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SavageQueenD -> curious question (8/30/2007 5:52:36 PM)
Since I am still newer to all of this, I am curious as to what types of rules/rituals does one typically expect their sub(s) to follow. Looking for ideas as I'm not sure what types of things to include or turn into a rule or ritual. Thanks in advance for all the wonderful advice! SavageQueenD

MisPandora -> RE: curious question (8/30/2007 7:00:53 PM)
It really rather depends on the subject and their individual needs. Some of my routines include a bedtime kneeling/relaxation ritual, bathing, bathroom rituals, and a slave meditation. It they are training in something specific (ball stretching, anal opening, etc) they are kept on a schedule of expanding their limits and abilities.

EternalInferno -> RE: curious question (8/30/2007 7:19:13 PM)
MisPandora is right on the mark with it all depending on the needs of submissive and dominant in the situation. I have had different rules with each person. I know what I typically want and that is a good place to start and then I learn as much as I can about the submissive and in the process of that, determine where they are and what we might need to do to fit me or teach them lifestyle basics if needed. I tend to fit things to me, but I also want my submissive to be able to go out in public and not offend others. If they need to stop focusing on themselves, I tend to have a time each day when they are kneeling and speaking aloud how they feel about me and then have things they are to do to teach them I come first. I might have them write about it because I like being able to send them back to their own words for lessons I might want to focus on or to show them their growth. It also helps me when I have more than one submissive, to keep facts straight! lol I ask for daily reports if they have time in their life depending on the demands of their life or if they live with me or not. I think that anything that is a service to me can be used and I love being creative, but I'd rather not talk about those things just yet! lol You will find out what works for you! Happy rule making!

MisPandora -> RE: curious question (8/30/2007 7:26:55 PM)
fast reply Agreed! Just so long as you remember that YOU are the one that must enforce all of these rituals, actions, homework, projects etc. Don't make them anything you can't benchmark, measure, or validate that it's taking place or that you're not willing or able to enforce/punish for failure to complete.

EternalInferno -> RE: curious question (8/30/2007 7:43:46 PM)
lol Another great point! Rituals can be burdensom at times!

LadyPact -> RE: curious question (8/30/2007 7:50:08 PM)
One thing I'd like to add on is, especially since you are just getting started, keep your rituals simple. You can always expand on something if it works well. Rituals that are long, drawn out, or don't exactly fit in with daily life, don't work as well for the goal you're persuing. I've always stuck with My primary two. Morning and evening for daily rituals. They aren't elaborate in any way, but they work for Me.

arayofsunshine55 -> RE: curious question (8/30/2007 8:24:39 PM)
It really is individual. I'm not rules or protocol oriented. So my basic one is "I have final say". You can do as little or as much as you like. As work for you and yours.

MistressShuggie -> RE: curious question (8/31/2007 1:15:35 PM)
My basic rule is my way/highway. No elaborate rituals.

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