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Finagle -> Names (7/12/2005 11:12:23 AM)
My question is this: To my slave and I, "master" and "slave" still sound and feel funny to our ears. Saying them or hearing them. Is this normal? Do you get used to that? Should we (as I suspect is the answer) just find our own terms?

JerryInTampa -> RE: Names (7/12/2005 11:15:51 AM)
When we are not in the headspace, they sound funny to us too. If you want the trappings, substitute something easer to your ear (from the middle "sir and pet" to the 'nilla sounding "darling and honey"). The PE is about its impact on you. There's no rule that says you have to use one set of words over another. And if they are making you giggle, they are likely coutner-productive.

Isolde -> RE: Names (7/12/2005 11:16:50 AM)
From what I've seen, it seems like a common problem. Some people seem able to overcome it by using the terms until they become familiar and others seem to prefer finding names that better suit them, or are more unique. As someone who can't say 'Master' without breaking into giggles, I tend to lean towards finding something that works best for you so you spend less time breaking the mood and more time having fun. [:)]

EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: Names (7/12/2005 11:30:01 AM)
It's "you" whatever that means, normal or not really isn't important. Some people get used to it some don't. Some people find new terms and some don't. Some just call them by their own names. Do what works best for you.

plantlady64 -> RE: Names (7/12/2005 11:55:46 AM)
Hello There, I'm going through the exact same thing with my Master. I just last week decided I wanted to be his slave and not just his sub. To consider I'm someone's slave is nothing I ever even thought I'd agree to last month, yet this month I ask him if I could be his slave instead of his sub. I wanted to change this on my own without any prompting. It actually came as a shock to us both. To actually tell someone I'm his slave makes me feel very strange indeed, but hey, in the beginning of February I never thought I'd be into BDSM at all & thought people had gone a little nuts to like it. Now I'm proud to be a kinky nut and to be my Masters slave is a huge honor for me. The more you say it the more you'll feel it. In a few months it will be as natural as breathing. Sincerely, sub suzanne

sub4hire -> RE: Names (7/12/2005 1:00:47 PM)
quote: To my slave and I, "master" and "slave" still sound and feel funny to our ears. Saying them or hearing them. Is this normal? Do you get used to that? Should we (as I suspect is the answer) just find our own terms? It is your personal relationship. We should not judge you, you already get judged enough as it is. Just saying you are lifestyle means a few hundred are going to cast judgement if not more. Use whatever is special to you. My dom and I have our own little pet names for one another. Only we use them. Why use "Master" and "Slave" why follow the flock? You're already lifestyle which only proves you don't like following the herds.

perverseangelic -> RE: Names (7/12/2005 3:24:55 PM)
For me, it isn't that the terms sound odd, it's that they descibe a certain identity. While I firmly believe there isn't one way to be master/slave/etc, the terms "master" and "slave" within my partner's and my minds have become associated with a certain type of relationship dynamic. Because that dynamic doesn't jive with ours, we chose to find words for ourselves that matched better. We feel similarly about 'dominant', 'submissive,' 'dom,' and 'sub.' To us, they describe an identity which isn't ours.

darkinshadows -> RE: Names (7/12/2005 4:09:56 PM)
Do what feels right for you. I belong to Demon, and sometimes, I call Him exactly that - to Him, I am His Angel - or even his bunny sometimes - Its how He feels - not what others think I should be. If Master feels wrong or uncomfortable in your dynamic, then don't use it. Find something that you are comfortable with and fits your life. You dont have to conform - just be yourselves. Peace and Love

imtempting -> RE: Names (7/12/2005 5:59:01 PM)
I had to call my Mistress by her Full name. We both knew what it meant. Its all that matters.

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