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finding that special ONE - 8/28/2007 5:29:39 PM

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I am sure that there are many answers to this out there but I will ask anyway....I am looking for a special lady to join our family. A slow introduction to an end result of a poly arrangement. However, for the moment I would like to find someone to be our third when time allows and definitely for a trip this winter. Is there really people out there that would be interested. I live in a small town and there is not much chance to get to the city so I am left with sites like this to try to find that special one. Is it too much to ask to find a women who is willing to learn and grow into a full time relationship with a couple? If so? where are they? I have noticed on here that most people only sign in a few times and then they are never back. Where are they all going? LOL..and can I get the directions?

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RE: finding that special ONE - 8/28/2007 5:39:46 PM

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Yes, it is possible to find women like that. However don't set yourself to a timeframe, just take things as they come.
Understand that you are not alone. There are many other singles, both male and female as well as seemingly a great deal of couples as well who seek such women, so understand and accept the fact that they will not flock to you.
You also have to be respectful and honest. All in all they are out there. Alas there is no guarentee that you will find that which you seek, however you never know. Just be positive and do not force or rush it. Doing so would more likely than not damage any chances.

Just my thoughts anyways.
Good luck with that which you seek. :)

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RE: finding that special ONE - 8/28/2007 7:17:46 PM

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Thank you for your reply SirDraco7, I am not rushing by any means.....it is just frustrating. I have accounts on many sites, been paying member and non-paying on all, and have met some wonderful ladies that I would like to get to know. My issue is that they don't seem to be interested in meeting in person and when the topic is mentioned they disappear. For all the time that I chat with them and discuss every detail of what I am looking for and what they want and they say they are anxious to meet but then disappear completely. Never to be seen on any IM or even on the website where I met them. Is this the typical reaction that submissive women have when given the propect of being wooed? Where are the women that actually are looking for physical contact not just talking about it?

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RE: finding that special ONE - 8/28/2007 7:39:46 PM

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Good luck!

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RE: finding that special ONE - 8/28/2007 8:31:15 PM

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There are women out there. When I was younger that would have been something I would have been interested in.

My only advice is if you are initiating contact with women on a site like this save yourself some time and aggravation and be respectful of the women on here that are not into a situation like this. Writing a woman who is not looking for a couple, temporary or poly situation will just drain you and understand the situation you describe in wanting is not for most and cannot be a talked into situation for most.

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RE: finding that special ONE - 8/28/2007 9:12:18 PM

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Thank you for your reply SirDraco7, I am not rushing by any means.....it is just frustrating. I have accounts on many sites, been paying member and non-paying on all, and have met some wonderful ladies that I would like to get to know. My issue is that they don't seem to be interested in meeting in person and when the topic is mentioned they disappear. For all the time that I chat with them and discuss every detail of what I am looking for and what they want and they say they are anxious to meet but then disappear completely. Never to be seen on any IM or even on the website where I met them. Is this the typical reaction that submissive women have when given the propect of being wooed? Where are the women that actually are looking for physical contact not just talking about it

Well, You must know and understand that sometimes many 'women' online are fakes. Be they men looking for wanking material or just people messing around.
Othertimes people might be new and either realize it's not for them or get scared away for one reason or another.
It could also be because they were talking to several different people and found one they connect well with, but it's not you.

There are many reasons and why's.
That is not saying there are any good women around. There are, and they are many. But not all want a poly relationship. And even then not all would connect with you.
They might not be what you seek or you might not be what they seek
I agree it's not right for them to disappear on you, but it happens. You just need to pick up and move on and hope.

::shrugs:: Not sure what else could be said

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