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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/2/2007 8:58:01 AM

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great stuff everyone !!

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Knows his own convictions.

Knows his weaknesses.

Knows his strengths.

Know and practices his own integrity.

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/2/2007 9:08:18 AM

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The following are 5 things a Master should know as they relate to me:

1. Be in control of yourself (you cannot control me if you cannot control yourself);
2. Read my profile (do more than look at pictures) and trust that what i say, i mean;
3. Be honorable and have integrity;
4. Take care of yourself and your appearance. You expect me to and i expect the same;
5. Do not assume!
6. Be at least in the same decade as i am. i honestly will not have much in common with a 25 year old but my 18 year might like you as a buddy (if you screw up i may threaten to take your car away).
7.

Crap!!! i only get 5?????
~sigh~

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/2/2007 9:18:27 AM

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ORIGINAL: angelic

Crap!!! i only get 5?????
~sigh~

::chuckles:: That's what I said. That's why I cheated and smushed like 4 or 5 points into each point and called it one thing lol. It seemed to work ok I think :)

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/2/2007 10:02:00 AM

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ORIGINAL: Estring
1. Their slave's name
2. How to locate The US on a map.
3. Basic math
4. Basic English
5. How to drive

Most people FAIL at numbers 4 and 5. {giggles} Sorry, I could NOT resist.

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/2/2007 10:41:53 AM

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Personally, I think these apply to people no matter what their orientation is in their relatioship:

1. Know yourself
2. Know your partner
3. Know that just when you think you know everything that there is to know about yourself or your partner, that there is something more that you could learn.
3. Know your limitations and that you are not infallible
4. Know that you do not know everything
5. Know that your way is not the only way

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/2/2007 10:43:36 AM

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ORIGINAL: slaveluci

Obviously, this is solely opinion. It's very hard to generalize what others "should" know. However, to my thinking, this is what I feel it would be good for most masters/owners to keep in mind:

1. You are not perfect. Neither is your sub/slave. Remember that.
2. What others consider "domly" or "masterly" should mean less than nothing to you. Do only what works well for you and your own sub/slave.
3. What others consider "submissive" or "slavely" should also mean less than nothing to you. What your sub/slave "should" be is to be determined by you, not by comparison to all the other little subs/slaves you see.
4. When your sub/slave became yours, at the foundation of that decision was more than likely the concept that it would enhance both of your lives. Therefore, both of you should become "more than" what you were before you joined together in your relationship/dynamic - however that manifests itself.
5. You don't need an excuse to do what you desire to do to/with your sub/slave. If you have the desire to do something that many would see as "punishment" yet your sub/slave hasn't been disobedient, don't look for imaginary "wrongs" so you can do what you wish to do. Don't hide behind the concept of "punishment." You are the master. You don't need reasons. Just do it.

For me, those are just 5 good tips to remember. YMMV............luci

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/2/2007 10:57:10 AM

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Five things Every Master Should Know:

I thnk it's more than 5- there are some amazing lists here... but I'll add:

a. CPR
b. The difference between an allergic reaction, a seizure and an orgasm.
c. Which clamps and restraints cut off circulation. Don't use something on someone else you wouldn't use on you.
d. That some play requires training. Just because you can hold a whip, doesn't mean you should.
e. Not everyone is able to do everything. True for Masters, true for subs.

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/2/2007 10:58:46 AM

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1 learn how to tell when a women is lying, its normally obvious by the fact that her lips are moving
2 the higher your credit limit the more submissive we become
3 chicks dig scars
4 dishes and windows are perfectly acceptable hard limits
5 if your woman has no problem with you leaving her home alone all weekend while you go hunting or to the nascar races, shes probably fucking your best friend

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/2/2007 11:12:37 AM

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ORIGINAL: fungasm
a. CPR
b. The difference between an allergic reaction, a seizure and an orgasm.
c. Which clamps and restraints cut off circulation. Don't use something on someone else you wouldn't use on you.
d. That some play requires training. Just because you can hold a whip, doesn't mean you should.
e. Not everyone is able to do everything. True for Masters, true for subs.

Some good lists here, but this is the one I relate to the most. Item b. made me laugh out loud!!

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/2/2007 11:27:37 AM

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1. That ordinary manners and social skills apply in BDSM circles, and kinky people are very much like non-kinky people.
2. That honorifics and titles can be great fun in scenes, but using them with casual acquaintances often brands you as an obnoxious loser.
3. That black leather pants and running shoes don't match.
4. That there are acts of authority, and acts of sensation, and you can do them together OR apart.
5. That it's great to think about what behaviors signify dominance (standing up straight, speaking confidently, looking people in the eye) and to use those behaviors IN MODERATION to SUBTLY communicate your preferred role at munches and outside scenes.

And one to grow on:

6. That personal sexual or relationship styles often make very bad philosophy.

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/2/2007 2:08:33 PM

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#1 he should know how to and desire to be honest.
#2 he should know what good character is and have it.
#3 he should have control over his life.
#4 he Should be consistent
#5 he should have and practice discipline

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/2/2007 2:15:37 PM

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Interesting question:..1.Pay attention..2.It may not always be failure on the part of the submissive, it could also be yours. 3.Be consistent. 4.Be patient.5.Do not bite off more than you can chew....Tempting

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/2/2007 2:20:35 PM

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! HES/SHES is in charge..2 knows truth and honor...3 has Mastered their self or making attempts to do so..4 teach not break..5 enjoy the journey

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/2/2007 3:25:06 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Just My thoughts........

1. Be a human being, before being considered a Dom. That means all that comes with it. Not perfect, will make mistakes, and need to handle accordingly when they do.

2. Always have an air of humility. No matter how skilled or knowledgable you are, there is always someone out there who knows more than you, has been doing it longer, and might just be better at it.

3. Remember your responsibilities. The buck stops with you. The safety, security, and general well being of your submissive belongs with you. Honor that.

4. Be grateful. Never forget that you are living the life that most people only dream about.

5. Never stop learning, evolving, and growing. Whatever point you are at right now..... There is always more.... So much more.

Priceless, I'm going to make a poster of this and hang it on my wall.

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/2/2007 3:52:32 PM

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1 – How to give & receive honesty.

2 – How to give & receive responsibility AND accountability.

3 – How to give & receive correction AND criticism.

4 – How to give & receive unforeseen consequences.

5 – How to give & receive love, affection & oral stimulation. ;-D

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/2/2007 5:40:39 PM

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All of this is really great stuff from me to learn from, I thank you all immensely.

So after reading a few. Here are some things I feel, not the "top" but just...things.

1) Learn and understand each others limits and why.

2) Knowledge is power, the more you know - the more powerful you become.

3) Enjoy the little things. Her smiles, her giggles, her "thank you's", and her desire to make you happy. / Take lots of pictures.

4) Just because she lives to serve you and make you happy, isn't a reason to think she doesn't like being rewarded and made happy as well.

5) Never care what outside opinion may be. At the end of the day, all there is is her next to you...not your neighbor.

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/2/2007 6:04:06 PM

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4) Just because she lives to serve you and make you happy, isn't a reason to think she doesn't like being rewarded and made happy as well.

All I can say is thank you for saying THAT.

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/2/2007 8:08:23 PM

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She isn't yours and never will be so stop hitting on her
That huge bag of toys and the three floggers hanging from your belt screams insecuirty
No matter who you are, showing up single never looks good
Understand the importance of timing
Less is more

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/3/2007 5:29:07 AM

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Michael
Some of us don't have any choice BUT to arrive single. We have not yet found our sub. We do the best we can. The rest of the post is pretty good though.

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/3/2007 5:58:44 AM

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Aside from what I said in the "Love Reign O'er Me" thread (General BDSM forum), and several good answers here, I'd add the following:

1. Be truthful, forthcoming and sincere.
2. Select your slave because she is most compatible with you, not just because she said "yes".
3. Always develop your understanding of your slave: her motives, feelings, thoughts, hopes, fears ... ask lots of questions with emphasis on questions that begin with "Why...".
4. Always develop your slave's understanding of you. Invite questions and answer them directly.
5. Never forget that in our society all it takes is the word of one aggrieved and bruised woman in a police station to bring down charges of forcible confinement, assault and rape. You face not only that possibility, but the possibility the woman might blackmail you using that as a threat. Bear this in mind, especially if you seek casual encounters involving bdsm.

I could also add:

- Learn all you can about human biology, anatomy, and first aid treatment. Learn how to detect distress and do not ignore it. Better to start over than continue and cause real damage.
- Learn how to tie and untie knots. Be sure you know the difference between a slip-knot and a knot that will not slip.
- Know your kinks: how to apply them, how to end them quickly and safely in the event of an emergency.
- Do not hesitate to dial 911 when necessary.
- your slave's well-being is your moral and legal responsibility during any bdsm activity and (usually) for some time afterwards (depending upon how difficult the activity was on the slave), no ifs ands or buts about it.

I'm quite sure I could go on ...

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