I am wondering if all your problems may stem from the fact that "Gorean" style is based on someones elses fantasy and only intended to make monies from his book Norman's Writing's. It is a cult trying to represent someones fantasy into reality. The cult has no safe words for their subs, they discriminate in the gender process as slaves, and basically treat all women like shit. So i think go figure hunnie maybe your lady just might be a little more switched on than you think.......Mistress Mercia