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My master can't Make me orgasm - 7/13/2005 7:53:53 AM   
ColdLittleGirl


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Status: offline 		he trys so hard but its impossible, i feel like iv let him down, it feels good and everything but nothing happens. my master has even let me try to bring my self to cum but i cant do it either, does anyone else have this problem? can anyone please help me my master is getting anoyed, not at me but at him self and i hate to see him unhappy
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RE: My master can't Make me orgasm - 7/13/2005 8:00:37 AM   
imtempting


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Status: offline 		Can you orgasm without your master present?

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RE: My master can't Make me orgasm - 7/13/2005 8:05:16 AM   
EmeraldSlave2


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Status: offline 		Yes, your issue is very common unfortunately. I was unable to orgasm until I was 18 despite daily masturbation and many sex partners. The Owner hasn't given me an orgasm, but then he doesn't try, when he wants me to get off I am able to masturbate now to do it.

There have been other threads on this. Please don't make yourself feel bad because of your body and I hope for anything that your dom isn't making you feel bad or making this some symbol of control over you. Orgasms are very tricky and personal and the more you make it an "issue" the harder and unnecessarily painful it will be.

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RE: My master can't Make me orgasm - 7/13/2005 8:08:13 AM   
plantlady64


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Status: offline 		Hello Little One,
Don't be so hard on yourself, or in such a hurry to grow up. It's actually very common for a young lady not to be able to achieve orgasms. I'm 41 now and can get off over 30 times in an hour and a half, but I never got off at all till I was about 25. Sometimes it takes you getting comfortable with your body and it's functions, and sometimes it's hormonal.
Be patient with yourself, it will happen in time. It's nothing you can force or rush. I think the best advice I can give is don't focus on the goal so much. Just relax and feel good without requiring yourself to cum as your goal. Make your goal to enjoy the sensations you share with your lover, not to have to orgasm to prove his skills or your ability to feel pleasure to either of you.
If you have a good man he should be able to accept this concept too.
If you want data to back it up, you can find information by searching the web in google, or aks jeeves. It's a very common problem & not as rare as you probably think.
Sincerely,
sub suzanne

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RE: My master can't Make me orgasm - 7/13/2005 8:08:15 AM   
ColdLittleGirl


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Status: offline 		iv never orgasmed in my life

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RE: My master can't Make me orgasm - 7/13/2005 8:14:32 AM   
plantlady64


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Status: offline 		Hello Again Little One,
Another thin I can recommend is buying a shower massage shower head and making the pulse hit you right on your clit button. It's the most intense feeling I've ever felt. If any stimulation will work to let you feel what an orgasm feels like this could be it. BE careful to not let the other pulse streams hit you right at your urethra opening, as you don't want to get water in your urinary tract.
Sincerely,
sub suzanne

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RE: My master can't Make me orgasm - 7/13/2005 8:14:51 AM   
Heinz


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Status: offline 		Do not focus on your deepist desire. Just enjoy his tuching and feel yourself save. Plat together and find out what effects most on you.

Master Heinz

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RE: My master can't Make me orgasm - 7/13/2005 8:22:43 AM   
ColdLittleGirl


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Status: offline 		thank you so far for your help it very kind

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RE: My master can't Make me orgasm - 7/13/2005 8:29:26 AM   
RandBcouple


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Status: offline 		i've never been one to orgasm easily either... for the first time, at 31, i am finding it much easier now than ever. My Master knows my body well and is able to bring me to orgasm but this (orgasms) has been an issue for me in the past as well.

One thing i suggest, really try not to make it such an issue...the more you think about it, and the more pressure you put on yourself the least likely it will happen. As others advised you already, just enjoy your sessions, try not to think about orgasms at all...the more relaxed you are, the more you let yourself go the easier it will be to orgasm.

Another thing, in my previous relationship this was a problem...he felt bad about not being able to bring me to climax, i hated the fact that he would make such an issue of this, it added so much pressure that i believe that made it even harder for me to enjoy myself and just be able to orgasm.

Sex can be just as pleasurable for a woman without the orgasm...sure, we all like to have that sensation, but i think some men might feel as if they aren't satisfying their woman if they aren't bringing her to orgasm all the time...which i believe not to be the case at all.

the best of luck to you and your Master : )

~hugs~
Babygirl

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RE: My master can't Make me orgasm - 7/13/2005 8:35:55 AM   
EmeraldSlave2


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ORIGINAL: RandBcouple
the more relaxed you are, the more you let yourself go the easier it will be to orgasm.

That's not necessarily true, I was always being told this when I couldn't orgasm and it would drive me crazy. I can orgasm now, but when I orgasm I need intense focus, I need time and pressure very accurately and precisely, I need to KNOW it's not going to stop so I can allow myself to orgasm.

Now, EMOTIONALLY, yes I need to be able to let go. Orgasms for me are very emotionally tied and if I'm not comfortable in my surroundings, or secure with who I am with, it doesn't matter what else happens, an orgasm isn't.

But physically, it takes a LOT of time, pressure, precision and deep focus on my part.

However, I can still enjoy the hell out of sex without worrying about the orgasm.

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RE: My master can't Make me orgasm - 7/13/2005 8:39:44 AM   
ColdLittleGirl


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RandBcouple


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RE: My master can't Make me orgasm - 7/13/2005 11:45:44 AM   
fastlane


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Status: offline 		Be patient ColdLittleGirl
In time, it will cum!

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Just because it hurts, doesn't necessarily make it a bad thing.

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RE: My master can't Make me orgasm - 7/13/2005 12:43:58 PM   
CitizenWolf


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If you want an answer from a medical/biological point of view then here it is.

The human body (especially the female human body) does not come equipped for orgasm. It's something that develops over time. Many women in particular find it frustrating that they may not be able to reach orgasm at ages between 18-25 but it may in fact be due to their body not developing the proper nerve pathways that are required. If you still can't after 25 then you may want to seek medical help, but at your age it's very very common. An ex of mine from a few years ago was 18 when I met her and she had a very hard time with it and never could through intercourse. We'd go at it forever and nothing would happen. Orally I could get her there easily, but it's easier to focus on specific body parts using that method.

Like others have said, be patient it will happen. If your dom puts you out because he's frustrated then it's his own inadequacies which caused your relationship to fail, not the fact that you can't "finish"

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RE: My master can't Make me orgasm - 7/13/2005 1:00:23 PM   
poesraven8


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iv never orgasmed in my life


I'm very sorry to hear that. Maybe a sex therapist can help you. I know from some medical training I've had that some medications like anti depressants inhibit the sex drive.

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RE: My master can't Make me orgasm - 7/13/2005 8:11:35 PM   
glassdoll


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Status: offline 		as a strange little tip, make shore your cooch is completely shaven before atempting one. have you tried oral? vibrators? porn? eatting oysters?

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RE: My master can't Make me orgasm - 7/13/2005 9:15:08 PM   
imtempting


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ORIGINAL: glassdoll

as a strange little tip, make shore your cooch is completely shaven before atempting one.


What does that have to do with having an orgasm?

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RE: My master can't Make me orgasm - 7/14/2005 12:01:18 AM   
pandoravampire


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Status: offline 		at the risk of sounding crass............

imagine a clitoral hood, clouded in skin and hair, now strip the pussy, and the power is switched up a few hundred volts for a while there, at least till tuesday for me.

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RE: My master can't Make me orgasm - 7/14/2005 6:07:13 AM   
CitizenWolf


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quote:

ORIGINAL: imtempting

quote:

ORIGINAL: glassdoll

as a strange little tip, make shore your cooch is completely shaven before atempting one.


What does that have to do with having an orgasm?



A lot of women have issues with hair being pulled inward during penetration and the pain nerves offset the pleasure nerves negating the entire process. That and direct skin to skin contact generates more response because hair acts as a boundary.

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RE: My master can't Make me orgasm - 7/14/2005 8:51:47 AM   
glassdoll


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Status: offline 		thank you for answering. and you know, it's just easier to have one.

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RE: My master can't Make me orgasm - 7/14/2005 8:53:23 AM   
glassdoll


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quote:

ORIGINAL: pandoravampire

at the risk of sounding crass............

imagine a clitoral hood, clouded in skin and hair, now strip the pussy, and the power is switched up a few hundred volts for a while there, at least till tuesday for me.


hey, it works for me. sorry you find fault in it.

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