fairerthanshe
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Greetings goddessAVA,
I believe that there is a huge difference between the Male Dom/female slave and FemDom/male sub dynamic as well. I have not met many male slaves, but do know a fair amount of male subs. The perspective I have encountered is far afield of my own.
When I entered this relationship, it was with the understanding that he would have complete control of everything. While my favorite activities are thuddy type impact play, it is rare that I have the opportunity to experience it now. It simply does not interest him. He refers to that as BDSM spa services. If he wants me to have a "massage", he will send me to a spa and won't be indulging my whims and wants. I have never met anyone who makes me feel less in control and completely safe then he does. He inspires my trust and cultivates my fear all at the same time. It is an interesting dichotomy. To truly appreciate the awe and wonder he creates in me takes daily reflection on this gift I have been given. My understanding of sadism grows exponentially the more time we are together. On one particular night, I was crying so hard I could barely catch my breath and he leaned over me and asked if I was done (wanting to stop the scene) and I told him that I didn't know how to answer him. He chose to continue (for which I am grateful) and ended the scene when he was ready to do so. The list of sadistic activities and mind fucks he has introduced me to is far too great to innumerate here. Suffice it to say that my resistance to his will decreases daily in direct proportion to the growth of my adoration.
I have not had the opportunity to meet male subs who have the same perspective or need to let go of everything. Surely, they are out there - I just haven't encountered them in real life at this point.
well wishes ~ fairer than she
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ORIGINAL: goddessAVA
To the OP:
If his orgasm is what is important for him in the time that we are together, then I will do whatever he asks of me in order to facilitate it. More often though, he gains pleasure through my suffering and reactiveness to his words and actions. He enjoys skull fucking me til I'm crying, puking, and choking on his cock. It hardly seems boring or vanilla...
well wishes ~ fairer than she
Yes-I have enjoyed queening before where I locked my boys head in a box, hands to the cuffed to the sides, cock and balls on a tight leash with crop in hand and mercilessly used his mouth as a toilet and pleasure instrument, leaving him in there as long as I felt like, if was not pleasing me he got a hard tug and hit to his balls.
But I am very moody-lately this has not interested me, I have felt so satisfied after a heavy pain session.......it is easy for a sub to say yes of course if it pleases them and is probably very true in the Male Dom/slave dynamic, when it comes to femdom I think many, NOT ALL, of the subs who claim that they want to please really want the sexual gratification of getting a woman off. I just wondered if anyone would answer honestly about how they would feel if their Domme said ok, If you want to get me off let me really torture you in a very slow painful steady session.
I think the aforementioned subs may mean well but not many really understand sadism.
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