darchChylde
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So, if we were to somehow agree on some specific meaning for the words "submissive" and "slave", which would we use. I would guess that the OP would state that it is only right and proper that his definitions be used to the exclusion of all variances and opposing views. I understand that there are many "bottoms" who consider themselves "submissives" and "slaves" by another person's definition, not to mention any other combination of the above words in a sentence similar to the following. "That _________ is really just a _________."
What about "Top", "Dominant" and "Master"? Are these up for debate and discussion, or is it in the nature of the more subserviant side of the coin to confuse such issues?
The lifestyle is filled with disparate people who come to where they are through a myriad of different ways; all with their own reasons, definitions, perspectives and motivations. What works for me won't always work for you. The crux of tthe question is that, no matter what the label someone uses to define themselves; whether it be nature or nurture or desire, they choose to act on their Dominance or submission by choice. And the presence of a choice in the matter precludes any possibility of static or universal definitions.
In the end, it is merely up to the individual (if single) or themselves and their partner how they are to define whatever label they decide to take upon themselves. To wit: it's is up to my Dominant and i that i am a submissive; it doesn't affect you or anyone else and is really none of your business unless She, i or we decide to make it so.
So you go ahead and decide what is real and true for you, and let everyone else do the same. Concentrate on finding happiness in your own life and finding that certain someone who will accept your definitions as their own and happily be that counterpart that you desire. If you do this, i can almost guarantee you that you will no longer worry about other people's definitions or labels.
-go in love and peace,
darchChylde
edited to add: After reading your profile, Bobkgin; i wonder where forcing your definitions and perspective on others falls into the acceptance and understanding generally espoused in the pagan belief structure which you claim to hold?
PS: My condolences on the loss of your slave, i wish you well in your continued search.
-May your journey be ever greater than your destination.
darchChylde
< Message edited by darchChylde -- 8/28/2007 11:57:50 AM >
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