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Difficulty Meeting People on CM - 9/12/2007 1:58:58 PM

TheElderlyDomina

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When I first signed onto CM, very few submissive men wrote to me.

The other day I finally decided to introduce myself and, lo and behold, my mailbox contains mail -- even fascinating mail that warrants a response.

On CM it must be that once you post an introduction, you are noticed by others searching the forum.

Try introducing yourself and discover if the see your email drought lifts....

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RE: Difficulty Meeting People on CM - 9/12/2007 2:28:02 PM

Oumae

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Welcome to the boards and good luck sifting through the mail.

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RE: Difficulty Meeting People on CM - 9/12/2007 2:56:26 PM

Petronius

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Please allow 4-6 weeks for bitter disappointment to wear off.

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RE: Difficulty Meeting People on CM - 9/12/2007 6:11:04 PM

TheElderlyDomina

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Perfect response.....

4-6 weeks.....

lol....

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RE: Difficulty Meeting People on CM - 9/12/2007 7:18:45 PM

Dilseachd

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I think it only works if your a Female Dominant though. :)

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RE: Difficulty Meeting People on CM - 9/12/2007 7:31:08 PM

lachlann

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quote:

ORIGINAL: TheElderlyDomina

When I first signed onto CM, very few submissive men wrote to me.

The other day I finally decided to introduce myself and, lo and behold, my mailbox contains mail -- even fascinating mail that warrants a response.

On CM it must be that once you post an introduction, you are noticed by others searching the forum.

Try introducing yourself and discover if the see your email drought lifts....

I may be missing the point... but what is an introduction above and beyond what your original profile is? ...

I am a marketing person, so your screen name of "The Elderly Domina" ... does not make me want to get up and approach you. Well, male subs (and males in general) are visual, I think we put in a full 1.5 seconds to determine our actions (or in-actions).

Now let me just put out there, I am from the male sub population, in which I am in the overwhelming ratio!

The screen name turns me off. And I will say - I appreciate women of many ages.

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RE: Difficulty Meeting People on CM - 9/12/2007 7:34:27 PM

lachlann

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quote:

ORIGINAL: lachlann

quote:

ORIGINAL: TheElderlyDomina

When I first signed onto CM, very few submissive men wrote to me.

The other day I finally decided to introduce myself and, lo and behold, my mailbox contains mail -- even fascinating mail that warrants a response.

On CM it must be that once you post an introduction, you are noticed by others searching the forum.

Try introducing yourself and discover if the see your email drought lifts....

I may be missing the point... but what is an introduction above and beyond what your original profile is? ...

I am a marketing person, so your screen name of "The Elderly Domina" ... does not make me want to get up and approach you. Well, male subs (and males in general) are visual, I think we put in a full 1.5 seconds to determine our actions (or in-actions).

Now let me just put out there, I am from the male sub population, in which I am in the overwhelming ratio!

The screen name turns me off. And I will say - I appreciate women of many ages.

I must add... you may be an amazing woman!

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RE: Difficulty Meeting People on CM - 9/12/2007 7:42:51 PM

TNstepsout

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Dilseachd

I think it only works if your a Female Dominant though. :)

Meh, don't let the numbers fool you. There might appear to be a 100 to 1 ratio of submales to Dom females but a large portion, probably as much as 90% are complete crap. Men who just want some wank fodder or want a cheap thrill while they are in town or send spam to every Domme within tenthousand miles, or they are hiding out in Hawaii because George Bush is trying to get him because he blew the whistle on the dangers of Nutrasweet (OK, there was only one of those, but it kind of stood out).

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RE: Difficulty Meeting People on CM - 9/13/2007 3:09:09 AM

Politesub53

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quote:

ORIGINAL: lachlann

I may be missing the point... but what is an introduction above and beyond what your original profile is? ...

I am a marketing person, so your screen name of "The Elderly Domina" ... does not make me want to get up and approach you. Well, male subs (and males in general) are visual, I think we put in a full 1.5 seconds to determine our actions (or in-actions).

Now let me just put out there, I am from the male sub population, in which I am in the overwhelming ratio!

The screen name turns me off. And I will say - I appreciate women of many ages.

While the screen name turns you off, your photo will turn some Domina`s off. Some Mistress`s will be looking for a male maid, so the photo will work for them, while conveying what you seek.

The same will be true for " The Elderly Domina " Straight away i felt She is seeking elderly, or at least older, submissives, so i dont find the name off putting at all.

With regards to " Introductions " There is a section for this on the page listing all the different Forums.

Good luck with your searches to both yourself and the OP

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RE: Difficulty Meeting People on CM - 9/13/2007 4:02:24 AM

MissMagnolia

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I never introduced myself but still got pounced on by heaps of what I eventually realised were the CM trolls who email EVERY dominant who get's in here. Dangnabbit, I wasn't as popular as I thought!! TNstepsout is absolutely right. Lots of wankers and some VERY strange folk out there.

Still, trawl through the crap long enough and there are some genuinely lovely, decent people here, subs and dominants alike.

Have fun ElderlyDomina, I'm quite sure you are an amazing and spectacular chickie babe!!

Lachllan, I'm sure you're lovely too. Your pic is a bit OTT for my taste, as I have no interest in sissies, but I guess it's all relative.

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RE: Difficulty Meeting People on CM - 9/13/2007 5:39:07 AM

LaMistressa

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It's like gem mining at the little tourist traps -- you get a biiiig bucket of dirt, and you may only find a garnet or two in it, but still it's fun.

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RE: Difficulty Meeting People on CM - 9/13/2007 6:13:48 AM

CandyLover

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Having pictures posted seems to help a lot for me. My dominant account has no photo and gets around 10-20 responses a week, all of them either being form letters or men sending me pictures of their endowment. My submissive account has a few pictures and gets several hundred messages a week, most of them being from submissive men, oddly enough. I've only gotten two pictures of male reproductive organs sent to me on this account so far (though far more than that have asked for a pre-op picture of mine).

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RE: Difficulty Meeting People on CM - 9/13/2007 6:20:17 AM

Stephann

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I kept my search options restricted to women in my state seeking dominants. Occasionally I'd write someone based on their profile, but I've had a far greater quality of interaction with people who have read my posts, or I have read theirs. Simply put, who you are in a message board sheds a great deal more light on your personality (methinks) than what you have on your personal ad.

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RE: Difficulty Meeting People on CM - 9/13/2007 11:04:13 AM

TheElderlyDomina

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Fascinating responses, clue to personalities, and hints. I do thank all who wrote.

I like the name The Elderly Domina, it's my preference and if a submissive man cannot read my profile and come to his conclusions based on my words, pfffftttt.

Oh yes, have received numerous form letters and fortunately am not adverse to clicking the delete button and immediately proceeding with my life.

I am not here to follow temporary marketing dictums. Am here to disccover that wonderful submissive male and hopefully live happily ever after, or else, live with self respect.

And on I go asking the perennial existential question -- what's for dinner?

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