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Should I or shouldn't I? - 8/28/2007 10:35:45 AM

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Should I remind my Sir about my birthday? He's terrible with dates! I suppose I'm leary of reminding Him because I don't want Him to feel bad that He forgot, but on the other hand... what if I don't say anything and then He says, "why didn't you remind me?"

This really isn't a big deal... I'm more curious than anything... What would you want your sub to do????

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RE: Should I or shouldn't I? - 8/28/2007 10:37:40 AM

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leave subtle hints around the house...might work...set up a reminder on His cell phone and/or PC...if you have access

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RE: Should I or shouldn't I? - 8/28/2007 10:41:08 AM

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I'd want to know I'd forgotten.

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RE: Should I or shouldn't I? - 8/28/2007 10:56:02 AM

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Ask him what he wants.

My former ex insisted I remind him because he could never remember. I didn't really like it- but I think it was more than even after reminding him every day for two weeks straight, he still completely forgot on the actual day. I'd have much preferred him to say it's not important and we wouldn't be doing anything.

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RE: Should I or shouldn't I? - 8/28/2007 10:57:15 AM

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I don't want to be reminded of my birthday...it only makes me realize how long I've wasted my time in my search...but that's just me

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RE: Should I or shouldn't I? - 8/28/2007 11:10:06 AM

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I wouldnt actually go up and say..."hey, you didnt forget tomorrows my birthday did you?"

But maybe something along the lines of "oh wow, I cant believe Im gonna be 43 already on tuesday, I dont feel that old!"

Ok, I dont know your age, but you get the idea.....

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RE: Should I or shouldn't I? - 8/28/2007 11:34:13 AM

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Cover yourself in frosting, and put a candle on top of your head. That should do it.

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RE: Should I or shouldn't I? - 8/28/2007 11:39:29 AM

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Ok... so it's today, and I know He's forgotten. I'm not bummed about it in the least... heck, we're going on vacation in a few weeks and I get to spend 4 days with Him. What better b-day gift could a subbie want!

I have made reference to it a few times in the last few weeks, so the hinting didn't work. lol I suppose I could have included the date in my journal that he reads every day... that would have done it... I think? hee hee I'll know better what to do next time around.

Thanks for giving me your input. And it's the big 45 GhitaAmati. omg! You know what that means? 50 is just around the corner! Ok, never mind this birthday crap...

*runs to the mirror to check for new wrinkles*

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RE: Should I or shouldn't I? - 8/28/2007 11:42:25 AM

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quote:

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Cover yourself in frosting, and put a candle on top of your head. That should do it.

Now why didn't I think of that! Jeesh... sometimes ya got to think outside the can of frosting! mmmm I'd be doing some licking too! weeeeeeeeeeeeee

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RE: Should I or shouldn't I? - 8/28/2007 11:58:43 AM

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What would you want your sub to do????

Remind me, along with the list of other stuff she reminds me about.

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RE: Should I or shouldn't I? - 8/28/2007 12:04:08 PM

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Ahh well if it's the day already, then yes, I'd call and say "Hey, do you remember that it's my birthday?" and let it go from there.

While I understand "remembering big dates and celebrations" is a sign of love and respect and emotional security for a lot of people (specially women) the hinting only makes everyone frustrated and no one gets what they want. Next time, ask a few weeks ahead of time "Hey, it's my birthday, do you want to be reminded about it? Do you want to celebrate in some way?" to clear up any misunderstanding.

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RE: Should I or shouldn't I? - 8/28/2007 12:06:38 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Estring

Cover yourself in frosting, and put a candle on top of your head. That should do it.

I dunno, might start a debate about whether doms can have their cake and eat it too.

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RE: Should I or shouldn't I? - 8/28/2007 1:11:03 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: girlygurl

Should I remind my Sir about my birthday? He's terrible with dates! I suppose I'm leary of reminding Him because I don't want Him to feel bad that He forgot, but on the other hand... what if I don't say anything and then He says, "why didn't you remind me?"

This really isn't a big deal... I'm more curious than anything... What would you want your sub to do????

Thank you.

My owner has it so that I can access his calendar online and enter appointments and stuff in for him, so I have my birthday entered into it with a reminder a few days beforehand so I don't have to say anything to him.

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RE: Should I or shouldn't I? - 8/28/2007 1:12:47 PM

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awwwwwww happy birthday

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RE: Should I or shouldn't I? - 8/28/2007 2:56:02 PM

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HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!

I would buy myself a cake and ask if he wants a piece. Maybe ask where he's taking you to dinner to celebrate.

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RE: Should I or shouldn't I? - 8/28/2007 2:57:18 PM

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While I like Esting's idea about the frosting and candle, I will have to say that I like to be reminded. I could never remember her birthday for several years and it hurt her and I felt dumb. Mentioning it the week before would have been helpful. For the last several years I have been able to remember and plan something.
Anyway a reminder should be indirect and certainly not "don't forget my birthday Sir/Ma'am. That would require an entirely different plan.

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RE: Should I or shouldn't I? - 8/28/2007 3:35:40 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: girlygurl

Should I remind my Sir about my birthday? He's terrible with dates! I suppose I'm leary of reminding Him because I don't want Him to feel bad that He forgot, but on the other hand... what if I don't say anything and then He says, "why didn't you remind me?"

This really isn't a big deal... I'm more curious than anything... What would you want your sub to do????

Thank you.

I remind him because I care about mine being forgotten. He cares about not forgetting the things that are important to me. Also, I plan things for mine so I have to get permission and let him now what the plans are.

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RE: Should I or shouldn't I? - 8/28/2007 4:21:50 PM

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What sort of relationship are you in if you tremble in fear over mentioning a forgotten birthday?

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RE: Should I or shouldn't I? - 8/28/2007 4:33:12 PM

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I had to chuckle because I am the one terrible with dates. Last night the conversation started with, "Now what's special about next month?" To which I promply replied, "Ah, it's going to stop being so hot!" I heard a growl and I immediately said, "Our anniversary?" I heard another growl, Newp, newp, had to try again....OOhh HIS birthday! Oops...

Today, I bought tickets to a concert for his favorite rock band--but I still don't remember his birthday. Honest, some of us really just have no head for dates and really do need some gentle reminding but, they love us flaws and all.

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RE: Should I or shouldn't I? - 8/28/2007 4:45:26 PM

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Sir remembered my birthday. my husband didnt. when i finally reminded him (at 10 pm) he mumbled that he felt bad he couldnt get me anything....and i told him "all i wanted was for you to tell me happy birthday".

ah well.

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