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LATEXBABY64 -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (8/31/2007 8:32:11 PM)

media hype got of love the over active porno addicts must be gamers lol



adoracat -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (8/31/2007 8:36:44 PM)

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ORIGINAL: dbadd0g1

Interesting.
Yesterday I was called  a pussy and told there was no way I was strong enough to handle this slave because I did not call her a slut right out of the box.
Its not my first line to meet someone. It seems that at first it is no different than meeting someone on the street. I just know that because you are here we have at least one thing in common. So would I walk up of the street and say how ya doing slut on your knees....well..not for a first impression no.  lol

I am a little new and guess I have a lot to learn



honestly, i'd rather see a dominant who was polite in a first email exchange.  i  quite like doing that little dance as two people get to know each other...and once personality fit is established, then the lovely dance of D/s can begin

kitten, who knows she shouldnt drink and post but...  *winks*



stef -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (8/31/2007 8:38:28 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LATEXBABY64

media hype got of love the over active porno addicts must be gamers lol

Flypaper macrame basket feels handsome tunafish to paperclip soup rage

~stef



TemptingNviceSub -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (8/31/2007 9:42:36 PM)

To the OP..I have never received a "hello slut" e-mail..But if I ever did, I would first laugh , then shake my head in amazement at the ignorance of some people, then forget and get on with my life in reality world..so..easy answer..if you like "slut" in first mail then have at it!..if not..then shake your head in amazement and get on with life..Do not forget when you get confused and question as to what is right and wrong..normal or abnormal....only remember what is right and wrong , normal or abnormal for YOU!..easiest way to know the answer after that...Tempting



Lashra -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (8/31/2007 9:55:23 PM)

Basically they are just rude assholes who haven't  a clue as how to talk to woman. I would happily send them a email back informing them of this fact and then forget about them. Just because a person is supposedly a "Dominant" does not give them the right to be rude like that.

~Lashra



slaverosebeauty -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (8/31/2007 10:05:51 PM)

trolls, wannbes, losert, and those without manners start thigns off with 'hello slut' or other such dishonourbale and repulsive words. Not an intelligent way to make a first impression, for me, it means "I have a delicate ego and need to degrade and dehuminize and put down others to validate myself." I prefer intelligence and honour. Being called a slut or other such bs as a way to make a first impression is a NOT a good sign.



chathamvahere -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (8/31/2007 10:11:23 PM)

When either replying or writing a potential sub or slave we are always polite, it shows good  manners and makes for good communication, you do not have to be rude to be dominate:)



teamnoir -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (9/6/2007 3:10:15 PM)

It's a strange sort of flirt. Answer it if you like.

If you don't, then be polite and move on to the next message. They aren't all like that and there's no requirement that you accept that sort of approach.



ADomDoc -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (9/6/2007 5:40:23 PM)

Too bad that so many "Doms" are really just losers who are bitter because they can't get laid ... and think that just because a woman considers herself as submissive or wants to be a slave, that she is an easy mark to take commands of any nature from a stranger.  But, such assholes SING to the needs of subs with poor self-esteem ... and they are the ones who reinforce such behaviour.

I don't recall the last time I used the term slut (except a Dom friend, Ken "The Barbarian" Fontenot, bragged to each other that we were both sluts :-) ... and never in a 1st email.  It's not language I use normally, but can make the exception with a sub or slave of mine who wants and enjoys verbal humiliation. 

I see no reason to be disrespectful or crude to anyone, let alone a stranger ... in person, or online ... I treat others as I wish to be treated.  Anyone who attempts to degrade another, esp in a 1st contact is, him/herself an insecure person not in control of him/herself, and the poorest choice for someone to intelligently & justly command another.  But if that's what you pick for a Dom/me ... that's what  you deserve.



azrailla -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (9/6/2007 9:37:42 PM)

I have to agree with the general theme. An initial email is an introduction and in my humble opinion, should be worded the same way as any face to face conversation with a complete stranger. Politeness and courtesy say much about respect and class, gutter terms well....they draw an entirely different connotation. Terms such as "young lady" or Sir/Madam, I think are perfect.

az




amelliagrace -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (9/6/2007 11:40:01 PM)

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ORIGINAL: DS4DUMMIES

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ORIGINAL: texancutie

Well first off,  I couldn't even attempt explaining their motivation as anything even remotely dominant.  Whenever I get emails or private messages like that, I assume they haven't a clue what Domination or submission is.  I mean I could be mistaken, but in my eyes, they are just role playing being Dominant online.  Having an overbearing personality or telling someone you don't know that they are a slut or whatever, does not a Dominant make. 


What texancutie said would be my take as well. I'd write the men back and open with "Dear Moron".....

DS4


Being the opinionated person I am, and the utter bitch I'm inclined to be on occasion, I can thnik of numerous, and IMO legitimately bitchy, catty, and snide replies to an initial email from a complete stranger calling anyone  "slut".
"Dear Clueless-in-Seat-Paddle...Is it true, what I read about you on the message boards? That you are a pussy whipped nose picker?"
"Dear Mr. Vacant...The vacuum between your ears is creating a wind tunnel in my inbox.  Please remove your misguided self from it."
"That's MISTRESS Slut to you, asshole."
"Hello, Prick."
"Oh, how cute.  You must have learned that technique at WannaBe.cum"
"I didn't give you permission to call me slut, you jerk."
"Obedient?  Yes.  I always listen to the voices in my head when they tell me to avoid pompous behinds like you."
"I"m quite obedient, to the select few I deem worthy of my submission.  You are not one of them."
"Hmmm..."slut"....does this mean that now that we've been properly introduced I get to call you "Cock Brain"?
"Obedient?  Submissive?  Well, not to YOU."
 
OK, OK, I'll shut up about it, but SHEESH that sort of things chaps my fanny - and not in a good way, I might add.  I'm reminded of one of the lists on my desk, "BDSM t-shirts I'd like to have to hand out".  One of the selections near the top is, "Real Dominants (or submissives) Have Manners".  To be fair, I'll add that I  have Dominant friends who continually shake there heads over supposed submissives who start emails with such crap as:
"I need a Dom.  Collar me now." (True story, as are the ones below.)
"I want a spanking."
"I'm looking for a Master.  Dom me."
 
Goes without saying......Idiocy knows no single orientation.
 
-grace
 



kuriosity -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (9/7/2007 12:02:03 AM)

I have gotten those types of e-mails and IMs too and usually respond with a polite request to cease contacting me.  I think that these messages are sent by one of two types (A) a poser Dom who doesn't think of subs and slaves as "real" and hasn't taken the time and effort to learn about the lifestyle or (B) a Dom who had this technique work once in the past and they just know that it will work again, even if they irritate 200 subs before getting to the one girl who will respond in kind. 



lonlyrossInNeed -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (9/7/2007 6:17:44 AM)

So many of the emails i get start out with hello slut



nephandi -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (9/7/2007 6:33:53 AM)

Hi

Oh yes i have had a few of theese. i blame porn. Submissive women is often shown as complete nymphomaniacs that will jump inot bed whit anyone. Other types of coments in the first contact i have had is the following.

I am dead, use me!

Drop down on your knees and worhisp my feet slut!

I want to use you in every hole.

It are one liners like that that make me scratch my head and think. All right and hallo to you to. Some pepole are just playing, some have not yet realized that their porn magazines are not a documentary. Is it common? Hell yes. Do it show a complete lack of class (unless the sub and the Dominant belong to a subcluture where such is seen as ok) then yes deffinatly that to. And I am very little attracted to pepole that lack class.

i wish you all well.



anaistoo -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (9/7/2007 7:53:01 AM)

i blame youth and inexperience mostly.  It's actually kinda telling to me who has real experience and who is trying to play a role.  It's clear that where there is inexperience there are are generally a lot of extraneous trappings to establish Dominance and Mastery in a faux way ... rather than by getting to know someone and them getting to know the Dom/Master in You.  ~shrugs~ But this is my first post so what do i know? ~laughs~
 
~anaïs too



sexyred1 -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (9/7/2007 8:00:38 AM)

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ORIGINAL: anaistoo

i blame youth and inexperience mostly.  It's actually kinda telling to me who has real experience and who is trying to play a role.  It's clear that where there is inexperience there are are generally a lot of extraneous trappings to establish Dominance and Mastery in a faux way ... rather than by getting to know someone and them getting to know the Dom/Master in You.  ~shrugs~ But this is my first post so what do i know? ~laughs~
 
~anaïs too


Don't blame youth; blame idiocy.



domiguy -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (9/7/2007 8:31:31 AM)

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ORIGINAL: slaverosebeauty

trolls, wannbes, losert, and those without manners start thigns off with 'hello slut' or other such dishonourbale and repulsive words. Not an intelligent way to make a first impression, for me, it means "I have a delicate ego and need to degrade and dehuminize and put down others to validate myself." I prefer intelligence and honour. Being called a slut or other such bs as a way to make a first impression is a NOT a good sign.


Wow....Not gonna do it, wouldn't be prudent....Maybe I'm maturing?

Novices!!!....The one and only true Dom is the one who can start an initial conversation with "Hey you dirty, dumb cunt".....And manage to still keep a dialogue going....Slut?  That was my opening line back in '83.



RRafe -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (9/7/2007 8:33:19 AM)

They have to know enough to do it right..............call me "Leatherslut" in a first email-and I'll laugh-and doubtless reply.



HalloweenWhite -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (9/7/2007 8:34:39 AM)

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ORIGINAL: newtothis55

Not to be dumb but maybe cause i am relativly new to D/s  I am confused on the ammt of emails from collarme.com Dominants that start with hello slut. Then they usually ask if I am obedient. Ok, I do not get the slut thing,i realize given time it could be a term of both endearment and humilation and i am honest confused about the obedient thing when its a first email, how can i even answer that? Obedient to what or who, or even which.Can someone explain these concepts ? Thanks in advance


You tend to get those types of e-mails from wannabes. Dont worry about them, just ignore. Keep looking for what/who you need.

Good luck.

                 



curiouspet55 -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (9/7/2007 9:26:22 AM)

It is common, in my experience on this site over the last year. Just because it is common, however, doesn't mean you have to be ok with it or deal with it. That is why there is a "block" function.

cp55



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