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Is it learnable - 7/13/2005 5:26:33 PM   
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(Im not sure were else to ask this, so feel free to move it if this is better placed elsewhere)

My Master has mentioned serval times in the past, and again recently that He wishes He could make me squirt (if theres a better term for that, please correct me). Thats not something ive ever thought to myself 'wow i wanna do that' but if it would make Him happy, sure why not, i'll try it once at least.

I was wondering, is that something that can be learned/taught to do, or is it something either you can or cannot do? If it is a learnable thing, could someone please educate me? Master thinks "that would be hot" and i really wanna be able to do something new to please Him.

Thanks for your time and help!


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RE: Is it learnable - 7/13/2005 5:37:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		Physiologically, any women should be able to. Psychologically is another story.

In my experience, you have to be able to completely abandon yourself to your orgasm in order to ejaculate. You need to completely relaxed and let yourself go in the moment.

I'll be completely honest, the sensation that you get when you are about to ejaculate is the sensation that you need to pee. And that is normal because it is liquid that is accumulated in the same area and the swelling of your paraurethral glands does put pressure on the urethal area. But it is not urine but rather an alkaline fluid (well this is sometimes debatable). The thing is, you have to abandon yourself to that sensation and in essence "let yourself pee" but you won't be peeing, you will be ejaculating. In fact, many women have an urge to go to the bathroom shortly after sex and I'm not unconvinced that it isn't in part a draining of the paraurethral glands.

This is my favourite website that explains female ejaculation - http://www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/ejacula.htm. It is highly informative and there is a section near the bottom that is all about learning to ejaculate.

For the record, I ejaculated for the first time at 17 while masturbating without even knowing what it was. I though there was something seriously wrong with me for about 2 years before I talked to my doctor about it and then read books about it.

Good luck and remember that what will hinder you more then anything is pressure, especially self-imposed pressure.

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RE: Is it learnable - 7/13/2005 5:38:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		Absolutely, very few people just naturally start to ejaculate.

HAve a good partner and lots of towels, like anything, be patient and just have fun with it.

Try having your partner stimulate you a lot on or above your g-spot in your vagina. I've never done serious research on it, but I know it's a matter of stimulating the glands inside to secrete fluid.

Flex back and forth over the area and see what happens. I'm sure someone else can give firsthand experience or a more thorough explanation.

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RE: Is it learnable - 7/13/2005 5:50:19 PM   
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I'm sure someone else can give firsthand experience or a more thorough explanation.


She did. A minute before you posted ;)

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RE: Is it learnable - 7/13/2005 5:53:50 PM   
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RE: Is it learnable - 7/13/2005 6:00:05 PM   
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ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2

:P I was distracted with IMs.


Uh huh. So blaming it on me huh?

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RE: Is it learnable - 7/13/2005 6:01:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		...just one little tidbit of info not already provided (but maybe within the link Lady Angelika provided)

For me, if the area right behind the pelvic bone (about the length of the middle finger hooked) is stimulated I am able to ejaculate. This is not every time, but at times.

Good luck & have fun with the practice, I can think of worse things to do... LOL!

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RE: Is it learnable - 7/13/2005 6:06:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		I guess it's a different spot for all of us. I guess it might depend on how our G-spot is positionned. Mine might be low... I have ejaculated from penetration only once, and to be fair, it was after a lot of clitoral stimulation. Clitoral stimulation will almost always do it, and with my talented boy in particular, absolutely every time.

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RE: Is it learnable - 7/13/2005 6:28:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		My Master wants me to learn the same thing. I have been told that I can do it, just takes some time and practice. Someone told me that its easier when you build up to a climax and then stop, and do it again several times. When you finally release, its a bigger buildup and will help with "squirting".

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RE: Is it learnable - 7/13/2005 6:29:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		That is why I said "for me".

Each woman is different as far as stimulation & g-spot it seems. I actually have two areas that seem to be pretty much a constant as far as orgasmic stimulation is concerned. I have also noticed that during penetration sex I have a spot that seems to travel around to other areas... just about the time it is found & utilized... :-)... off to another area.

Searching for the g-spot & new areas of stimulation & orgasm is great for partners. Good luck to the OP & all the other ladies out there in their own explorations. Even if you think you have it all figured out, you will find new ways if you just keep experimenting.

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RE: Is it learnable - 7/13/2005 8:02:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		Thanks you all so much for all the input!

LadyAngelika - I will definately take a look at the link You gave in the morning when i'll actually sit and read it all. i've only serious let myself go completely during an orgasm once, and that was only very recently (i think my holding back was bc of 2 years faking it with my last parnter... lol) so hopefully i will be able to abandon myself more in the moment as suggested, which with Master shouldnt be to difficult :)

EmeraldSlave2 - Thank you for your input. Yes, towels are probably a very good idea lol Master has become very good at quickly finding my g-spot and stimulate it till im begging for release lol

perfection20005 - Master builds me up and refuses me release on an almost constant basis. It deffinately builds up to one hell of an orgasm! lol I can see how doing that repeatedly on and off could be helpful to 'squirting'

One of the other main concerns i have with the whole 'squirting' issue is, im afraid i would feel totally embarrassed. i know it is something He would like me to be able to do, but i'm already such a self concious person, i dont know if i can actually let myself go that much... i know that is an issue i have to overcome myself, but thats why practice and patience are best i suppose.

Thank you all again so much for all your input, its been truly helpful!!



(i just love how i dont get emails telling me ppl replied like im suppose to! lol sometimes i do, sometimes i dont, meh..)

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RE: Is it learnable - 7/13/2005 10:05:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have experienced it, with someone who is not only "Good", but also someone I really trusted.I can't explain it...But, I will
say...It has to do with my G spot & I always bring fresh towels
to bed.

Wanted to add...I think that it is auto for some women, but I also think it
could be learned.


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RE: Is it learnable - 7/13/2005 11:54:17 PM   
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quote:

For me, if the area right behind the pelvic bone (about the length of the middle finger hooked) is stimulated I am able to ejaculate. This is not every time, but at times.


Using my index and middle fingers on this spot is the best way I know of producing an orgasm with full-body writhing and ejaculation. Your partner needs to learn with you.

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RE: Is it learnable - 7/14/2005 5:03:59 AM   
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That is why I said "for me".

Each woman is different as far as stimulation & g-spot it seems.


I got that. My post was an addition, not a correction.

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RE: Is it learnable - 7/14/2005 5:07:28 AM   
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One of the other main concerns i have with the whole 'squirting' issue is, im afraid i would feel totally embarrassed. i know it is something He would like me to be able to do, but i'm already such a self concious person, i dont know if i can actually let myself go that much...


There is no reason to feel embarrassed. Trust me, I know all about it. For the 2 years or so that I didn't know what was going on, I held back orgasms for fear of making a mess.

However, when you understand that ejaculation is part of a healthy, female sexuality and that it is your body expressing ultimate release, bask in it, enjoy it, be that fountain of ecstasy ;) Your Master will probably find you absolutely beautiful when you do. I know that after 10 months, it still awes my boy.

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RE: Is it learnable - 7/14/2005 6:25:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		Thank You so very much for all Your kind words LadyAngelika

and i thank You all that have put input in and being so helpful :)

no i'm off to read the link LadyAngelika gave in her first reply :)

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RE: Is it learnable - 7/14/2005 7:06:55 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MasterzKitten

Thanks you all so much for all the input!


One of the other main concerns i have with the whole 'squirting' issue is, im afraid i would feel totally embarrassed. i know it is something He would like me to be able to do, but i'm already such a self concious person, i dont know if i can actually let myself go that much... i know that is an issue i have to overcome myself, but thats why practice and patience are best i suppose.

Thank you all again so much for all your input, its been truly helpful!!




There is nothing to be embarrassed about. Its something that your body does naturally, and should be considered "normal". I do wish you luck, and just let go girl!!!

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RE: Is it learnable - 7/14/2005 7:25:15 AM   
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Status: offline 		op, i wish all women could do this or would take the time to learn. For that matter, all men should be aware of the potential for women to do so when properly stimulated and learn the basic techniques, then the specific buttons to push with their partner. i think it's hot. Don't be embarrassed. i, like your master, find this ability in a woman to be a turn on.

i'm still using training wheels so can't offer any valid advice from a personal experience standpoint. Hope you get over any inhibitions and have fun with it.

Go girl!

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RE: Is it learnable - 7/14/2005 8:08:53 AM   
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Status: offline 		For the most part.........it is pushing rather than clamping when you come.........like the lady said.........lotsa towels because somewhere deep down in that cumbucket you call a brain you are afraid of pissing all over is all........abandon yourself like she said. And if by some inconcievably miniscule chance you actually did piss all over, think of how humiliating that would be for you and how satisfying for Master.

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RE: Is it learnable - 7/14/2005 8:15:27 AM   
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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

For the most part.........it is pushing rather than clamping when you come.........like the lady said.........lotsa towels because somewhere deep down in that cumbucket you call a brain you are afraid of pissing all over is all........abandon yourself like she said. And if by some inconcievably miniscule chance you actually did piss all over, think of how humiliating that would be for you and how satisfying for Master.

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Ummm no I didn't say get towels in case you pee instead of cum- I said towels because when you ejaculate it's messy and wet and a lot of fluid! It might FEEL like pissing, which is what makes it somewhat uncomfortable and weird for people just starting it, but it's a totally different thing.

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