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When your Dom asks you to please another... - 7/12/2005 8:54:39 PM

fourpeas

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My Dom knows about a long-term relationship I had with a woman in the past. Through the years I've come to recognize that I am not bisexual as I thought I once was, but that I have very strong feelings for this girl that I used to be in a relationship with, and that I still have feelings for her and we end up being kissy kissy every time we are together.

I enjoy kissing girls but that is about as far as it goes with me sometimes.

My question is this: I want to know other subs/slaves' experiences of pleasing another person for your Dom, male or female. Even if it is something as simple as getting them a glass of water.

He knows I have a curiosity to go further with women than I have (I've never had sex with a woman) And he wants me to act on this... while he's not here. I've always stalled in this arena because of my desire to be submissive.

Yikes! I want to do it all, ha ha ha.. Any advice would be appreciated.

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RE: When your Dom asks you to please another... - 7/12/2005 9:05:47 PM

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Seriously? You are at a crossroads........... You say he doesn't want to be there......so he gives you carte blanche to test this..........

How you gona act with women............?
Submissive? Domme? Clueless?

How does this affect your relationship with Master? Since he has said.......go and do? Does a command have to be repeated? Know and quit this incessant and convoluted confundity. Apparently he will accept your knowing.................

Find a frame of reference..............perhaps this will quiet or resolve your mind on the subject........

Advisedly (not commandedly),
Ron

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RE: When your Dom asks you to please another... - 7/12/2005 9:22:02 PM

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No no no , let me be more clear:

He knows I have a desire to experience more with women than I have. He also knows that I was in this relationship with a woman for a while and that we never had sex, but that it was more than a friendship.

His exact words were: "I want you to feel free to explore with her if you are so moved."

He hasn't commanded me to do it. Maybe that's the problem. Maybe I'm going to ask him to {please} command me. If it had been a command this post would not be here. I would have been all over that like white on rice.

I know that I could overcome my submissiveness if he asked me to. But right now the situation is sort of a weird one. Maybe it just needs more clarification.

Your post was a little unclear to me... but I am trying to glean from it what I can.

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RE: When your Dom asks you to please another... - 7/13/2005 4:49:42 AM

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Hello There,
I am not bi-sexual. I'm not even bi-curious. I have had full sex with a woman for an old Dom I was devoted to I was seeing before I found my Master. As a sub anything a Dom I submit to and respect asks of me I will try to do to the very fullest of my abilities.
Now I'm a collared slave to a wonderful Master. With him I have no limits, nor will ever use my safe word. If he wanted me to do a whole room full of women for him I would oblige instantly and without hesitation. I know if my Master asks something of me it's either it will bring him great joy, or it's a lesson he feels I need to grow in. If you trust your Master you should do what he asks of you, no matter what it is.
From your letter it seems like you want to cross this line and experiment with her. For some reasons you don't mention, you have reservations even though you have desire. I think your Master feels if he tells you to do this then you won't feel like it was your choice (or fault) and you'll grow the way he sees you desire to grow. You are very lucky to have a Master who not only listens to you, but wants you to be fulfilled.
Again I did a woman for a Dom. I was seriously pussy phobic and so terrified by going down on a woman that when I did it was freezing cold and I was sweating like a pig. It wasn't as bad as I thought it would be, and was actually surprized that it wasn't what I tough it would feel like at all. If you do decide to do this you'll be OK. Just think about it like when you kiss her on the lips, after all it's only skin down there, she doesn't have pussy teeth.
SIncerely,
sub suzanne

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RE: When your Dom asks you to please another... - 7/13/2005 5:45:08 AM

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Good grief, I've served dozens of other tops since I've been with the Owner, from drink getting, to sexual pleasure, to whipping girl, to scene spotter, to clean up person, to bed warmer....pretty much anything except actual long term ownership. Can you be more specific? :)

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RE: When your Dom asks you to please another... - 7/13/2005 9:50:10 AM

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quote:

He knows I have a desire to experience more with women than I have.
His exact words were: "I want you to feel free to explore with her if you are so moved."
He hasn't commanded me to do it.

Perhaps he is not commanding, but suggesting strongly. I do not know your Master's mind. How about you inquire if he can solve the following problem for you? Perhaps that will tip the scale towards action and self-realization?

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Maybe that's the problem.
Maybe I'm going to ask him to {please} command me.
If it had been a command this post would not be here.
I would have been all over that like white on rice.

You have solved your own quandry, no?

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I know that I could overcome my submissiveness if he asked me to.
Maybe it just needs more clarification.

That is what you are doing now, clarifying...finding a frame of reference.

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Your post was a little unclear to me... but I am trying to glean from it what I can.

Unclear by choice as all my posts are.......... try to hand you a little visual........ Then, it's gotta be in you................. You are the one who has Your life.

I think you have the gizmo.................

I wish You and Yours all health, wealth and happiness.

Ron...

Now get out there and kick (lick........whatever) some ass!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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RE: When your Dom asks you to please another... - 7/13/2005 10:03:21 AM

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Maybe he wants you to see if you like it. By him not being there makes me think he does not like it but wants to make you happy.

Off topic. Cool avater mnottertail. Where did you get it from?

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RE: When your Dom asks you to please another... - 7/13/2005 10:49:54 AM

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Dear Imtempting,

It is buried several pages down in the avatars on this very site. I unfortunately cant see it because anymore because of some issue with whatever on my message profile......... (hint hint: Mods can you help? Cant see mine or anyones.) (I am a computer geek in real life and thought it very appropo.

Sincerely,
Ron

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RE: When your Dom asks you to please another... - 7/13/2005 4:37:20 PM

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He knows I have a curiosity to go further with women than I have (I've never had sex with a woman) And he wants me to act on this... while he's not here. I've always stalled in this arena because of my desire to be submissive.

He know's you want to. You want to. He want's you to. Where is the issue?

Is he not pushing you hard enough and needs to push you harder? If so, communicate that with him.

You've stalled in the arena because you are submissive? What do you mean? You've stalled asking him to push you harder?

I'm with the rest, I don't quite get it.

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