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What was it like the first time you were with a dom? - 7/10/2005 3:16:59 PM

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the title says it all
What was it like the first time you were with a dom?
What did it feel like
what went through your head
did you enjoy it
how did you feel after

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RE: What was it like the first time you were with a dom? - 7/10/2005 6:30:15 PM

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Nervous as hell! lol, I had also never had sex before so I was nervous about that too. Excited I suppose, because I was with someone I truly cared about. I remember we were at his studio and it was dark, and we'd been making out. He stops me and says "Turn around and take off your clothes". I was scared and wondering what he was about to do, but without saying anything I obeyed. He later told me that was one of the most satisfying moments he had with me - my immediate submission to him.
It was one of the most thrilling moments of my life, and I'll never forget it.

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RE: What was it like the first time you were with a dom? - 7/10/2005 6:36:33 PM

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Guess i was very fortunate. We were both nervous, it was the first time for both of us. During it was fantastic. It was amazing we were so in sync. It was so strange for i have never met a Dom since that i have been so closely matched to. i let my thoughts all go and allowed myself to relax and trust, for i did. He never went beyond my limits at all. He kept it rather short. my thoughts were only how good it felt, and how good it felt to trust Him and feel so comfortable with Him to that extent. We both had the same conclusion, that it was a success. He was very intune to me watching me carefully, my reactions. After we talked, and laughed. He made sure He called the next day/or that night, to see if i was ok. That was very important to me. That said so much. i knew He was concerned about me, my emotional state, and body. i am so grateful my first experience was a good one.

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RE: What was it like the first time you were with a dom? - 7/10/2005 7:10:27 PM

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ORIGINAL: koroshinobi

the title says it all
What was it like the first time you were with a dom?
What did it feel like
what went through your head
did you enjoy it
how did you feel after

Ill post a reply after you post your thoughts.

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RE: What was it like the first time you were with a dom? - 7/10/2005 7:58:25 PM

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For me the first time was nothing more than regular sex. I've never played...within even the first 6 month's of being with a person. Trust has to be established for me first.

Yep, I know I'm the odd one out...but I was looking for a specific type of relationship and I knew I was worth it...to settle for nothing less.

By the time we got to play...I was pretty much relaxed.

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RE: What was it like the first time you were with a dom? - 7/11/2005 6:40:07 PM

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I did the same as Sub4hire. We did nothing more than vanilla sex. By the time play started, I was so relaxed it just felt natural.

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RE: What was it like the first time you were with a dom? - 7/11/2005 6:49:50 PM

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With the first One who truly opened me(which wasnt very long ago) to submissiveness it was magical and the one of the most beautiful experiences that i've ever had.i had played lightly before with one other but nothing like this.He exuded dominance and i just vibed with him right away.My thoughts were only of Him at the time and how i could please and serve him so as to make him happy.His pleasure was the only thing i could think of.i hit the most amazing subspace at one point and all i could hear was His voice.i cried.He changed me.He moved me.Afterwards all i could think of was how much i utterly adored Him.My world was changed.i will always be grateful to Him for awakening me

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RE: What was it like the first time you were with a dom? - 7/11/2005 8:22:59 PM

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I had no idea he was a dom, until he slapped me on the face during sex. It was the best thing ever happend to me...(our first kodak moment...)

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RE: What was it like the first time you were with a dom? - 7/11/2005 10:26:04 PM

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What was it like the first time you were with a dom? What did it feel like? what went through your head? did you enjoy it? how did you feel after?

i'm not sure if you're asking about the first time you had sex with a dominant, or the first bdsm context scene, or first time you were dominated in any context..?

First time dominated: On the phone. Already intrigued. Already knew there was Something Very Different about this guy. We were talking late into the morning (3am ish) - those lovely, deep intimate talks in which you reveal things you've never told your priest, your psychologist, not even your best girlfriend. He said our meeting was inevitable. That ... "Someday, darlin, you will walk into the room. I will be there waiting for you. The only thing in the room will be a small wooden box. I will tell you to strip, and put your hands on that box, keeping them there no matter what I do. And you will." That was it. He owned me from that moment onward.

first time sex with a dominant: Oh. My. God. I was in pieces. I felt inadequate. inexperienced despite having been sexually active at that point for over 10 years. Fearful of disappointing Him. Like I was a schoolgirl trying to impress a PhD...

first scene with a dominant: *melt*. I think the Courtyard Marriott is *still* trying to get the body fluids out of that mattress and the wax off the carpet... :-P

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RE: What was it like the first time you were with a dom? - 7/11/2005 11:36:31 PM

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I had to reply to this, because every one had different experiences, just like their first time having intercourse.

I was in my mid teens(he was 20 at the time), and my exboyfriend at the time, told me that he wanted to tie me up, well I was so happy because I had always though about BDSM, but never did anything. Well, he tied me up with rope he found in his parents bedroom, and started to go down on me, and forced a BJ on me. I was so happy, I fell in what I thought was love with him right after that. After that we experimented with his belt, and close pins, but I will never forget that night, and remember it excatly still. Ahhhh

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RE: What was it like the first time you were with a dom? - 7/12/2005 2:32:34 AM

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ORIGINAL: imtempting

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ORIGINAL: koroshinobi

the title says it all
What was it like the first time you were with a dom?
What did it feel like
what went through your head
did you enjoy it
how did you feel after

Ill post a reply after you post your thoughts.

Did it seem to anyone else that the OP just wanted sex stories for his own personal gratification? I have no qualms against discussing intimate details of my life if the person asking about them also shares such experiences. Now, I could be completely wrong here, and if so, I truly apologize. It just didn't come across too well.

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RE: What was it like the first time you were with a dom? - 7/12/2005 2:56:50 AM

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ORIGINAL: Youcantmakemeeee
Did it seem to anyone else that the OP just wanted sex stories for his own personal gratification? I have no qualms against discussing intimate details of my life if the person asking about them also shares such experiences. Now, I could be completely wrong here, and if so, I truly apologize. It just didn't come across too well.

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Yep thats what I thought aswell.

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RE: What was it like the first time you were with a dom? - 7/12/2005 3:19:28 AM

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ORIGINAL: imtempting

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ORIGINAL: Youcantmakemeeee
Did it seem to anyone else that the OP just wanted sex stories for his own personal gratification? I have no qualms against discussing intimate details of my life if the person asking about them also shares such experiences. Now, I could be completely wrong here, and if so, I truly apologize. It just didn't come across too well.

C.

Yep thats what I thought aswell.

Oh good, glad I wasn't alone!

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RE: What was it like the first time you were with a dom? - 7/12/2005 6:46:05 AM

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ORIGINAL: Youcantmakemeeee

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ORIGINAL: imtempting

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ORIGINAL: koroshinobi

the title says it all
What was it like the first time you were with a dom?
What did it feel like
what went through your head
did you enjoy it
how did you feel after

Ill post a reply after you post your thoughts.

Did it seem to anyone else that the OP just wanted sex stories for his own personal gratification? I have no qualms against discussing intimate details of my life if the person asking about them also shares such experiences. Now, I could be completely wrong here, and if so, I truly apologize. It just didn't come across too well.

C.

It did occur to me which is why i gave less of the intimate sexual details and more of how i felt emotionally about submitting

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RE: What was it like the first time you were with a dom? - 7/12/2005 1:09:08 PM

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First Domme I was with stitched me up something cruel, and i vowed never again to allow myself to be treated in such a way again.

She was a Pro-Domme, I had just finished high school, So money was no small commodity, [Uni student now so pretty much the same scenario lol] and i decided I was gonna spend it on indulging my desires.

My main area of interest for my session was trampling/footworship. I love being trampled under a woman in both high heels and bare feet, With particular attention being payed to my face/head and throat, all fullweight of course.

Anyways, we discussed all this, I payed for a 1 hour session, and then i stripped and prepared myself for what i thought would be a dream.

Well, she trampled me all up for about 30/40 seconds, one time, on my legs! the rest of the time was spent with her sitting in a chair and me cleaning her shoes with my tongue, something i was not overly interested in doing, while she smoked cigarettes.

Then, deciding that she had finally had enough she did the only cool thing i remember about the session. She placed her foot on my mouth whilst she jerked me off to an orgasm.

BUT, she did this at only about 40 minutes in, and once she ha accomplished making me peak, she told me to clean up -session finished. She even had the nerve to hurry me up whilst I was in the shower for like 1 minute!

So i left, utterly pissed off that i had payed so much money and been taken for such a ride. But the good thing that i take from it is that since then I have used her as an example when I see a pro-domme and she asks me what i would like. And from some of the wonderful sessions i have had since then I know that these ladies take into account my needs during a session and dont simply ignore them as this woman did.

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