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allenjj -> Thoughts on Humiliation (9/10/2007 11:11:28 AM)
I assume many of the people reading these boards enjoy humiliations – either inflicting them or being subjected to them. Do you have any favorites? If you enjoy inflicting them, what are your preferred methods of achieving humiliation? If you enjoy being subjected to them, what’s your most desired humiliation, or humiliations? Have any of you fantasized about humiliations that you want to do, but have never done, either out of fear or lack of opportunity? What are they?

jaxnsax -> RE: Thoughts on Humiliation (9/10/2007 11:16:35 AM)
Greetings I am not that much into being humiliated J That is not to say that it does not happen; I just don’t get off on it. I will admit though that I get a kick ( not in the sexual sense ) out of seeing others get humiliated. But then I am warped in that sense. jaxon

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Thoughts on Humiliation (9/10/2007 11:24:48 AM)
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softness -> RE: Thoughts on Humiliation (9/10/2007 11:25:00 AM)
i always have a really hard time with humiliation .. i have a rhino hide when it comes to being made to feel small or uncertain .. (occupational hazard) and when i get my vulnerable buttons pushed i tend to go on the offensive have only ever had one time where i was actually through the floor humiliated in play .. i was a cringing ball of shame at his feet .. and it was so intense i cant even recall how he got me there

toservez -> RE: Thoughts on Humiliation (9/10/2007 11:34:33 AM)
I am a huge fan of humiliation play. One of the reasons why I enjoy it is that the many things done in the realm of humiliation play are so mental and personal that for me they become very strong reminders of my place in our relationship and it is that feeling of power exercised over me that is my main fetish.

CreativeDominant -> RE: Thoughts on Humiliation (9/10/2007 11:52:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: allenjj I assume many of the people reading these boards enjoy humiliations – either inflicting them or being subjected to them. Do you have any favorites? Yes, I do. [:D] quote: If you enjoy inflicting them, what are your preferred methods of achieving humiliation? That is a very subjective thing. What makes one submissive feel deep, intense humiliation of the sort that makes her soaked or brings out a deeper level of submission or, as toservez puts it, emphasizes the dynamic could be the same thing that another submissive sees as degradation and, therefore, inappropriate. If you enjoy being subjected to them, what’s your most desired humiliation, or humiliations? Have any of you fantasized about humiliations that you want to do, but have never done, either out of fear or lack of opportunity? What are they? I would love to do watersports with a submissive who found it humiliating/exciting in both the sexually arousing manner and as an emphatic reminder of the D/s dynamic. There are others but I will leave those be for now...[;)]

submittous -> RE: Thoughts on Humiliation (9/10/2007 12:20:25 PM)
For me as a Dom, the effect and enoyment from humliation comes from the slave, not my preconcieved ideas of what will be humliating to her. I require open and completely honest journalling on a daily basis to have insight into what and when will be the right times and activities to pursue radical humiliation. I don't think it is gonna work to get some strangers ideas for humiation and applie them to yourself... You have to do your own homework and honest introspecion Bill

Dom87110 -> RE: Thoughts on Humiliation (9/10/2007 1:06:18 PM)
I do not employ any one method to humiliate (in that, it is much like I perform punishment). Humiliation and punishment are extremely subjective for the recipient and therefore need to be customized to the recipient's propensities, weaknesses, self-awareness, history, phobias, fears and negotiable limits. One course of umiliation that may work for one girl that will make her want to hide in a hole, will leave another entirely unphased.

jssubc -> RE: Thoughts on Humiliation (9/10/2007 1:21:18 PM)
quote: for me they become very strong reminders of my place in our relationship and it is that feeling of power exercised over me that is my main fetish. Wish i could have phrased it that eloquently. i admit that i am addicted to humiliation. There are many acts that i dislike (golden showers come to mind) but really excite me in a humiliation/power exchange. Having my "place" demonstrated to me is an incredible turn on.

hardbodysub -> RE: Thoughts on Humiliation (9/11/2007 9:25:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: jssubc quote: for me they become very strong reminders of my place in our relationship and it is that feeling of power exercised over me that is my main fetish. Wish i could have phrased it that eloquently. i admit that i am addicted to humiliation. There are many acts that i dislike (golden showers come to mind) but really excite me in a humiliation/power exchange. Having my "place" demonstrated to me is an incredible turn on. I'm with you both. My humiliation stems from being coerced into an activity or position that I would normally dislike, and it's exciting as a manifestation of her control over me. It's a reminder and a display of her power, and my helplessness. It also creates a kind of feedback loop. The awareness that I'm being erotically excited by something I don't like makes it even more humiliating than the act itself. That intensifies my excitement, and reinforces her control, which is what excites me most in the first place. Whew!

AFlyInYourWeb -> RE: Thoughts on Humiliation (9/11/2007 10:54:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: jssubc quote: for me they become very strong reminders of my place in our relationship and it is that feeling of power exercised over me that is my main fetish. Wish i could have phrased it that eloquently. i admit that i am addicted to humiliation. There are many acts that i dislike (golden showers come to mind) but really excite me in a humiliation/power exchange. Having my "place" demonstrated to me is an incredible turn on. Well put...both posts. I couldn't agree more, or say it better.

RRafe -> RE: Thoughts on Humiliation (9/11/2007 10:57:01 AM)
It really depends entirely on the makeup needs and issues of those involved. And no, I'm not going to provide you with wank fodder.

ChicagoSwitchMal -> RE: Thoughts on Humiliation (9/11/2007 11:16:26 AM)
I enjoy both humiliating and being humiliated depending on what 'zone' I'm in. How I humiliate is really relationship dependant and I get my clues as to what works for her from her. As far as being humiliated - it's very specific. I like to be laughed at and ridiculed while I masturbate for masturbating. That's only happened a few times in my life but it was quite intense each time.

ownedgirlie -> RE: Thoughts on Humiliation (9/11/2007 2:07:37 PM)
Reposting two things I wrote on Humiliation in previous threads: One must be very careful when introducing this kind of activity to a submissive/slave, as degradation does have the potential to be very damaging. Not everyone can participate. The nerves that are struck are very raw and run very deep. I think this is why others have such a difficult time viewing and understanding humiliation - they can only relate to it with a personal reference. Playing with ones emotions is tricky and delicate, with lots of room for grave error. A submissive must really trust his/her dominant and must have a solid sense of self confidence and self esteem before traveling too far down that path. It is not for everyone. And Humiliation exposes me to my core, stripping down all walls and barriers. The pain draws me even closer to him. Debasement rips me open and leaves me raw, and portrays an honesty between us that is undefineable. It makes me grovel, and crave, and plead, and cling. And my love and need ever grows. As for specific activities, those are for my Master and I to explore. I can't think of any activity in this category which I won't do for him, and he has presented some extreme ones.

RRafe -> RE: Thoughts on Humiliation (9/11/2007 2:41:44 PM)
The only valid way I can see of doing this is with the express idea of increasing the depth of acceptance partners have for each other. There really is a lot of trust involved with letting someone play with your head this way............it takes a lot of story telling and understanding to make it flow-rather than shatter. In short-it's a poor choice for those who's kink is brute force-finesse will make it far more successful.

ownedgirlie -> RE: Thoughts on Humiliation (9/11/2007 2:52:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RRafe The only valid way I can see of doing this is with the express idea of increasing the depth of acceptance partners have for each other. There really is a lot of trust involved with letting someone play with your head this way............it takes a lot of story telling and understanding to make it flow-rather than shatter. I couldn't agree with this post more, especially the part I highlighted.

toservez -> RE: Thoughts on Humiliation (9/11/2007 2:58:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RRafe The only valid way I can see of doing this is with the express idea of increasing the depth of acceptance partners have for each other. There really is a lot of trust involved with letting someone play with your head this way............it takes a lot of story telling and understanding to make it flow-rather than shatter. In short-it's a poor choice for those who's kink is brute force-finesse will make it far more successful. Sorry but this is a to each their own thing and just because you do not enjoy it or know/heard people who cannot handle it does not go into a “should only be done” or “look out this is dangerous” type distinction. Sorry but this plays into projecting worse case scenarios and personal images of play. This play is no different then others and is based on both people being able to handle it and knowing themselves. Of course this play is not for everyone and has risk. EVERY type of play is not for everyone and has risk. Why is it that people in this life can talk about giving and inflicting physical pain without these types of judgments clogging up the works. After all, there are huge mental issues at work in that type of play as well. Sorry it can be to learn but it can also be just great fun, just like all the kinks discussed on here!

Grlwithboy -> RE: Thoughts on Humiliation (9/11/2007 3:00:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: toservez quote: ORIGINAL: RRafe The only valid way I can see of doing this is with the express idea of increasing the depth of acceptance partners have for each other. There really is a lot of trust involved with letting someone play with your head this way............it takes a lot of story telling and understanding to make it flow-rather than shatter. In short-it's a poor choice for those who's kink is brute force-finesse will make it far more successful. Sorry but this is a to each their own thing and just because you do not enjoy it or know/heard people who cannot handle it does not go into a “should only be done” or “look out this is dangerous” type distinction. Sorry but this plays into projecting worse case scenarios and personal images of play. This play is no different then others and is based on both people being able to handle it and knowing themselves. Of course this play is not for everyone and has risk. EVERY type of play is not for everyone and has risk. Why is it that people in this life can talk about giving and inflicting physical pain without these types of judgments clogging up the works. After all, there are huge mental issues at work in that type of play as well. Sorry it can be to learn but it can also be just great fun, just like all the kninks discussed on here! I agree. It's the same as with most casual bottoming - if you bottom casually, just know that YOU have to do your own aftercare. If you top casually just know that YOU 1. have to do your own and 2. can't do the other person's so if you're going to worry about them it may not work well for you. If you're up for it, go for it, have fun. Know yourself and you should be OK.

Helios001 -> RE: Thoughts on Humiliation (9/11/2007 3:05:21 PM)
I have mixed opinions on humiliation. I'm not one to be too "out there" when it comes to my fetishes, and even when it comes to the grind, I prefer to be a bit tamer than others might be. I think that instead of "humiliation" I'd prefer to use "shame."

ownedgirlie -> RE: Thoughts on Humiliation (9/11/2007 3:20:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: toservez Of course this play is not for everyone and has risk. EVERY type of play is not for everyone and has risk. Why is it that people in this life can talk about giving and inflicting physical pain without these types of judgments clogging up the works. After all, there are huge mental issues at work in that type of play as well. Sorry it can be to learn but it can also be just great fun, just like all the kinks discussed on here! I didn't really see a negative judgment in that post, actually. I saw a concern that humiliation could cause emotional damage if not handled correctly. I'm usually not one to where a Safety Police cap, either, but I guess having been mishandled in the past with this activity has made me particularly sensitive to it. Perhaps because of my own past issues I'm incorrectly biased in thinking there is a greater risk at fucking up someone's head by telling them what a skank pig they are, than by hitting them with a paddle. In sincere honesty, I had not considered it.

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