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ORIGINAL: Politesub53

Pixel, thanks for the help but i already understood what you are getting at. Everything you say is correct but thats still not what i am asking. The OP was based on humiliation in the proper sense of the word.

i am wondering if subjects that produce feelings of humiliation, fail to do so as you become more exposed to that type of play.

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ORIGINAL: SlaveSubtoserve

Thanks for this wonderful article!-- really summarizes erotic humiliation in such an insightful way!  i agree that for this slave it turbo-charges and  reinforces the ownership relationship and feelings it seems.  

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ORIGINAL: MisPandora

Great article Dianna -- it's good that some of these fellows will see that humiliation isn't a dirty word and in the context of a trusting, erotic power exchange relationship, it can definitely be an enhancement to one's submission.

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ORIGINAL: Politesub53

Pixel, thanks for the help but i already understood what you are getting at. Everything you say is correct but thats still not what i am asking. The OP was based on humiliation in the proper sense of the word.

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i am wondering if subjects that produce feelings of humiliation, fail to do so as you become more exposed to that type of play. There must become a point when something that humiliates you becomes something you enjoy, due to the very dynamics you describe in your post. At what point do you start enjoying such acts because either you have started to find them erotic, or the pleasure you know it gives your Mistress for you to undertake such tasks ?

For starters, one can find something humilating in the traditional sense and erotic at the same time!  I have found certain acts to be somewhat embarrassing, yet equally arousing.  There's a rush that goes along with the embarassment or humilation factor that is very akin to the rush of arousal.  There are acts that Mistress and I engage in which some would consider humilating, but I am proud of.  I find them very arousing.  There are some things we  do that have an element of humilation to them which are primarily done because they are arousing for both of us.  I hope this doesn't confuse.  The bottom line is that there are many reasons to engage in these acts and you can bet that arousal is part of it for at least one of the parties, if not both!

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Full public play isnt the same as public play in a club full of lifestylers, assuming most people at such events are at least curious. i would think being humiliated there is easier to adjust to, than at the mall for instance. This is just my opinion of things

I won't agree or disagree here.  I think they're just "different".  There are things I do with Mistress in public that some men would find absolutely humiliating, which I enjoy and find arousing as does she.  Everyone has their own buttons and conditioning.  It doesn't bother or embarrass me to carry her purse or bags while shopping.  Some men would be horrified by the prospect of that.  I just see it as being of service to her.