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MidnightMaiden -> RE: What made you realize who you are? (10/26/2007 9:10:46 AM)
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I was not born with a submissive nature. I questioned everything. I rebelled against my parents fiercely. Almost every political and socio-economical belief that they hold, my beliefs are the opposite. My father was a racist, I abhor racism. My father felt that all "greenies" should be taken out on the Rainbow Warrior and shot, I am environmentally aware. My father hunted his own food and was cruel to animals, I am a vegetarian.
My mother is very passive by nature and I despised that in her. She never stood up for me, never stood up for herself, never believed in anything with passion and conviction. I am passionate about many things, not afraid to voice my opinions, not afraid to take a risk, not afraid to be wrong.
"Slave is a term often used in BDSM to connote a specific form of submissive.
Connotatively it refers to highly committed domination and submission (commonly abbreviated as D/s) relationships, as a person who has surrendered their personal property and freedoms to another, who has become the property or chattel of their owner(s). This term is widely used, as it has a certain self-affirming weight.
Some practitioners feel the difference between submissive and slave is the degree of submission. However, many who are involved in master/slave relationships see the difference as one in kind, not in degree. In particular, some slaves do not have a naturally submissive personality, but simply choose to surrender their will and volition to another." http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Slave_(BDSM)
I approached this lifestyle with the mindset that I would be a submissive in sex play. I never intended to be a slave. To me they are very different.
A submissive has a dominant partner who gives them a directive. With every order they receive they have the right to say no, they have the right to choose. By being submissive they are saying they are willing to accept punishment for saying no, or they have an established safe word in place to let their partner know that they objected to the task that was set to them. But at every exchange they still have the power to say no. Please, before you post and disagree with this, I repeat that this is simply my view, not written in stone and brought down from the mountains by Moses.
A slave surrenders their right to say no to their Master. They surrender their body, mind and spiritual wellbeing into the hands of their Master for safekeeping. They become their Master's property, collared and branded as such. They have no rights save for those their Master grants them. The only choice a slave has is the very first choice they make, that of entering into service in the first place. There are no safe words, instead there is trust. Complete and absolute trust.
I spent many years studying the pagan ways, attending rituals and rites performed in a circle under the moon. As each participant entered the circle, they were greeted by the priestess and annointed, and upon stepping over the barrier would say "With perfect love and perfect trust".
I didn't get that until now. I am my Master's Slave. He has awakened me. It's not about the sex at all.
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