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TheIronHorse -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/7/2007 7:07:44 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: louisfceline To the Laies, If a sub contacts You and You decide not to respond, is it appropriate for the sub to try again a later time? LFCeline Whether One is swamped with emails or not, I believe that a polite "not interested" is required for all but the most inane introductions. Good will goes a long way towards negating the "Jerry Springer Show" mentality as CM is commonly referred to lately. How you present yourself to other people will (or will not) provide a model for those when they go to contact someone else. If you're unwilling to respond to a thoughtful introduction, you're simply not worthy in the first place.

lovetokissnylons -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/7/2007 7:46:58 AM)
If you attempt to contact someone, and then they respond with a "thank you," and then you write them back (politely, or at least that's the intent) and you find that they've blocked you, I guess you can assume that they're not all that into you, yes ?

greyarcher315 -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/7/2007 8:02:52 AM)
i have to agree with TheIronHorse, if one recieves an email, it is only polite to at least send out a "not interested". i can understand ignoring one liners and people who don't read profiles, but if some one sends a respectful, thought out email, there should be a response, even if it takes time to get to it. i personally won't send a second email if no response is recieved. If they are too busy, its probably not a good time for them to be trying to start a relationship anyway. Of course, i am looking for a LTR, not a one nighter....

TheIronHorse -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/7/2007 9:21:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lovetokissnylons If you attempt to contact someone, and then they respond with a "thank you," and then you write them back (politely, or at least that's the intent) and you find that they've blocked you, I guess you can assume that they're not all that into you, yes ? I've written numerous people only to get nothing in return. I see many dominants demand long, drawn out introduction letters. All that does is encourage one to write form letters. In your particular instance, I say, move on to greener pastures.

iammachine -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/7/2007 9:23:17 AM)
quote: If you're unwilling to respond to a thoughtful introduction, you're simply not worthy in the first place. That assumes there was a thoughtful introduction in the first place. [;)] One liners don't count, neither do obvious form letters, imo.

TheIronHorse -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/7/2007 9:23:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: greyarcher315 i have to agree with TheIronHorse, if one recieves an email, it is only polite to at least send out a "not interested". i can understand ignoring one liners and people who don't read profiles, but if some one sends a respectful, thought out email, there should be a response, even if it takes time to get to it. i personally won't send a second email if no response is recieved. If they are too busy, its probably not a good time for them to be trying to start a relationship anyway. Of course, i am looking for a LTR, not a one nighter.... It is my opinion that many are reduced to merely a list of criteria. It's becoming a numbers game, fishing with a hand grenade.

SuspendedInGaffa -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/7/2007 11:51:53 AM)
Speaking for myself, if I cold contact someone and don't get a reply, I just move on. Sending a follow-up seems rather desperate. I'm not running around after someone I don't even know, however interesting they may have made themself sound. If they were busy, maybe they'll work their way through the list eventually.

TheIronHorse -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/7/2007 12:21:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SuspendedInGaffa Speaking for myself, if I cold contact someone and don't get a reply, I just move on. Sending a follow-up seems rather desperate. I'm not running around after someone I don't even know, however interesting they may have made themself sound. If they were busy, maybe they'll work their way through the list eventually. I do believe that if you respectfully extend yourself out to someone in an email, you're entitled to a response in kind. It's not about acceptance or rejection, it's about being polite. Treat others as you wish to be treated.

e01n -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/7/2007 12:44:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: louisfceline: If a sub contacts You and You decide not to respond, is it appropriate for the sub to try again a later time? No. Not responding to you IS a response.

SuspendedInGaffa -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/7/2007 12:44:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TheIronHorse I do believe that if you respectfully extend yourself out to someone in an email, you're entitled to a response in kind. It's not about acceptance or rejection, it's about being polite. Treat others as you wish to be treated. I agree, and I do just that. The only mail I've so far received that I never replied to was from a Russian woman who just said "hello"; it looked rather too much like a spam trap to me. Having said that, it's easy from where I sit. I'd imagine female dominants get 100x the mail male subs do.

TheIronHorse -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/7/2007 1:10:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SuspendedInGaffa I agree, and I do just that. The only mail I've so far received that I never replied to was from a Russian woman who just said "hello"; it looked rather too much like a spam trap to me. Having said that, it's easy from where I sit. I'd imagine female dominants get 100x the mail male subs do. New scammers come and dont often stay long. I can usually pick out the suspect profiles right away. If it doesnt look right, its probably not. I am sure they do, and my thoughts on that are an entirely new message thread. LOL.

MizzElle -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/7/2007 1:33:35 PM)
I don't reply to messages if it's clear the person hasn't read my profile, I am unable to understand them, or they have nothing interesting to say. People who are rude, crude or make some attempt to put me down get blocked instantly.

burningdesires47 -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/7/2007 1:34:07 PM)
I ignore a lot of meaningless crap I get form people. If I've gotten a really rude or inappropriate email I may respond to tell them such, but a lot of time I'll pull up their profile, type something like "lazy first contact" in the notes section, and keep them unblocked. Or, if they've offended me, I write how, sometimes including the email itself in my notes, and block them (I include the notes because blocking them doesn't usually actually block them). That way I can delete the email, or if they email me again in more than 6 months--the timeframe that CM deletes emails!--then I can remember why I blocked them. Also, if I have added someone on yahoo IM or something, I put their IM SN in those notes. Then if I block them from yahooIM, if they email me again on CM (which happens about half the time, when they don't even realize who they're talking to) I check my block list for that SN and if it's there I send them a really mean email (along the lines of hello you're a moron, I told you I'm blocking you, that means I will file harassment charges if you continue to contact me!) All that being said... if I don't respond, I sure don't want an email whining about how I didn't respond. I cannot stand that. If I get a polite second email along the lines of, hey I was wondering if my last email got lost in the ether, then I will very nicely respond with my reason for not being interested. Simply because I appreciate the fact that they obviously thought enough of me to remember they sent an email, and to be eagerly awaiting a response, and also because I appreciate the effort at being polite. I had family in from Scotland for a week and I got a new email just as I was leaving here one day. I really liked the initial email, I didn't have time to respond right then but I had the email left up on my screen so I would get to it next time I had a chance, because he really impressed me and I wanted to take the time to compose a proper response. By the time I got back the next day, I also had a scathing email in my inbox about how I'm a fake and "enjoy your falling stock" and various other non-standard-english words that made no sense even in context. I was like WTF??? HOW RUDE CAN YOU GET?? Another tip I'd have is that if you ask for an IM name once and it's not given, DON'T ASK AGAIN. Just don't. The first time, I'll ignore the request in my response out of politeness by not saying hey rude fucker you don't get it yet, but if the person keeps pressing for it, they get the block. I don't care if IM is more immediate, give me a reason to give you my personal information! Sorry apparently that got me a little more fired up than I expected. Good luck with emailing girls! Edit: yay typos!

TheIronHorse -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/7/2007 1:41:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MizzElle I don't reply to messages if it's clear the person hasn't read my profile, I am unable to understand them, or they have nothing interesting to say. People who are rude, crude or make some attempt to put me down get blocked instantly. I have read your profile and I cant imagine anyone being impressed enough to actually write you a thoughtful email. By your very own profile, you WILL attract wankers and losers, for that, the rest of CM thanks you, as it keeps them out of our hair.

SuspendedInGaffa -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/7/2007 1:45:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: burningdesires47 Sorry apparently that got me a little more fired up than I expected. Actually, it sounded perfectly reasonable and lucid to me. But what did you mean by "blocking them doesn't usually actually block them"?

burningdesires47 -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/7/2007 2:02:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SuspendedInGaffa But what did you mean by "blocking them doesn't usually actually block them"? I mean that I block people and still get emails from the same profile but when I go back to check, it's blocked. I've contacted CM support about it a couple times, they say just to unblock then reblock and see if it takes, but still it's frustrating when I have someone being REALLY rude and downright abusive toward me and I cannot get the emails to stop.

MistressRouge -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/7/2007 4:56:06 PM)
Yes, they mail me again and again, the same pests lol quote: ORIGINAL: louisfceline To the Laies, If a sub contacts You and You decide not to respond, is it appropriate for the sub to try again a later time? LFCeline

TheIronHorse -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/7/2007 5:12:47 PM)
OK, I tried to perform an edit, but somehow I wound up with a new message. Please disregard.

TheIronHorse -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/7/2007 5:21:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: burningdesires47 quote: ORIGINAL: SuspendedInGaffa But what did you mean by "blocking them doesn't usually actually block them"? I mean that I block people and still get emails from the same profile but when I go back to check, it's blocked. I've contacted CM support about it a couple times, they say just to unblock then reblock and see if it takes, but still it's frustrating when I have someone being REALLY rude and downright abusive toward me and I cannot get the emails to stop. If you have a blocked person contacting you continuously, check the date they registered.. It's easy to delete a profile and recreate it. That will circumvent the CM blocking feature.

goddessAVA -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/7/2007 5:53:17 PM)
I don't believe in blocking, I will swap insults with the best of them....I love the hit and runs, they send an obnoxious email but block me immediately so the pussies don't have to read my response, either way I win! Send me the f****ers emails, I'll give them something to contend with!

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