into humiliation, there's a new element to it, right? And anopheles got to it as well.

And it's not necessarily watching it, either. Sometimes the thought of what may or may not be happening can be as bad or worse/better than being able to watch it. So for those of you into mindfucks, there you go, have a good time. Did iti REALLY happen or is she just telling you it did?

I think part of it also is about seeing the top happy and fulfilled even though you didn't or can't provide it (while you wish you could or are frustrated because you can but aren't allowed to do so). You're happy to see them happy and really fulfilled even if you didn't cause it. Maybe you didn't even do that, you fulfill other parts of the tops life, just not this one (or at least not for now). And maybe it reinforces that you're relegated or for now confined to/only suitable fore a different role.

You can even take it farther. As one example, I've even had- I mean, I KNOW of people who have had fantasies of being the cuckolded sub or slave to a stripper or escort. They like the idea that they are doing all this stuff for the top that others don't do, things that show their devotion and/or love, yet they're the only ones who CAN'T have the pleasure of the tops intimate company. Cruel in a way, perhaps, but done right I bet it can be very hot. And it doesn't necessarily mean the sub can't get off in some way, they just don't get this supreme joy that many others do.

Hope this helps.

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RE: cuckolding? - 7/22/2005 8:59:45 AM   
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And it's not necessarily watching it, either. Sometimes the thought of what may or may not be happening can be as bad or worse/better than being able to watch it. So for those of you into mindfucks, there you go, have a good time. Did iti REALLY happen or is she just telling you it did?

Hello There,
Another perspective I've seen on this subject was a Dom Husband who prior to the bull coming over to f**c his wife had instructed her that if she came or made noise while screwing the other man she'd be punished. So even though he was the cuck he had control over his wife. He told the bull of his deal with his wife and challenged him to do anything that would make her break his command. If the bull did indeed make her make that he'd be able to stay and see her punishment.
Talk about a mind f**c. That was a really hard one in my opinion.

The lady involved said it was often the most intense sexual experiences she could ever have. She said she thought the bulls tried harder to make her feel good, and that she loved to see her husband watching her while she was getting laid by someone else. She said sometimes if the bull wasn't good enough for her would even intentionally pretended to cum as she enjoyed the stranger watching her Husband spank her too.

I personally have not had a cuckold experience, but have done swinging with a Dom friend of mine. To have him watch me get laid and watch him with another lady was very hot for me actually. When you're having sex you're too involved to appreciate the beauty of the motion like you can when you're an observer.


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RE: cuckolding? - 7/28/2005 7:19:53 AM   
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Status: offline 		My x-wife cuckolded me for over 15 years. It started as an open marriage and progressed to her having a steady lover while I was true to her. It became a large part of my submission to her as I not only served her, but was made to make sure that he was happy and comfortable also. I loved seeing the twinkle in her eyes as she prepared to go out with her lover. She knew the pain and the excitement this caused me and this added even more to the equation. She had a true relationship with her other man and he would often stay at our house for extended periods of time. They vacationed together and I served as a maid at a party she hosted to intorduce him to our friends as her lover and me as their maid. This was the coming out of the closet party by us with many of her friends that were unaware of our kink. That made the humiliation even more complete.

I was sometimes present when they coupled, but not often. Yes there were times when I cleaned her orally after she had been with him, but usually I was not allowed in the bedroom as they wanted to have their privacy. This did not stop me from hearing the sounds of their joyful union or relieve me from the responsibility from cooking breakfast for them in the morning.

This was a mutual agreed upon lifestyle that all involved enjoyed.

Just a few thoughts and rememberances

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RE: cuckolding? - 7/28/2005 8:29:05 AM   
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The bull: The feeling of supremacy, obviously an ultimate rush. This woman will openly give herself to you, while her loving partner just sits there and watches, and actually enjoys it. Bulls are typically very masculine and well-endowed, so it just reinforces his feelings of dominance. And maybe even the little cuck will do other things for you. I've read stories of cuckolds that will cook the bull meals, wash his car, do his laundry, all while the bull is using his wife like a cheap whore.


I've never done it, and would never do it because it is morally repugnant to me - but God is that hot. To take a man's wife away from him, make her yours when she should belong to him - OMFG that's hot. it is a supremely possesive and powerful act, to take and make yours what isn't (also I think supremely unjust). It has been one of my longtime fantasies, and prolly my 2d hottest piece of erotica is about taking a woman away from her hubby.

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