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Concerns/questions about anal stretching - 9/8/2007 12:39:02 PM

SubJordanTyler

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My question is mainly for the female dominants who have/had male subs where a lot of anal play has been invovled.

I was heavily involved in anal play and stretching, and as a result, I've been pretty much completely stretched out. I haven't yet have any problems from it (i.e. leakage), but I have a feeling that will be coming in the near future - especially if I continue with this type of play.

Now don't get me wrong - I am not complaining about my condition. I always knew this was a very possible consequence of this and it was discussed with my previous Mistress. Once I said I would accept whatever happened, she went and had her way with me - and this is where I am now. I also desire, if I am collared again, to continue to do this play, which may result in that problem occurring.

So my question(s) to the dominants is - have you ever had a sub/slave where anal play was taken to the point where it resulted in leakage or other problems of being unable to hold things back on a daily basis?? If so, what did you do regarding the sub and his condition?? Would you ever agree to play with a sub in such a manner to where this could be a result?? And would you take on a sub who is already in this condition??

I'm very much interested in the opinions/feelings of the female dominants, but anyone else is free to chime in on this topic - especially any subs who may be, or have been, in this situation. Thanks.

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RE: Concerns/questions about anal stretching - 9/8/2007 3:33:44 PM

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As long as you don't mind wearing Depends, you should be okay.

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RE: Concerns/questions about anal stretching - 9/8/2007 3:50:38 PM

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There are kink friendly doctors, and doctors within the community. I have attended two BDSM conventions that had a seminar for Ask A Dr Anything. In addition to responses here, I would seek advice from a kink friendly doctor. I would consider the information in the responses here incomplete if it is based on experience alone and not on medical expertise.

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RE: Concerns/questions about anal stretching - 9/13/2007 5:47:07 AM

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I agree, you need to speek with a doctor about this. Although getting advice from this form will mostlikly point you in the right direction, almost all responses will be based on hearsay. Repeating what others may have said.

With that said, I still hope people respond.

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RE: Concerns/questions about anal stretching - 9/13/2007 8:46:23 AM

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yeah, um...as a (forget dominant even, how bout just) woman...I don't want my ward in that condition. There is nothing in this world that would make me choose to deform his body in such a way that he would be required to rely on a physician to try to "fix" him or wind up incontient of bowel for the rest of his life. Selfish beyond reason in my mind.

Accidents happen...but you are suggesting this is the point or the known and desired outcome...I can't agree even under RACK with this one.

Would I take on a sub like this? no. To me, for him to allow this condition to happen was his own fault and no one else's thus he may not be the sharpest tack on the cork board. Not interested.

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RE: Concerns/questions about anal stretching - 9/13/2007 6:17:30 PM

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How far would you have to be stretched for leakage to occur? Would fisting cause it, possibly, or would it have to be stretched more than that?

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RE: Concerns/questions about anal stretching - 9/14/2007 8:14:32 AM

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We are looking into anal stretching but are concerned about becoming 'loose'- i'm not concerned about him losing control of bodily functions, but of becoming too loose for enjoyable anal sex for the top. If anyone can help me who knows from experience if this is an issue, or any advice that would be great.

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RE: Concerns/questions about anal stretching - 9/14/2007 9:35:19 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: earthycouple

yeah, um...as a (forget dominant even, how bout just) woman...I don't want my ward in that condition. There is nothing in this world that would make me choose to deform his body in such a way that he would be required to rely on a physician to try to "fix" him or wind up incontient of bowel for the rest of his life. Selfish beyond reason in my mind.

Accidents happen...but you are suggesting this is the point or the known and desired outcome...I can't agree even under RACK with this one.

Would I take on a sub like this? no. To me, for him to allow this condition to happen was his own fault and no one else's thus he may not be the sharpest tack on the cork board. Not interested.

I agree with D completely. Also, I want my boy to shine and be the best he can be. And I aim for him to be in better heart and health with/after me than before me in his life. A sub that is content and maybe even excited for his health to be sacrificed for the Domme is not pleasing to me in the least - so would be a terrible match. No, I would not take on a fella who had been down this path.

Finally, for myself the reality of incontinence is no joke. I take care of my elder parents and until recently my 94 year old gran. The incontinence has been truely dibilitating and has significantly decreased the quality of life for my loved ones and has increased the level of care I have to provide. It is a whole lot of work and ultimately painful (skin degradation is a challenge) and extremely liniting for the incontinent person.

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