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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

For me, personality has NOTHING to do with your orientation.  Your orientation is how you want the dynamics in your personal intimate relationships to work, nothing less, nothing more.

I submit because it's how I am with my personal intimate relationships.  It has nothing to do with any other relationships I have with anyone else.

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ORIGINAL: Tarantuladoll

    First off, allow me to say hello from the male half of the Tarantuladoll profile.  I usually go by Rigel online.

   I am a little new to the BDSM scene, and usually describe myself as a switch.  However (as my wife seems to have posted a few times already), we have lately discovered that I seem to take more enjoyment as being the submissive in the relationship.

   Now, I have heard some terms thrown around by the general population such as "submissive personality" and "easily dominated" which are usually stated in terms of an entire person.  To me, that seems an oversimplification.   For example, I do not have what most would consider a submissive personality.  I tend to dominate my other relationships (friendships, ect) and am used to being in charge. My last job was a fire team leader in the military.  My current job is similar but different (and the reason I do not have a picture online).

   Now, I  have also heard the idea thrown around that people in high-stress jobs seek submission as an escape.  Again, I'm not sure that is true.  I  enjoy the authority and responsibility in my life.  And as my relationship is  with my wife  I am not really sure that would qualify as an escape. 

   So my question to all of you submissives is this:  Why do you submit, and how does it fall in line with the rest of your personality / relationships / life / job.

                                                                      ---Rigel