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RE: If your Dominant released you - 9/4/2007 12:02:43 PM

breatheasone

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What a horrible position to be put in by someone who supposedly "loves" you! Love means working together to overcome obstacles, not pressuring the person to make a major life change that may not even be possible at this time. Why is the Dominant so willing to let love slip through His/Her fingers? It appears the Dominant is being manipulative and attempting to place the burden of sustaining the relationship squarely on the submissive's shoulders. If so, your friend should walk away and never look back. It would be easier to give an opinion if more details about the situation were given here, but your friend may be looking at a blessing in disguise.

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I could not have said this better myself....nicely put.

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RE: If your Dominant released you - 9/4/2007 4:48:45 PM

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Thank you to everyone for their replies. I've sent her the link of responses and though it is her decision alone (even I cannot hold sway) I think it is interesting to view the differing perspectives.

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RE: If your Dominant released you - 9/4/2007 5:09:11 PM

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I met my Sir online. I fell in love with him almost immediately and he with me. However, he made if very clear from the beginning that he wasn't doing an online relationship or even a LDR for longer than it took for us to be free from our existing lives and be together. It wasn't easy, but I had to follow my passion and be with the him. When it's right you do what you have to do to be together. Online is no way to live.

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RE: If your Dominant released you - 9/4/2007 6:51:29 PM

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It does sound a bit like an ultimatim (sp?); however, i am wondering if there is a reason the Dom is issuing one. Has your friend made promises to get her life in order to be with him in the past and she has not? Does he view her as dragging her feet to be with him? i do not necessarily think this is entirely his issue or wrong on his part, nor do i think that ultimatims are always bad. Just my .02 worth. (There are almost always two sides to every story).

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RE: If your Dominant released you - 9/4/2007 9:20:31 PM

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ORIGINAL: NefertariReborn

Let Me preface this by saying that NO I'm not talking about Me! So don't ask for more information. I'm sorry it's the personal problem of a real friend and this is as far as I want to go. Yes, We do actually have some of those *grins* I'd like some input on this scenario. All perspectives are welcome.

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If your Dominant (you've met and bonded, deep feelings exist but you live very far apart) decided after some time that maintaining the relationship online until some arbitrary date in the future was unfulfilling. you are confident of the fact that He/She loves you but won't do online. If the Dominant decided to release you given those circumstances but gave you the option that if you could get your life together and move nearer or even in house that your place with Him/Her was assured, no ifs, no ands, no buts. What would you do? Why?

Why wouldn't my life have been together in the first place? Is it some prerequisite that says because a submissive is unable to relocate that it must somehow be because her life is in the toilet?

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RE: If your Dominant released you - 9/5/2007 4:01:44 PM

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i thought i would put in my two cents because i am in the process of making that exact transition. my Owner lives 2 states away from me, and i will be moving to Him. i have been actively seeking employment in His city, and can, and will pack up and leave at the drop of a hat.

For me, there was no question that i would go to Him...but there was also no question, in my mind, that i just couldn't live apart from Him anymore.

This is truly an individual, situational issue that many face. There really is no "right" answer in this situation. i hope that your friend will take some time and do some soul searching and she'll find the right answer.

Good luck to both of you.

My sentiments exactly. I would not have entered an LDR or online relationship unless I knew we'd be together in real life. I did a lot of thinking before I clicked the "willing to relocate" box, let me tell ya.

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