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TiNeedsHouseboy -> RE: To cum or not to cum, that is the question (7/16/2005 2:29:49 PM)
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ORIGINAL: stormsfate
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along with all this, i am self celebate since 2001.
I don't mean to detract from this thread, but I am curious about something (and yes, I'm somewhat ignorant on this topic...lol). Aren't there medical ramifications when guys go long periods of time without ejaculating? I was somehow under the impression that the term "blue balls" wasn't just a joke.
best regards,
curious fate
You are absolutely correct. There are negative ramifications when a guy does not ejaculate regularly. People try to circumvent this by milking a sub. After reading the medical literature, IMO this is insufficient to circumvent the need to ejaculate to get full medical benefits.
For anyone who cares to challenge this notion, all I can say is: Turn off your computer. Go to your nearest MEDICAL library (part of a medical school, not the local public library). Do not use material on the web -- unless from sources like Medline to find professional/recognized/medical journals to read. Spend a day researching the topic in the medical literature. See how you feel then.
Imagine my horror when I discovered that being a medical expert doesn't necessarily have an impact on chastity kinks. I crossed cyber paths with an out-of-town subby gynecologist, who launches into endless regrets that he didn't know me while he lived in the same city where I reside. We got into a major head-batting (no pun intended) dispute. He has a passion for humiliation and chastity. His uber-fantasy is the cultivation of extended periods (months) of teasing and denial, and being locked back into his chastity belt, leading to blue balls' discomfort. Allegedly, he can't ejaculate at all unless he's undergoing an intense humiliation scene, or is fantasizing about one.
"Blue balls" are not just some teeny bopper notion, per an earlier remark. Don't be fooled by the slang term. It refers to testicular aching -- an outcome of blood filling the vessels in a male's genital area during sexual arousal. (Women can experience an analogous problem.) There's an easy to read overview here:
http://www.bettersex.com/sexdata/term.asp?termid=Blue_Balls&cookie%5Ftest=1
Getting back to the chastity loving gynecologist, aside from the fact that I don't practice humiliation, I reminded him that chastity is banned in Ti-Land. Serving me would me would necessitate that he agree to training that includes desensitization away from humiliation and producing ejaculate to please me -- frequently. Brother, did he ever have a hissy-fit! Understand that we were simply having a theoretical discussion about our differences in needs. Clearly, he's an example of a do-me sub. What I could never grasp was how he balances his kink against his medical knowledge of inherent long-term risks. IMO he must be living in denial.
Why chastity is banned in Ti-Land is a long story. Reader's Digest version: Having been born with an "organic" chastity belt, where there was no option to put it on and take it off, I will never view chastity as a game for D/s. If chastity endorsers could walk a mile in my moccasins, they'd see a whole other color spectrum, formerly invisible to the naked eye.... assuming the person isn't sexually inhibited, including having a dislike for penetrative sex.
It's one thing to voluntarily agree to let someone else have control over your naughty bits. It's a whole other matter when the notion of "voluntary" is removed from the dynamic.
BTW, for anyone reading this thread who does not like penetrative sex because it "hurts," IMO banning it from your life for that reason is not a viable option. Before you opt for that extreme "solution," go to your gynecologist and discuss the problem. It's much more likely you have a medical issue that's treatable.
~ Ti ~
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