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Squeakers -> RE: A Masters Word and Honor (8/31/2007 5:14:30 AM)
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IMO no one is Master to me but my own, so would I call another Master absolutely not. Secondly, it is my belief that anyone who states that they are 100% honest all of the time, lies. Some people it is white lies, others have no concept of the truth but bottom line is everyone does lie. A person I was especially close to for many years, lied to me on more than one occasion. After we had terminated our relationship, he had lied to me once again and was caught in the lie. I asked him outright why he chose to lie to me, because at this point there was no reason to lie and he said, I lied to you this time and every other time, simply because I did not wish to hurt you. At the time, I was angry about the lie, but I have ponder his response for many years. His actions were at fault and I have never questioned his actions, it does not matter now, but the lie was told to spare my feelings, regarding his actions. I do not believe he lied in a spiteful manner, it was simply to spare my feelings---sort of like, "Do I look fat in this dress?"
I believe the nature of the lie must be pondered before taking away the honor of the liar. In this case, we are only hearing one side of the story. Maybe he was simply trying to cover his own rearend. Maybe he is just a player.
I look at it this way. My own take on what could have happened since I am just simply going by a one sided thing. I have no idea on how long these two people talked. It could be a week, a month, a year---for me it's moot, because I take a extreemly long time in getting to know a person before a commitment is made. Even after the commitment is made, I do not feel that my own partner should be restricted to conversation with just me, UNLESS the commitment has been pushed to a live in/married relationship. Anyhow, my take is, unless a commitment had been made, he was probably getting to know submissive number one, he is not sure where the relationship is headed, he may not have wanted to say "I've only been speaking to you (for how long?), I am not sure if you are the one so yes I am still seeking." So he said no he was not talking to anyone else, thus sparing the feelings because it is the net, who will find out. He gets caught, he feels defensive because his intent was not to hurt her in the first place. Defense is a normal reaction to a lie anyways. Most people will get defensive and try to turn it around. Was he right in his actions? Who knows because I doubt anyone will ever know why he lied in the first place, he is not here to speak for himself.
But let us just say, he had said to her, "Submissive one, I am not sure where this relationship is headed, until we make a final commitment, I will be scanning other profiles, I will be talking to other people, until I decide who is the best submissive for me." Would she still have been hurt? My guess is yes. To me it does not appear that she has invested too long of a time with this person, it does not sound like she has had a face to face meeting, therefore, if she has not invested a long period of her time (for me that is a year) in this man, has not had a face to face, why would the lie even matter. Pffttt move on. If I were to allow myself to have hurt feelings about what anyone who I do not know said or did to me, (especially someone on the internet that I have never had the pleasure of meeting face to face) would make me question my own emotional stability. So if this person allows herself to be hurt over some lie someone has told her that she really doesn't know, the truth probably would have been just as hurtful and this thread would have taken a different direction. "They have been together two weeks, he collared her. And he is still chatting with others, is he a Master?"
In regards to this quote:
you are the dishonest one because you would not have caught him if you had not been checking on him. if there had been ultimate trust, she would not have been checking. Trust goes two ways give and receive.
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