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ADomDoc -> RE: How long before you meet? (9/6/2007 5:00:40 PM)
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Whenever we are both comfortable with meeting.
One slave kept in touch w/ email, video & phone calls for 9 months before being ready for a meeting. Another I met after 6 emails, we met, and have been in touch for the 2 yrs since, but haven't had any urge to get back together. Another I met after 2 emails, we met that night, and it only lasted 3 nights. (She preferred to rush our meeting & get to know each other directly, rather than take it gradually.)
I'm in no hurry ... when we are ready and think we have enough in common, that's fine. And, there's no fault in trying & it not working out. Folks find out that they are, or aren't a match. It shouldn't be a crushing blow to the ego if you just don't work out.
But I'd hate to have a sub/slave move across the country only to find out we are a bad match, that's why I'm very big on lots of questions (both ways) and enough phone calls to give us an idea if we'll get along. And, there's a LOT of information that you can learn about each other before trading phone numbers, SSNs, addresses, mother's maiden names, & pictures of your last proctoscopy! But, after 2-3 meetings (of a few days each) we ought to know if we'd be compatible enough to try to make a relationship work.
OTOH, 1 who approached me this week, and I answered her w/ a polite, informative letter, with several questions ... she answered with 2 words (answering 1 of my questions). So, I informed her that such a feebly minimalist response was unacceptable & not to bother me again. I'm GLAD to have a prolonged communication, but I won't waste my time on folks that getting information out of requires a hammer, tongs & pulling of teeth.
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