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What do you look for in a Master? - 9/3/2007 2:33:44 PM   
howdypardner


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Status: offline 		Hi there!  I'm new to this whole thing, and I'm wondering what different people look for in a master? What makes you want to be with or near that person? Thanks in advance for your answers.
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RE: What do you look for in a Master? - 9/3/2007 3:09:48 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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most important virtues

http://www.collarchat.com/m_158262/mpage_1/key_dominant%252Ccharacteristics/tm.htm#158262
what is dominance?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_81695/mpage_1/key_dom%252Ctraits/tm.htm#81695
What are the signs/traits of a good dom?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_176730/mpage_1/key_dom%252Ctraits/tm.htm#176730
"real doms"

http://www.collarchat.com/m_223089/mpage_1/key_dom%252Ctraits/tm.htm#223089
a submissives perspective

http://www.collarchat.com/m_257771/mpage_1/key_dom%252Ctraits/tm.htm#257771
what I look for in a good owner

http://www.collarchat.com/m_284665/mpage_1/key_dom%252Ctraits/tm.htm#284665
top ten characteristics I want in a dom?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_339652/mpage_1/key_dom%252Ctraits/tm.htm#339652
nature of dominance


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RE: What do you look for in a Master? - 9/4/2007 10:26:40 PM   
bliss1


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Status: offline 		I look for honesty first and for most.
Second I seek a Master who shares my spiritual beliefs (as a pagan and priestess - this makes life more enjoyable for both of us).
I also seek one who values a woman who can hold her own in a conversation and is not afraid of intelligence.
I wish for one who is more interested in the D/s aspect of the life, versus the bdsm aspect.  (Not that I don't enjoy that aspect of the life).
And yes age is a factor - shared life events are helpful.


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RE: What do you look for in a Master? - 9/4/2007 11:06:16 PM   
breatheasone


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Status: offline 		The same traits i would look for in anyone i wanted to be with....You know who you like, and who You don't. Go with what you know, use your common sense, and you'll be fine.

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RE: What do you look for in a Master? - 9/4/2007 11:54:27 PM   
chellekitty


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RE: What do you look for in a Master? - 9/5/2007 2:28:46 AM   
merrysbrat


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Status: offline 		The same traits i would look for in anyone i wanted to be with....You know who you like, and who You don't. Go with what you know, use your common sense, and you'll be fine.

This is a good point. One of my rules is if I wouldn't go out with you if I didn't know you were dominant, I;m not going out with you now. Wanting a dominant does not make a girl throw her standards out the window. (A lot of doms don't realize this)


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RE: What do you look for in a Master? - 9/5/2007 8:31:05 AM   
freyjasdottir


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Status: offline 		The same as I look for in any other aspect of my life.  In fact, my last relationship was with someone I met while I was in Jr high and had no idea the life style existed.  I want someone I can trust and be friends with, everything else is just gravy,

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RE: What do you look for in a Master? - 9/5/2007 9:20:21 AM   
toservez


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Status: offline 		Not to bore or make dominants more noble then other human beings so I will rephrase the OP question to what qualities besides the standard ones we find attractive and good in people in general and expect in people we have relationships with whether romantic or friendships?

My answer is I love a decisive man who is at ease with communicating what he wants and enjoys and has a domineering personality that is out there but does not hide his other qualities from other people.

I also like them kinky and that seems like a duh thing but there are many dominants who are in this life because they enjoy the end results but not necessarily what it takes to get the end results or the enjoyment and effort to keep up the results.



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RE: What do you look for in a Master? - 9/5/2007 10:53:29 AM   
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ORIGINAL: howdypardner

Hi there!  I'm new to this whole thing, and I'm wondering what different people look for in a master? What makes you want to be with or near that person? Thanks in advance for your answers.

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Competence, mostly.

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RE: What do you look for in a Master? - 9/5/2007 11:31:46 AM   
havingfaith


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Status: offline 		Honesty first. Communication, intelligence, and a wicked sense of humor equal to my own. Passionate, caring and devious! Someone who can look me in the eyes and make me swoon. Trustworthy. And a dash of possesiveness that makes me feel special that He wants me to be with Him and Him alone.

i love the fact the i can be open and not feel afraid to talk about something, anything that strikes my mood at the time. Being able to voice my opinion without fear of reprisals, but always respectfully. And someone respectful to me in return.

i am just a very lucky girl to have found all that and more with M. *smiles*

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RE: What do you look for in a Master? - 9/5/2007 11:35:39 AM   
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ORIGINAL: howdypardner

Hi there!  I'm new to this whole thing, and I'm wondering what different people look for in a master? What makes you want to be with or near that person? Thanks in advance for your answers.


What do I look for? Someone who is not afraid to stand up and be a man.

What makes me want to be with or near him? There is no one thing; its the overall presence that he has.

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RE: What do you look for in a Master? - 9/5/2007 12:07:59 PM   
mmb1


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RE: What do you look for in a Master? - 9/5/2007 12:12:42 PM   
gypsyssoul


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communication ...
is for and formost for me ..
i need to know that not only will He hear
what i say with my words .. but also when its
just  my soul and body talking ..
 
~~ gypsy


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RE: What do you look for in a Master? - 9/5/2007 12:39:11 PM   
michelleryder


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RE: What do you look for in a Master? - 9/5/2007 12:52:59 PM   
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< Message edited by Dominatist -- 9/5/2007 12:55:47 PM >

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RE: What do you look for in a Master? - 9/5/2007 12:55:19 PM   
mmb1


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Status: offline 		True, honesty, able to communicate outside and I emphasize off line:), compatibility, devotion, dedication.........and the list goes on and on, but let's not forget unconditional love :)

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