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WHAT MAKES YOU STRONGER - 7/9/2005 8:18:11 AM

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ok, a deviation from the current postings and a question to My esteemed "Sisters" who by the way continue to impress Me with their marvelous wisdom--( a champagne glass raised to You All)--now on to My question--We all grow in strength, wisdom, capabilities as time goes on, but do You also gain Your strength from Your submissives? Do they help fire You, energize You, help You grow to new areas? Or is it always You bringing them along? I find that as I move "up the chain" with sub types I get stronger in the Mistress I am---

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RE: WHAT MAKES YOU STRONGER - 7/9/2005 9:34:10 AM

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My slaves and submissives can both energize or drain Me physically and emotionally. Each being vastly different than the other they bring Me up and down on a roller coaster of new insights.
3 of these delights drive Me insane on a regular basis, piss Me off to the extreme which feeds My desire for a base cruelty that lies beneath the surface of My smile. They are the 3 that excite Me the most sexually.
Their inner struggle to conform to My expectations is so authentic and so difficult sometimes that even through the thread of My annoyance I am proud as they become entwined in a web they never wish to escape.
From them I have gained the strength to use My harshness to fulfill both of O/our needs and wouldn't be the Woman I have become without them.
3 others I consider My soft subs. They have no struggle within and drop to sub space with just a look or a touch from My baby finger. They have given Me strength in My empathy and help Me grow joyfully in My softer sides yet all 3 need and desire the harshness of My hand tempered with the care of My commands. Though they do not particularly entice My sexuality in anything but the most casual of ways they give Me a strength the others can't.
Long answer short...yes...My toys do strengthen Me in many ways as they delight Me with who they were the day they met Me and who they have become through My guidance and their desire.

Wonderful question...thank You for asking it MHOO314

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RE: WHAT MAKES YOU STRONGER - 7/9/2005 10:34:18 AM

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My boy is definitely a source of energy and personal growth for me.

My subs are a source of skill honing and experience building for me.

I am thankful for both.

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RE: WHAT MAKES YOU STRONGER - 7/9/2005 11:17:16 AM

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It is very much a symbiotic relationship. Mutally edifying for both, if it is any else, why bother? If you can't share in the good times and the bad together, things get out of balance and stress occurs. I often see alot of people who believe that they have to "carry" another person and in my opinion, anyone who trys will eventually collapse under that burdensome weight.

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RE: WHAT MAKES YOU STRONGER - 7/9/2005 11:21:03 AM

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Continuing on.. the "Moving up the chain" comment strikes me in an odd way, because it implies one settled for less then they deserved in the first place. However I do understand that personal growth is a learning process. As for what make me stronger.. I do.. my resolve, and my determination. However I have had some people in my life that have greatly contributed in my growth and strength, and they did so by simply doing one thing.. Believing in me and my abilities.

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RE: WHAT MAKES YOU STRONGER - 7/10/2005 10:23:41 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MHOO314

We all grow in strength, wisdom, capabilities as time goes on, but do You also gain Your strength from Your submissives? Do they help fire You, energize You, help You grow to new areas? Or is it always You bringing them along? I find that as I move "up the chain" with sub types I get stronger in the Mistress I am---

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A resounding yes to this....with the caveats that I have grown in different ways with each submissive and that this ONLY applies to submissives who have or do belong to Me. I have not grown in any significant way from submissives that I have only played with casually.

When I picked up the flogger again I tried on-line scenes first so I could identify what fit with Me and so I could learn from many examples (good and bad). When I placed a collar on-line (and yes it did go to r/t for some months) I was fortunate in that he was much more experienced then I was. I grew with him because I had the opportunity to learn what I wanted and try out many different aspects. There were a few things that turned Me off at the start but because we talked about them and I came to understand what these meant to him, I became willing to try them. Most of them turned out to be active turn-ons.

The submissive who is with Me r/t now provides Me with a base of strength and support that allows Me to grow...not just as a Dominant but also (and more importantly) as a person. I can test My limits and refine My needs. He is a good balance emotionally for Me which increases My personal self-control (We all have off days). His sense of adventure can spark Me into fantastic play sessions because they are fed from both directions. His quiet daily service gives Me a place where I can rest and meditate and care for Myself. All of these things keep Me grounded. I do not resent his needs and I do not feel drained by caring for him. Being with him does not take time away from My life....instead it frees up time and energy to live life more fully.

mmmm....I am not sure if I am describing this well or not because I am trying to speak from the heart.

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RE: WHAT MAKES YOU STRONGER - 7/11/2005 5:09:11 AM

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My submissiveness simply IS. I gain strength from knowing and expressing who I am, I gain joy and love from all of my relationships, as a slave and as all the other things I am.

But my being a submissive is simply that. In my particular training I have learned many things, but I don't think that's relevant or only things that subs learn. I'd want the same strength and growth if I were vanilla as well.

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RE: WHAT MAKES YOU STRONGER - 7/11/2005 8:44:27 AM

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My boy makes Me complete. I feel I have grown stronger as O/our relationship has progressed. I love him very much and want what is best for both of U/us.
I don't think that answers the question very well tho :)

What makes Me stronger is knowing that he is emotionally dependent on Me and looks to Me to run the relationship. I know that I have to stay strong and on top of things. And make sure W/we communicate each day.

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RE: WHAT MAKES YOU STRONGER - 7/11/2005 12:15:28 PM

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Gentle Lady. very well written, I feel the race of the heart as that is where I feel I am--My deepest thanks as always for your inspirational writing.

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RE: WHAT MAKES YOU STRONGER - 7/11/2005 12:17:02 PM

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to all these R/responders, My deepest thanks for your tremendous insight and wisdom and by the way many of you are new posters and your responses I have seen are very very good---

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RE: WHAT MAKES YOU STRONGER - 7/14/2005 10:11:37 AM

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I think it is finding submissives you are proud to own and help them to grow and develop that builds strength. I know I feed from the reactions I get from playing with and 'using' a sub. Watching him transform while we are together, and see how his needs change. It's very empowering to me. Watching as he grows in confidence and self assurance, and seeing how proud he becomes of his service. Enjoying the way he craves the attention and yet is still his own individual.

Good question though.

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