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Friends - 9/6/2007 5:58:08 PM

curiouspet55

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Hi everyone,

I rarely (never) start my own threads...so hopefully this is in the right place.

I'm a younger girl, 19 years old, and I'm relatively new to everything here. I need a friend in the lifestyle. I am a college student, and I don't share this aspect of my personality with my friends. Half of my friends here don't even drink, let alone would understand D/s. Those who I might tell, I can't trust to keep it a secret and not cause drama. Maybe someday, but not right now.

Anyhow, lately I've been thinking about things and I want someone I can talk to about all of this who isn't a potential Dom. I want to be able to share my happiness with a female friend, near my age or not (nearer may be better, but whatever, if you're nice), and know she knows where I am coming from. Balancing the different mentalities, meeting people off the net, how much is too much to share...I need someone to talk to and "gossip" with like I would my female friends at school, only D/s friendly.

So...anyone want to be friends? I'll give you a cookie?

This is probably a bit pathetic, but I don't really know how else to meet friends on here respectfully.

cp55

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RE: Friends - 9/6/2007 6:03:23 PM

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I am not trying to presume anything, and she might be very busy, I dunno, but caitlyn is in college, too - so is CuriousLord (and he already has a GF, if I am not mistaken, and I am not sure how he'd feel about it, or how his GF would but) - those are possibilities anyway, maybe. Maybe you coud just drop them a line, and inquire if they have time to talk and-or write a bit?

If they are very busy (Curious Lord is taking something like 24 credit hours this semester), there will be others here who are not as busy, and have time to write to you, I am pretty sure.

In any case, I am sure there are at least a few people here who you could pal around with, at least online, maybe. I am in my late 40's, on the other hand, and not what you are looking for. Just trying to help.

You may want to also check the thread on the General Discussion message board here at CM right now titled: "For Those Under 30" (or whatever it's called - it is something like that).

There will maybe be some other college students (or people in your age bracket) there also. Just post a comment on that thread, to let other people there get to know a slight bit about you - and some will probably write to you. And-or, read some comments on that thread, to find people there you might want to write to, and take it from there.

Good luck.

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RE: Friends - 9/6/2007 6:06:16 PM

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post. at some point per haps you will make friends,,,,

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RE: Friends - 9/6/2007 6:09:51 PM

curiouspet55

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I can do that. Thanks for the advice, both of you :).

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RE: Friends - 9/6/2007 6:10:40 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: curiouspet55
Hi everyone,
I rarely (never) start my own threads...so hopefully this is in the right place.

I'm a younger girl, 19 years old, and I'm relatively new to everything here. I need a friend in the lifestyle. I am a college student, and I don't share this aspect of my personality with my friends. Half of my friends here don't even drink, let alone would understand D/s. Those who I might tell, I can't trust to keep it a secret and not cause drama. Maybe someday, but not right now.

It's wise to be prudent at this point. And it's wise to seek out advice (esp from folks who don't have a vested interest or prejudice).
Heck ... many of my friends don't know of my predilections ... OTOH, lots of straight friends know I'm a Dom. One friend of many years was very negative about BdSm and derided me for years as a sicko ... but under my patient guidance, he's now very much a competant & responsible Dom who's had a couple of long-lasting consensual BdSm relationships.

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Anyhow, lately I've been thinking about things and I want someone I can talk to about all of this who isn't a potential Dom.

Not a potential Dom could include Doms that aren't potential, eh? I'm sure you could find a lot of Doms who you would not consider for any of many reasons (distance, age, lives with his mother, likes sex with shoes, etc :-)

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I want to be able to share my happiness with a female friend, near my age or not (nearer may be better, but whatever, if you're nice), and know she knows where I am coming from. Balancing the different mentalities, meeting people off the net, how much is too much to share...I need someone to talk to and "gossip" with like I would my female friends at school, on D/s friendly.

So...anyone want to be friends? I'll give you a cookie?

What kind of cookie?

quote:

This is probably a bit pathetic, but I don't really know how else to meet friends on here respectfully.

Actually ... it's an intelligent move. Wish you the very best in finding someone who interests you for this position. I'm sure you'll have lots of volunteers closer to your age, your choice of gender, etc. And, when you do ... be selective.

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RE: Friends - 9/6/2007 6:25:26 PM

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Hi there, I just wanted to commend your intention. I think that its a great idea to seek out a "pal" to gossip with like a normal mate. Being that Im half a world away Im not really a good candidate but I thought maybe suggesting muches in your local area as a way of meeting some nice D/s friendly folk? You'd be supprised whom you might stike up a friendship with.

I am fortunate that here in Australia we have quite a strong Under 30's scene and a dedicated yahoo mailing list for such too. 2 of my best friends are from this group.... Maybe something like that would exist in your neck of the woods.... and if not.... maybe take the initative to create it. After all I am SURE your not the only younger person feeling this way.... that is the sole reason our group exists and has about 30 or so active members (and about 100 on list total)! If you wanted to get some info on how to start it up for your area or see what ours is all about then drop me a mail on the other side and I'll hook you up.

All the best,
Monique.

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RE: Friends - 9/7/2007 4:20:37 AM

pahunkboy

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ADomDoc

quote:

ORIGINAL: curiouspet55
Hi everyone,
I rarely (never) start my own threads...so hopefully this is in the right place.

I'm a younger girl, 19 years old, and I'm relatively new to everything here. I need a friend in the lifestyle. I am a college student, and I don't share this aspect of my personality with my friends. Half of my friends here don't even drink, let alone would understand D/s. Those who I might tell, I can't trust to keep it a secret and not cause drama. Maybe someday, but not right now.

It's wise to be prudent at this point. And it's wise to seek out advice (esp from folks who don't have a vested interest or prejudice).
Heck ... many of my friends don't know of my predilections ... OTOH, lots of straight friends know I'm a Dom. One friend of many years was very negative about BdSm and derided me for years as a sicko ... but under my patient guidance, he's now very much a competant & responsible Dom who's had a couple of long-lasting consensual BdSm relationships.

quote:

Anyhow, lately I've been thinking about things and I want someone I can talk to about all of this who isn't a potential Dom.

Not a potential Dom could include Doms that aren't potential, eh? I'm sure you could find a lot of Doms who you would not consider for any of many reasons (distance, age, lives with his mother, likes sex with shoes, etc :-)

quote:

I want to be able to share my happiness with a female friend, near my age or not (nearer may be better, but whatever, if you're nice), and know she knows where I am coming from. Balancing the different mentalities, meeting people off the net, how much is too much to share...I need someone to talk to and "gossip" with like I would my female friends at school, on D/s friendly.

So...anyone want to be friends? I'll give you a cookie?

What kind of cookie?

quote:

This is probably a bit pathetic, but I don't really know how else to meet friends on here respectfully.

Actually ... it's an intelligent move. Wish you the very best in finding someone who interests you for this position. I'm sure you'll have lots of volunteers closer to your age, your choice of gender, etc. And, when you do ... be selective.

You hereby are awarded pahunks informal post of the day award. Eloquent and good post! Congrats!

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RE: Friends - 9/7/2007 4:49:29 AM

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my D/s mentor is 30. i forget her age when we are chatting. she lives quite a distance away but we chat on yahoo at least 4 times a week. i have learned so much from her. you might want to reach out to other ages. my experience in D/s is only 8 months old. so pretty much still a babe in the woods. you can send me messages here and i will listen and share if you would like. best of luck.

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RE: Friends - 9/7/2007 8:20:08 AM

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Your friends might surprise you. Many of the straight laced types are very wild in their personal and fantasy lives- oh and I don't drink either.

But that's up to you. I personally am not friends with people I cannot be who I am completely with, I think it does us both a disservice.

However, you have to go at your own pace. At your age really, you are the MOST free you will ever be to find new people and be able to be "out" without many consequences. Do some net searches for kinky groups and clubs in your area, and there's lots of people on here to talk with.

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RE: Friends - 9/7/2007 1:27:39 PM

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I'm always willing to be friends, but truth be told, I'm not really part of the D/s lifestyle ... only a sensation player with people I date. I'm not even a heavy sensation player ... I like a little hard spanking and light bondage, but can happily leave most of the rest behind (OK, there are a few other things I like, but I'm not saying).

I don't want a Master ... I'm not a puppy (no offense to Masters, slaves, or puppies intended). I live in Texas ... everyone above the age of 40 gets called Sir or Ma'am, until they tell me to call them something else (no offense to anyone not living in Texas, Sirs or Ma'ams, intended).

But ... you're more than welcome to email, and I will write back.

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RE: Friends - 9/7/2007 3:33:13 PM

chellekitty

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jeeeeze what am i? chopped liver? what about MadRabbit? chopped bunny? we're young too...
anywho...email me on the otherside, i'll even give you my messenger id and we can talk instantaneously...wow...

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RE: Friends - 9/7/2007 3:39:37 PM

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I wish you well curiouspet and I must say it always strikes me as odd that someone so young can be aware of wanting something different than that which is presented as what should be the norm.
Not wrong just odd. I hope you find you mentor.

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