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RE: What do you hope to gain? - 9/3/2007 8:56:21 AM   
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This was not directed to you in any way IronHorse :)

I have just seen too many profiles start with a rant or whine. Those are the ones I skipped by fast and never looked back. Some things just don't work out, not everyone is compatible. I just come from the ideals that complaining never got anyone anywhere. If you want to do something, do it. If something needs changed, change it. If there is nothing you can do, move on. Life is too short to worry about the small stuff.

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RE: What do you hope to gain? - 9/3/2007 8:57:50 AM   
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The people who complain the most about fakes are the ones who are the most unreal. They complain because they write a sub and don't get an answer, yet alone immediately have the sub at their feet. Plus their expectations are unreal. "You will wear 6" heels at all times". Really? While sleeping, while at the gym, even after you've had foot surgery to repair damage? Yet even when confronted with the impossibility of their fantasy, they refuse to acknowledge it and insist the subs are fake for not doing so.

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RE: What do you hope to gain? - 9/3/2007 8:59:29 AM   
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I write down who I am, regardless of who I am at the moment I'm writing in the journal portion of my profile.  It is all me, in the end all be all.  If I want someone to love me for me, hiding the "bad" or "negative" parts now isn't going to help in the long run.

Why do I speak of the "idiots" who send me stupid email?  Because it is fun.  Same reason we as humans start threads, respond to threads and gossip in day to day life.

If someone chooses not to email me because of something I wrote in my journal or profile then I probably wouldn't click with that person otherwise.  Step saved.

If someone emails me to tell me I'm a bitch or some other random thing because of what I've written.  Then yet another step saved.  He goes to the pile I never email in an attempt to get to know.



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RE: What do you hope to gain? - 9/3/2007 8:59:53 AM   
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I didnt think it was.  I did learn a long time ago to not rant so much on my profile.   I think journal entries are a different thing however. 

Fake, flake, loser, been called them all by people I still see here two years later, visiting 12 times a day.....Hmmmmmm


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ORIGINAL: havingfaith

This was not directed to you in any way IronHorse :)

I have just seen too many profiles start with a rant or whine. Those are the ones I skipped by fast and never looked back. Some things just don't work out, not everyone is compatible. I just come from the ideals that complaining never got anyone anywhere. If you want to do something, do it. If something needs changed, change it. If there is nothing you can do, move on. Life is too short to worry about the small stuff.

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RE: What do you hope to gain? - 9/3/2007 9:00:04 AM   
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I think there's a double standard here. When the guys are complaining about the fakes, I imagine they mean all the women who don't immediately drop to their knees in awe because a dom is gracious enough to write to them -- in other words, they are fakes because they don't conform to his fantasies.

But when women complain about the fakes, I usually figure they mean they guys writing with demands to drop to their knees, call them S/sir, send titty pics (it's only fair after all, because they sent a cock pic) and other nonsense. Of course, the girls are looking for their fantasy doms too and would complain about the fakes who don't meet their expectations if not for the other fakes who are even more annoying.


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RE: What do you hope to gain? - 9/3/2007 9:04:38 AM   
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SirDraco7, once again, with respect, I place positive things in my journals (sayings etc), but I do not choose to have people get to know me by my journal, because as negative as this may sound, I don't believe half of the ones I read here.  I consider a journal as a diary, and I always had one, written out to put my thoughts down.  If someone wants to know about me, all they need to do is ask.

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RE: What do you hope to gain? - 9/3/2007 9:13:56 AM   
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I guess this thread died......lol.....

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RE: What do you hope to gain? - 9/3/2007 9:28:29 PM   
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In response to the OP:

Reading stuff like "are you real, no wannabe's need apply, etc" in profiles is somewhat intimidating for me.  I know I am quite real, but find that when I read such in a profile I am going to have to spend hours on end proving somehow that I am real, so rather than having to justify my existence to someone completely foreign to me I just rather not reply.  

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RE: What do you hope to gain? - 9/4/2007 6:18:12 AM   
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I really don't have a clue what to respond to some of that.  Am I "real"?  What, do I have mass, occupy space...am I a figment of someone else's imagination?  Perhaps you could be more specific about what you are looking for...?

I think people adopt such an attitude out of frustration, which I can sympathize with; I get awfully frustrated here, too.  I'm very much on the wrong end of the "market", and most women here, submissive or otherwise, know that.  Some take it to an unwarranted extreme, which is the frustrating and off-putting part.  It's fine to have certain wants and needs, and communicate them honestly, but when a submissive begins with how you "MUST BE REAL" and must be or not be a dozen other things, "or I will not respond", all caps, underlined, with six exclamation points trailing, then I have my doubts as to how much submitting she really wishes to do, regardless of how compatible we are.

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RE: What do you hope to gain? - 9/4/2007 7:13:08 AM   
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i have seen many (esp from IL) profiles where Doms rant, whine, bitch and moan that are fakes, wannabes, players etc around here ...they're even worse when they bring it to the forums. it goes back to that "barbie sub" fantasy ...they get upset when the "barbie" sub of their dreams rejects their offer of "on your knees now bitch and call me Master" message - so they group all subs/slaves into the same category.

i had one Dom (from IL) whose profile screamed there only fakes and wannabes here viewing my profile - i sent him a message stating i was real and not a fake ...i suppose i wasn't real enough for him.


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RE: What do you hope to gain? - 9/4/2007 11:49:22 AM   
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Negativity sucks...like when doms make their whiny posts....

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RE: What do you hope to gain? - 9/4/2007 12:07:38 PM   
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Seeing  bitches about "fakes" or making calls about authenticity just tend to... bother me.

That said, however, I rather frequently bitch about this or that annoyance on my blog. Why? Because I'm frustrated and it's my blog, damnit, I'll bitch if I want to. :)


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RE: What do you hope to gain? - 9/4/2007 1:10:26 PM   
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Slight hijack...I am being chased about, so to speak, by someone who I said "no thank you" to and he finds me under various names (no profiles to be found anymore) and attacks me almost every time I write a journal entry.  I kid you not, I simply wrote yesterday "I'm happy" and he told me I'm bipolar and as a nurse I should have figured that out myself. 

So, does it really matter what we write? 

While I don't respond to him in hopes he'll simply get bored with me or move on to his next target, if he follows my thread posts I am sure I just opened up one heck of a can of worms....*covers head for protection*

Thanks for the slight hijack *S*

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RE: What do you hope to gain? - 9/4/2007 1:13:28 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: TheIronHorse

That only attracts more flakes and losers......LOL

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ORIGINAL: bandit25

I was waiting for this.  How is saying "fakes need not bother contacting me" going to stop a fake from contacting someone?

I understand that's the intent...does anyone really think it's going to work?



Well damn, if it were that easy I would use reverse psychology and put in my journal," do not want real subs to contact me, only fakes and gamers"

Okay, so I am a little bored today.....mind is sleeping

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RE: What do you hope to gain? - 9/4/2007 6:50:59 PM   
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It doesn't stop them from contacting you but it does make it easier for me to respond. I try hard to respond to all but the most horrible of mails even if that response is: "journal entry xxx day" as the whole response. I have actually made a lot of new friends that way. People read the journal entry, realize they have been sort of silly and I can have an actual conversation. I'm not saying it works in all cases but it works in more then you would think. I also use that to respond to people who have asked  me questions that I have already answered. I really want xxxx will you do this to me? Journal entry xxxx on this date. I have had several people come back to me with "okay I have never thought of it that way" etc.

As for why they are there? Mostly frustration I think that so few people try...combined with my desire to try hard to respond to the people that write.

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ORIGINAL: TheIronHorse

That only attracts more flakes and losers......LOL

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ORIGINAL: bandit25

I was waiting for this.  How is saying "fakes need not bother contacting me" going to stop a fake from contacting someone?

I understand that's the intent...does anyone really think it's going to work?


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RE: What do you hope to gain? - 9/4/2007 7:02:58 PM   
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What I am wondering is how many that responded can answer the question for real? lol

What would us 'reals' know of the motivations of the 'fakes', except from the stand point of putting up with sharing a site with them?

Will the real fakes please stand up?

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RE: What do you hope to gain? - 9/4/2007 8:01:54 PM   
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RE: What do you hope to gain? - 9/4/2007 8:03:43 PM   
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quote:

People read the journal entry, realize they have been sort of silly and I can have an actual conversation. I'm not saying it works in all cases but it works in more then you would think. I also use that to respond to people who have asked me questions that I have already answered. I really want xxxx will you do this to me? Journal entry xxxx on this date. I


Ohhh, I like that idea. Now, if only I can keep track of when I post things to actually point them out.....


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RE: What do you hope to gain? - 9/4/2007 8:04:45 PM   
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ooh I feel better now, thanks Iammachine

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RE: What do you hope to gain? - 9/4/2007 8:05:50 PM   
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quote:



Will the real fakes please stand up?



Fixed that for ya.

Sorry, I couldn't help it.




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