Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

RE: Two Dom(mes) fall in love


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: Two Dom(mes) fall in love Page: <<   < prev  1 [2] 3   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
RE: Two Dom(mes) fall in love - 8/27/2007 7:49:54 PM   
LadyIce


Posts: 406
Joined: 7/4/2006
Status: offline 		It would not work for me at all.
I can't even tolerate an intimate relationship with a switch, must less a Dominant
male.

(in reply to JustSomeDom)
Profile   Post #: 21
RE: Two Dom(mes) fall in love - 8/27/2007 8:35:58 PM   
Griswold


Posts: 2739
Joined: 2/12/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: JustSomeDom

What happens if two Dom(mes) fall in love?


What a dumb question.  The answer is obvious...

They implode on contact.

(in reply to JustSomeDom)
Profile   Post #: 22
RE: Two Dom(mes) fall in love - 8/27/2007 8:46:59 PM   
LATEXBABY64


Posts: 2107
Joined: 4/8/2004
Status: offline 		i have not seen alot of couples that were both dom domme i have more of late like a fashionable trend or something
but everyone will try everything in every possible way. so i guess it comes down to do what ever  people twist things worse then twizzlers candy never get the damn things pulled apart right

(in reply to Griswold)
Profile   Post #: 23
RE: Two Dom(mes) fall in love - 8/27/2007 9:40:52 PM   
MisPandora


Posts: 2911
Joined: 4/7/2004
From: Philadelphia, PA
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: JustSomeDom
What happens if two Dom(mes) fall in love?

Dom de dom dom DOMMMMM.

_____________________________

Pandora
Ms World Leather 2004
Ms Philadelphia Leather 2004

"Simply put, if you want a real femdom to love you, give her reasons to love you." Gloria Brame

(in reply to JustSomeDom)
Profile   Post #: 24
RE: Two Dom(mes) fall in love - 8/28/2007 1:06:36 AM   
ExSteelAgain


Posts: 1803
Joined: 7/2/2006
From: Georgia
Status: offline 		Haha, to Griswold and MisPandora. I certainly see a lot of Dom couples looking for a sub to play with. Of course much of this may be the male Dom telling his submissive that he wants her to be Domme now and then so they can find a second sub who wants to experience the dynamic.

_____________________________

You can paint a cinder block bright pastel pink, but it's still a cinder block. (By Me.)

(in reply to MisPandora)
Profile   Post #: 25
RE: Two Dom(mes) fall in love - 8/28/2007 3:24:25 AM   
WhiplashSmile


Posts: 1472
Joined: 6/8/2004
Status: offline 		Here's the thing that many people believe for some messed up reason!

BSDM = D/s  (wrong)

Dom/me couples can be very BDSM in play.   In terms of D/s, I came to the conclusion this.

Dominance and Submission are two sperate things. Some people look at BDSM as such.  It's not BD/SM.   So, when submission is avoided, this is a focus on submission.  To not submit.   Really when you think about it,  D/D relationships fall into BDSM. 

Some people try to think of DOM couples as just mere vanillas! Not really, all the other kinky letters of BDSM still apply. 

Took me a while to fully wrap my head around a past relationship and apply all the labels and terms.   In the End, it is what it is... 

(in reply to JustSomeDom)
Profile   Post #: 26
RE: Two Dom(mes) fall in love - 8/28/2007 4:04:44 AM   
chellekitty


Posts: 3923
Joined: 3/27/2005
Status: offline 		i think its funny that once we get into this lifestyle we start looking at every relationship and wondering who's the Dom and who's the sub...or at least i do...and have been the peanut gallery with others on the subject....
i have seen lots of Dominant couples work...
seen plenty of switch couples work...
but have never, personally, seen a submissive couple work...i don't know if thats just me and my experience...or...?

(in reply to WhiplashSmile)
Profile   Post #: 27
RE: Two Dom(mes) fall in love - 8/28/2007 7:13:54 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


Posts: 19224
Joined: 10/25/2005
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile
Some people try to think of DOM couples as just mere vanillas! Not really, all the other kinky letters of BDSM still apply. 

I don't consider them vanillas, and certainly nothing "mere."

But their relationship dynamic together is a vanilla one.  Just like my partner and I- neither of us are "vanilla" but the relationship we have together is based on love and compatibility- nothing with authority transfer. 

_____________________________

Find stable partners, not a stable of partners.

"Sometimes my whore logic gets all fuzzy"- Californication

(in reply to WhiplashSmile)
Profile   Post #: 28
RE: Two Dom(mes) fall in love - 8/28/2007 8:44:58 AM   
Vigilantejustice


Posts: 106
Joined: 11/15/2004
Status: offline 		What happens when two dominant people fall in love? They can go out and make some insatiable little subbie(s) very very happy.<wicked grin>
My hubby and I are both submissive. If we could find a dominant we could both agree on it would work the same way. Instant Harem! Maybe we just need to find a Dominant couple, one for each and a bit to share! <giggles>
Feeling goofy,
Justice


(in reply to MizzElle)
Profile   Post #: 29
RE: Two Dom(mes) fall in love - 8/28/2007 8:53:36 AM   
Vigilantejustice


Posts: 106
Joined: 11/15/2004
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: MizzElle
Strangely enough, we met online, but I intially thought he was submissive (think goth guy wearing a skirt and collar). Boy was I wrong!



If I may... Me-YOW! I do love me some lovely lads... how rare a thing to find a man who can/will do that and is also dominant. Oh, if I could be so fortunate... then again, I have a tendency to want to top "pretty" guys. Now I'm sorely missing a very good (just) friend who fits that description.
Can't always get what you want,
Justice

(in reply to MizzElle)
Profile   Post #: 30
RE: Two Dom(mes) fall in love - 8/29/2007 8:27:18 AM   
LadyPact


Posts: 32566
Status: offline 		Actually, 2X had the answer quite a while back, at least from My personal view.
 
My husband has never been My submissive.  Now that he's exploring the lifestyle, too, he identifies most as a Top.  (Personally, I say he's a switch, but that's another debate.)  In Our marriage, We're equals.  We split different things as to who has the greater ability.  I've had submissives during Our marriage, but that is something different all together.
 
I guess what I'm trying to say is, I don't love My husband less because he's not a submissive.  It can and does happen.  What a person identifies as doesn't necessarily determine who you fall in love with.

(in reply to Vigilantejustice)
Profile   Post #: 31
RE: Two Dom(mes) fall in love - 8/29/2007 8:39:14 AM   
MizzElle


Posts: 82
Joined: 8/9/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Vigilantejustice

If I may... Me-YOW! I do love me some lovely lads... how rare a thing to find a man who can/will do that and is also dominant. Oh, if I could be so fortunate... then again, I have a tendency to want to top "pretty" guys. Now I'm sorely missing a very good (just) friend who fits that description.
Can't always get what you want,
Justice


I'll be sure to tell him that :)
I didn't look at our relationship in BDSM terms in the beginning at all, just that he was the more interesting person I had discovered and wanted to be with him all the time. I fell in love with him, and screw the "terms" to define us, we just love each other. We have a one of those indescribable bonds, he is my soulmate, for lack of a better word. I wouldn't trade him for anything. Okay, now I'm getting all mushy...

(in reply to Vigilantejustice)
Profile   Post #: 32
RE: Two Dom(mes) fall in love - 8/29/2007 8:41:41 AM   
Master96


Posts: 593
Joined: 2/13/2006
Status: offline 		Marriage is all about compromises!

If two Dom/mes get married... they become switches

_____________________________

Master96,

quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

Understand that actions will always speak louder than words.


Before you speak, ask yourself..
Is it kind? Is it true? Is it necessary?
Does it improve upon the silence? - Sai Baba

(in reply to LadyPact)
Profile   Post #: 33
RE: Two Dom(mes) fall in love - 8/29/2007 9:13:02 AM   
LaTigresse


Posts: 26123
Joined: 1/15/2006
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Master96

Marriage is all about compromises!

If two Dom/mes get married... they become switches


Says who?

Personally I can imagine a very hot Domme/Domme couple tormenting some verrrrrrrrrrrryyyyyyy lucky sub/slave type.

fanning self..............oh myyyyyyyyy

But in all honesty, all relationships are about compromise and working together. Regardless of the specific dynamic of each person. Sure, I am a dominant personality but I cannot realistically dominate every single person in my life! I have to work with them, accept, that in some ways, there will be people that are dominating me and sometimes in ways I don't particularly like ( like my electric company and the freakin Co-op that just filled my LP tank !@#$!@% $1.57 a @#$%#$^ gallon ) BUT if I want electricity and a few other modern day conveniences, I have to submit to their will OR come up with alternatives.

I think a relationship with two dominants would be serious work and more than likely, not happy long term unless they had other play partners (who knows) BUT, it is very possible and probable, that it can work. It is one of those things I refuse to close my mind to.


_____________________________

My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!

Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

(in reply to Master96)
Profile   Post #: 34
RE: Two Dom(mes) fall in love - 8/29/2007 9:15:06 AM   
Twicehappy2x


Posts: 1096
Joined: 3/27/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Master96

Marriage is all about compromises!

If two Dom/mes get married... they become switches


Not in this house they don't.
 
Ps, Beautiful, i am still waiting on that hot lesbian sex you promised.

_____________________________

The human heart is not a finite container but an ever expanding universe with all the stars contained there in.

(in reply to Master96)
Profile   Post #: 35
RE: Two Dom(mes) fall in love - 8/29/2007 9:19:33 AM   
Dnomyar


Posts: 7933
Joined: 6/27/2005
Status: offline 		LA you sound like  Match.Com commercial.

(in reply to Twicehappy2x)
Profile   Post #: 36
RE: Two Dom(mes) fall in love - 8/29/2007 9:28:09 AM   
Master96


Posts: 593
Joined: 2/13/2006
Status: offline 		I agree with you LaTigresse. I was more joking than being serious :)

_____________________________

Master96,

quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

Understand that actions will always speak louder than words.


Before you speak, ask yourself..
Is it kind? Is it true? Is it necessary?
Does it improve upon the silence? - Sai Baba

(in reply to Dnomyar)
Profile   Post #: 37
RE: Two Dom(mes) fall in love - 8/29/2007 9:29:56 AM   
LaTigresse


Posts: 26123
Joined: 1/15/2006
Status: offline 		Ahhhh, my appologies for misunderstanding.

It is a bugger that humour and sarcasm do not always translate well when written. I've been a victim of that far too many times.


_____________________________

My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!

Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

(in reply to Master96)
Profile   Post #: 38
RE: Two Dom(mes) fall in love - 8/29/2007 9:39:05 AM   
Master96


Posts: 593
Joined: 2/13/2006
Status: offline 		Oh... no need to that LaTigresse. My mistake. I didn't put it right as a joke.

Edited for not putting it right again!

< Message edited by Master96 -- 8/29/2007 9:48:42 AM >

_____________________________

Master96,

quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

Understand that actions will always speak louder than words.


Before you speak, ask yourself..
Is it kind? Is it true? Is it necessary?
Does it improve upon the silence? - Sai Baba

(in reply to LaTigresse)
Profile   Post #: 39
RE: Two Dom(mes) fall in love - 8/29/2007 10:42:55 AM   
LaTigresse


Posts: 26123
Joined: 1/15/2006
Status: offline 		Pffft, and they say two dominant types can't get along.

Now you must kneel and be my little bitch.........


_____________________________

My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!

Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

(in reply to Master96)
Profile   Post #: 40
Page:   <<   < prev  1 [2] 3   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: Two Dom(mes) fall in love Page: <<   < prev  1 [2] 3   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.109