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Leonidas -> RE: Balance of husband and Master (7/11/2005 5:40:03 AM)
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Hi O2bksd,
Our word "hudband" comes form the old english "husbonda" which meant "master of a house". There is another aspect to the word's meaning that is along the lines of "steward", as in "animal husbandry". By becoming master in your own house, you are simply reclaiming your role as husband in the older meaning of the word. From the sound of it, anyway, that is what your wife is asking you to do.
If you are training your wife to please you, it will probably take both the paddle and nurturing to succeed. They aren't mutually exclusive. You'll know that you're succeeding because she does in fact become more pleasing to you. You will know that you are keeping her under good discpline if she does in fact become more obedient, and proactive in seeing that your wishes are fulfilled. You'll know that in doing so, you aren't engaging in abuse if her general level of happiness and contentment increase, rather than decrease, over time as she becomes the women that you would have her be.
These things aren't really all that hard. As you said in your post, it's the little voices in your head, placed there by your socialization as a youngster, that make them so. If you want to embark on a different way of life, you have to be willing to put those aside for a while, and judge your actions by their outcomes, rather than whether they conform to the rules you were taught.
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