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crossdressing switch - 8/31/2007 11:48:24 AM   
Friday69


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Status: offline 		My boyfriend is a crossdressing switch.  I not sure how we found each other but I am a female dom with many fetishes on bondage and cbt.  I really also enjoy anal play.  What can I do to better him in the relationship.  Crossdressing is new to me.  I have introduced a little bondage but I don't want to scare him off.   
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RE: crossdressing switch - 8/31/2007 2:45:09 PM   
Aine


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Status: offline 		Have him do his own research.  Then go over the things he's found, get his opinions on things and go from there.

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Honey, you obviously missed the "want to be used as a toilet fetish" thread or "where do I get instructions on setting my sub on fire" thread. LOL

Thank you, DelRay for that one.

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RE: crossdressing switch - 8/31/2007 3:57:30 PM   
seeksfemslave


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Status: offline 		What I'd like to know is what do you do when indulging in CBT ?
I've just discovered those  websites that cover this and I'm amazed and excited.
Dont want to experience it tho'

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RE: crossdressing switch - 9/1/2007 1:09:37 AM   
lucern


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Status: offline 		I'm a crossdressing switch too.  It's not a special needs group lol.  I could suggest what I would want, but your boyfriend might resent being introduced to someone else's fantasy without being asked. 

I'd suggest that you guys are at a great starting point where you can be honest with eachother.  He's a crossdresser.  You're into a lot of things.  What kind of crossdresser is going to judge your kinks?  Take it easy, and be open with eachother.  It's hard for some to talk about sexuality, but it seems that you know enough about eachother that you can start exploring.  Talking might cut through a lot of what you'd both rather not do, at least. 

I do wonder what you mean by 'better him in the relationship'....better accomodate?  better serve? just better?



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RE: crossdressing switch - 9/2/2007 2:36:39 AM   
iwearpanties


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Status: offline 		im alsoa crossdresser and ive found many times the cbt and bondage go very well with my crossdressing .and some spankings or dose he play dom role when dressed?

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RE: crossdressing switch - 9/2/2007 4:17:46 AM   
nikkicd10


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Status: offline 		Hi, I'm also a CD and as with all things start off slow and talk to him about it. CD are not any different than anyone else. 
It isno different than introducing anybody into your BDSM lifestyle, your bf is a lucking man to find someone who eccepts that part of his life.

Just discuss it and find out what his limits are and if he has very little experience than offer to teach and expand his knowledge, both through play and research

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RE: crossdressing switch - 9/11/2007 3:04:09 PM   
lesbman


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Status: offline 		I have seen that there are factors that depend on whether he goes full blown crossdress to look female or just fetish stuff that is a turn on. Can you elaborate, does he pluck his eyebrows, remove body hair, shop at the mall or from ebay etc. There can be a lot going on in a boyz mind who fancy crossdressing, I've seen a lot of things in a lot of years-R

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RE: crossdressing switch - 9/13/2007 5:15:44 PM   
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I've always looked at that as more of a transvestite thing. I crossdress-in other words, I dress in women's clothes when I can. A transvestite will try to look like a woman; a crossdresser may do a few basic grooming things to accomodate the clothes, but you'll know a crossdresser when you see one.:P
Just my way of thinking.:P



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RE: crossdressing switch - 9/13/2007 7:30:24 PM   
TNstepsout


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Status: offline 		Talk to him to find out what it is about cross dressing that appeals to him. Is it strictly the erotic nature of having womens clothes against his skin or is it more the humiliation of doing something very taboo, or is it a need to experience a more feminine side of himself.  You need to know a little more before you can figure out how to incorporate it into your play.

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RE: crossdressing switch - 9/15/2007 8:55:07 AM   
iwearpanties


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Status: offline 		its great toosee so many others into this form of play and i agree as a masculine male i love the feeligns of the fabrics and theye colors and soft i do not pass as female nor seek too pass  but i do wear panties 24/7 and wear the clothes at home but i dont try toobe or act as female i realy enjoy the role play and domination that can come int o the crossdressing aeras

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RE: crossdressing switch - 10/1/2007 11:02:12 PM   
Mastress


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Is he Sub when he dresses or both, unusual most Xdressers are sub.I am a switch cross dresser also Mastress
My Mistress in a previous relationship would shop at the thrift store for clothes, this way you can take a little more control of his dressing, we found girdles and stockings and lots of items to die for, I loved her for that and taking me out in public dressed and making me her girl, I am Lesbian when dressed. She was a Domme and would only switch on Halloween

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RE: crossdressing switch - 10/1/2007 11:17:15 PM   
Mastress


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Well said Cross-dressing is a subtle line from a transvestite as you accurately point out "a transvestite will try to look like a woman; a crossdresser may do a few basic grooming things to accommodate the clothes, but you'll know a crossdresser when you see one."
I am in my late forties dressed all my life done the face thing maybe half dozen times. the body works great face Darn shame...

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RE: crossdressing switch - 10/2/2007 12:39:45 AM   
DagnyTaggart


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Status: offline 		Try dressing like a man. Heh.

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RE: crossdressing switch - 5/12/2008 1:46:34 PM   
lalainety


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Status: offline 		i started as a crossdresser, but it never looked perfectly girl without the complete transformation. as i completed my transformation but part time only i felt like i found the female in me, which made me a bisexual eventually. there is no feeling greater than being completely dressed and made as a woman and doing what women do to men. just makes me so in touch with my feminine side i even moan like a real woman. i love having sex  with a woman with me dressed as a woman  but nothing makes me more female by dressing as one and making love to a man. as the going says, once you yried it you'lle always look for it.

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RE: crossdressing switch - 5/13/2008 9:10:14 AM   
Marysboi


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Status: offline 		I don't know if it speaks to your question but on "Ask a Mistress" there is a post..Crossdressing help please that comes close to your question..Good Luck with your adventure..Take your power and his desire and train him as you see fit..Respectfully, jim

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