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sublizzie -> What's more important? (9/5/2007 11:25:16 PM)
If you could have a relationship where there was pure D/s with no sexuality involved, but a lot of emotional attachment, would you take it? Say you're a het female submissive would you be willing to submit to a gay male dominant even knowing there would be no sexual interaction at all? (This is truly hypothetical, not something I'm dealing with in my own life. Just was wondering about that kind of dynamic lately.)

chellekitty -> RE: What's more important? (9/5/2007 11:27:57 PM)
will there be BDSM involved and will i be able to fufill my sexual needs elsewhere?

sublizzie -> RE: What's more important? (9/5/2007 11:56:58 PM)
Meeting sexual needs elsewhere would be a given or something negotiated so the Dom would find a way for them to be met. S&M or bondage would probably depend on the dynamic, but I would assume someone would not get involved in a relationship that did not contain those aspects if they were wanted.

chiaThePet -> RE: What's more important? (9/6/2007 12:18:45 AM)
i suppose a part of my being as a submissive would be fulfilled, but as i am also a sexual submissive, there would have to be an agreement that i would be allowed that sexual outlet. i think that if it is to be a long term relationship, i would seek one whom would accept me sexually as well. To role play or partake in a particular scene where there is no sexual nature implied would be possible in the short term with limited satisfaction. However, i'm a shameless hussy, and i would most certainly begin a complex and spirited campaign of seduction to help said Dominant realize what it is they would be missing. chia* (the pet)

bandit25 -> RE: What's more important? (9/6/2007 3:26:58 AM)
Good topic. I don't think it would work for me...certainly not on a long term basis.

imtempting -> RE: What's more important? (9/6/2007 3:33:17 AM)
Its a simple fact of life everyone wants sex. Its why domme's and doms do orgasm denial etc. They know the sub wants it so they withold it untill they want to allow it. Its why people pay to go to pro dommes for so that when they get home they can either have sex with their other or play with themselves thinking of it.

Twicehappy2x -> RE: What's more important? (9/6/2007 3:51:05 AM)
No way. My sexuality is totally tied to the my submission. I've tried sex with someone who was not my dominant partner and i might as well have been hanging dry wall. In a M/s relationship i can never get enough of my Master so that would not work for me at all.

feastie -> RE: What's more important? (9/6/2007 4:01:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sublizzie If you could have a relationship where there was pure D/s with no sexuality involved, but a lot of emotional attachment, would you take it? Say you're a het female submissive would you be willing to submit to a gay male dominant even knowing there would be no sexual interaction at all? (This is truly hypothetical, not something I'm dealing with in my own life. Just was wondering about that kind of dynamic lately.) Nope, not for me. For me, it's about the significant relationship in my life. He is my lover, my friend, my confidante, my partner, my sounding board, my helpmate and ...oh yeah...my dominant.

came4U -> RE: What's more important? (9/6/2007 4:30:42 AM)
no cock? omg, hell no! helllllll no!

Twicehappy2x -> RE: What's more important? (9/6/2007 4:42:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: came4U no cock? omg, hell no! helllllll no! I'll see you that hell no and raise you a no fucking way and an Amen!!!!!! ROFLMMFAO.........

kittensmailbox -> RE: What's more important? (9/6/2007 4:46:34 AM)
i would do it.... My former Master could not have an erection…

Littlepita -> RE: What's more important? (9/6/2007 4:49:52 AM)
I wouldn't do. For me sex and submission are intimately tied to my Dom, who I love and therefore willingly submit.

e01n -> RE: What's more important? (9/6/2007 4:55:52 AM)
eh, it's 50/50 for me... This new relationship that I'm exploring, I'm the Third in this couple, but the agreement is that only the couple has intercourse unless approved by all parties... So: Might Not - the potential exists, so I'm encouraged. If that potential didn't, I don't know if I'd be so eager. Might - I'm cool with it enough to pursue it on the strength of the relationship alone.

petdave -> RE: What's more important? (9/6/2007 6:08:45 AM)
As long as they were sadistic and an enthusiastic bondage Top as well as being Dominant, sure. My sexual-sexual needs are fairly minimal. If i could "only" express an emotional attachment through submission, it wouldn't be a big hardship, although i'd miss the touching.

sexyred1 -> RE: What's more important? (9/6/2007 6:18:40 AM)
No way. My submission is sexual, so that would not work.

mbes -> RE: What's more important? (9/6/2007 6:44:07 AM)
I wouldn't take the deal. When I feel "deep emotional attachment" of that variety, I wanna get laid! [:D] Sexuality has always been a big part of my life, I wouldn't want to commit to someone with whom I couldn't express it.

xoxi -> RE: What's more important? (9/6/2007 7:04:29 AM)
Nooooo way. And none of this 'alternative sexual outlet' stuff either...the man I love is going to be the same man I share a bed with. In all ways. Casual sex = bad sex in my opinion. There's no intimacy and no intensity of sharing emotions and truly being able to expose yourself because you're with someone who you trust, love, and cherish. I don't even enjoy random cock now, if anything I would find it even less fulfilling if there were a man who I actually loved. No random cock could compare.

Stephann -> RE: What's more important? (9/6/2007 7:27:29 AM)
Shoe on the other foot, I don't think I'd be happy long term, with a slave I couldn't enjoy sexually. Sexuality is such a deeply ingrained element of my passion, which is (in large part) why I express my passion through D/s and BDSM oriented interactions. Stephan

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: What's more important? (9/6/2007 7:28:27 AM)
I could handle a relationship without sex or sexuality. I couldn't handle not having ANY relationships with sex or sexuality.

arayofsunshine55 -> RE: What's more important? (9/6/2007 7:30:36 AM)
Nah. This is all about sex for me. I am really not service-oriented although he would disagree.

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