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ORIGINAL: Jinger

A girl just told me that I mad her a submissive because I'm so mean. Do you think being grumpy, guarded and critical = dominant? I don't.

My attitude made her submissive, she thinks.

Or could it be that she was simply shy and timid all the time? Or perhaps, just a twit?

Either way the girl annoyed the hell out of me, following me around with a school girl crush.
Yuck.

Perhaps to her being a submissive is one who cries out for abuse. I suppose there are folks who are inclinded to believe that, but I follow a different school of thought.

There have been at least three people over the year or so who don't think of me as a submissive because of my willful nature. I am defiant, and I do enjoy a challenge. Is that wrong?

My submission is that of pleasure, I aim to please. If you want me to do something I'll probably do it. I could even do it in a french maid outfit. The terms in which I do things aren't important to me as long as I'm satisfying the other person. My needs are secondary, at best.

But there's a catch. Here's where my defiance flares up. If you walk into a room and we meet for the first time and you tell me to get naked and kneel in a corner? I'm going to say no. I'll look you in the eyes, with a stern expression and say no. Or maybe even "no way." Does that make me less of a submissive? Maybe...but then again the people who claim this behavior as un-submissive have never known what to do next.

Is it really that I am not a submissive? Or that they are not dominant enough?

Is it wrong of me to ask to be tamed first? Some dominants don't want that hassle, they want pure immediate obedience. But what's the fun in that anyhow?

You don't even have to try hard, I don't think to win me over a little. Challenge me to something, and if I lose I submit. See? It's a game!

And oh how nice it would be to recieve my submission. You have no idea.
rarr.

If you had to make a basic comparison you might compare me with cats and dogs. A dog is likely to immediately enjoy your company. You feed it a treat, you play with it. Bam. Relationship!

Anyone who owns a cat knows the rest.

I dislike dogs.


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Now that you've read that. What do you think? Am I acting out of line? Or just right?

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ORIGINAL: Jinger

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Asking them to tame you first does come across as needing to be forced. If that's not what you meant, please clarify

What I meant was that I'm naturally untamed, I've always had a tenuous relationship with authority, and unless I'm inspired by the right amount of oomph, then I'm not going to respect whoever is telling me what to do.
I won't ask any dominant party to tame me, directly. But I never make it easy for them. Saying I'm untamed is more me coming to terms with who I am than "hey, tame me if you can!"
On the other hand, I've always thought that it's fun to have a challenge for both sides. But I'm more inclined toward the latter concept.