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What do you do when your master is making bad decisions... - 9/10/2007 9:05:52 PM   
Twice


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Status: offline 		Currently, Ducky has not slept in 2 days and I can't get him to go to sleep.  I have to stay up late to study and he says he'll stay up until I go to sleep.  But I really need to be up, and I don't know what to do about it.  He's stubborn, and I want what's best for him, too.  :(

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RE: What do you do when your master is making bad decis... - 9/10/2007 9:11:18 PM   
Evanesce


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Status: offline 		What do I do?  I say the Kaptin is a grown man, and He knows where the bedroom is. 

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RE: What do you do when your master is making bad decis... - 9/10/2007 9:18:06 PM   
Twice


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Status: offline 		I guess I just worry a lot.  I love Him so, and I want Him happy in every way, and I worry that his physical needs aren't being met.

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RE: What do you do when your master is making bad decis... - 9/10/2007 9:23:32 PM   
Emperor1956


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Status: offline 		FastReply:  Your concern is touching, but unnecessary.  "Ducky" will sleep when he needs to.  No one ever was harmed by voluntary sleep deprivation.  I wouldn't let him drive however until he gets a good night's sleep.  And if I were you two, I'd work on toning down the drama level of the relationship.  If this upsets you, when something real and bad happens, where will you be?
 
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RE: What do you do when your master is making bad decis... - 9/10/2007 9:26:03 PM   
Twice


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Status: offline 		We don't really have drama... just a lot of mutual worry/concern.

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RE: What do you do when your master is making bad decis... - 9/10/2007 9:27:20 PM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		If his bad choices were affecting me I'd say look your free to make stupid choices, but not when it affects me and we'd discuss it, and if he didn't stop making choices that directly affected me I'd get bitchy about it. But that's just me. I am allowed to do that in my relationship.

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RE: What do you do when your master is making bad decis... - 9/10/2007 9:38:37 PM   
celticlord2112


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Status: offline 		If he's just staying up because of you...relax.

If he's not sleeping at all...that's cause for concern.  The human body needs sleep on a daily basis.




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RE: What do you do when your master is making bad decis... - 9/10/2007 10:05:06 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Pick your battles, this isn't one that needs fighting.

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RE: What do you do when your master is making bad decis... - 9/10/2007 10:57:16 PM   
arayofsunshine55


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Status: offline 		I'm not his mother.  And although I call him DAddy, he is not my father.  We are both grown adults.  And get to love with our decisions and their consequences.  Would I state my concerns?  Yes.  But unattached to the outcome cause he gets to make decisions for himself.  and learn from them.  Or not.  His life.  And most often I get the same respect from him.




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RE: What do you do when your master is making bad decis... - 9/10/2007 11:14:19 PM   
subjected2006


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Status: offline 		Like someone said..."pick your battles"
This really doesnt seem to be a big problem,yet.
Maybe you are savvy enough to see it better than us/him, huh?
If his income or health  is suffering from it..then it would be a problem because IMHO if he cant master his sleep requirements it doesnt seem to bode well for future endeavors.
Otherwize..why don't you just relax and enjoy his attention?
It's not like you will be in school forever..right?
hugs..enjoy your time together..stop worrying kiddo.
Really.

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RE: What do you do when your master is making bad decis... - 9/10/2007 11:24:31 PM   
MstrSkyWoIf


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Twice

We don't really have drama... just a lot of mutual worry/concern.


worry / concern = stress and bad health

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RE: What do you do when your master is making bad decis... - 9/11/2007 3:48:51 AM   
Drifa


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Twice
Currently, Ducky has not slept in 2 days and I can't get him to go to sleep.  I have to stay up late to study and he says he'll stay up until I go to sleep.  But I really need to be up, and I don't know what to do about it.  He's stubborn, and I want what's best for him, too.  :(


If you can stay up, it won't hurt him either. But if you're cramming with no sleep, you'll learn faster and better if you get some rest in there.

My Lady has that little girl thing of not wanting to go to bed because! So there! It's adorable and annoying as hell all at once.  She will fall asleep in her recliner in front of the TV instead of getting up and going to the comfy bed.  So I check on her and wake her up and get her tucked into bed when she does this, even if it means being grumped at for being a mother hen.... but she won't say no to a nice foot-rub with warmed lotion, and it will entice her to lay down and then put her soundly asleep every time.

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RE: What do you do when your master is making bad decis... - 9/11/2007 1:30:20 PM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		Night's when we can't or shouldn't sleep because there's something to do, we try to lie down with the other one for twenty minutes and get up after they've gone to sleep. If you are afraid you'll fall asleep and you need that hour of work, set the alarm for an hour earlier in the morning and study then. But we still lie down together for a while.

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RE: What do you do when your master is making bad decis... - 9/11/2007 2:22:25 PM   
agirl


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Status: offline 		I'd do absolutely nothing. Any decisions he makes for himself are nothing to do with me. He's a very big boy.

agirl

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RE: What do you do when your master is making bad decis... - 9/11/2007 2:40:48 PM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		I'm in agreement with those who have said they do nothing.  My Master makes his own decisions about himself.  I might tell him I am concerned by something he does, and he'll either say OK, acknowledging the concern and going about doing what he is doing, or he'll ask why.  But if he chooses to stay up, that's his choice.  I voice any concern once and only once or it's considered nagging.

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RE: What do you do when your master is making bad decis... - 9/11/2007 6:55:14 PM   
Rayne58


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My Master has insomnia, and rarely comes to bed before 2-3am sometimes later. Early on in our relationship I tried to stay up to be with Him but it quickly became impossible (I need my sleep!). So He began sending me off to bed at about 11pm after I'd made His supper and got His meds and made sure He would be ok while I slept. Sometimes I wake when He comes in, sometimes not.

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I'm in agreement with those who have said they do nothing. My Master makes his own decisions about himself. I might tell him I am concerned by something he does, and he'll either say OK, acknowledging the concern and going about doing what he is doing, or he'll ask why. But if he chooses to stay up, that's his choice. I voice any concern once and only once or it's considered nagging.


That's how things work here too.....Master is a big boy and He has looked after Himself for many years before I came along

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RE: What do you do when your master is making bad decis... - 9/11/2007 7:52:53 PM   
nyrisa


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Status: offline 		I have, in the past, known someone who used this type of behavior as passive/aggressive controlling behavior. I have no idea what the situation may be for you, but for me, it was because he felt insecure that my attention was focused on something else (studying, finishing a project), and he would refuse to go to bed, then would proceed with this low level, annoying distracting type behavior of sighing, yawning, changing the TV channels incessantly, looking in to ask "how's it coming, when will you be ready for bed", then refusing to go to bed when I urged him to, but still acting all martyred about losing sleep. And he would couch it as affection, "I can't sleep without you, I miss you and worry about you."

That kind of behavior also extended to other areas of his health; instead of seeing the doctor about symptoms or pains, he'd make a big deal of them, then say he couldn't afford to be sick/take time off from work, etc. It drove me absolutely around the bend, and I ended up resenting the hell out of it.

Like I said, maybe not the same in your situation, but I have zero patience for Doms who can't be big boys and know what they need to care for themselves. Maybe you could suggest studying in the school library, so you don't disturb him? See what kind of reaction he gives.

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