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RE: changing habits - 11/28/2007 5:36:23 AM

Archer

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No matter if I change the person or not, something, or someone will always be changing them.
Growth is change.
Personally I try to stick to changing things that prevent or limit growth.
So I guess the motivation question of "WHY?" is answered by "To encourage growth in the areas that I find valuable."

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RE: changing habits - 11/28/2007 7:05:13 AM

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ORIGINAL: HarleyKitty69

change saying ..I hate .. into .. I dislike
making her loose weight/ gain weight
looking at the glass as half full and not as half empty...
are some other excamples I must add to this

The things I'm encouraged to change are things that I WANT to change. I haven't ever stuck to anything that I didn't want myself.

Help me to see that something is positive and of benefit to me and I'm likely to be onboard. I can't possibly be aware of all the negative aspects of myself. If it makes sense to me, then I'll be willing, at the least. I might not have what it takes to do it on my own, but I won't be resentful. On the other hand, I can be less than reasonable and rational, so it's not always as simple as it can sound.

Losing weight/gaining weight/changing hair/ the way I speak/ behave etc.......It depends entirely on the *why*, for me, and the rest of the relationship.

He has the ability to have things the way he wants them....it's up to him how he wants achieve that. He can have a willing, enthusiastic person or a hurt, resentful person.

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RE: changing habits - 11/28/2007 7:10:21 AM

DarkDaddyZ

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Archer

No matter if I change the person or not, something, or someone will always be changing them.
Growth is change.
Personally I try to stick to changing things that prevent or limit growth.
So I guess the motivation question of "WHY?" is answered by "To encourage growth in the areas that I find valuable."

We are always evolving in relationships especially power exchange. And we learn how to grow so change is good....

However, if I met a slave that said, if only you were blue eyed you'd be perfect, or if you didnt' shave your head..things like that aren't the type of changes for me.

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RE: changing habits - 11/28/2007 7:44:26 AM

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I thought this was about nunnery play......fuck!!!!! disappointment again.

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RE: changing habits - 11/28/2007 9:13:57 AM

everhope

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oh, but Monsignor maybe you could change that?

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RE: changing habits - 11/28/2007 10:44:47 PM

tulitukka

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ORIGINAL: HarleyKitty69

OK ...
I was wondering .. why would you change the behavior of a sub/slave ??
as example .. making him/her stop saying.. I'm sorry and teaching him/her to say I apologize instead..
OK OK actually thats a bad example ...... that was a good thing for me to change...
but what about any other behavior ??
The sub/slave had the behavior when you meet him/her.. it is a part of what makes them them .....
it's part of who they are , part of who you choose to be with you ( and vice versa)
So why change them into something they are not ???
Then why not just choose someone who does not have these behavior and is more suitable to your likings ???
gee I hope I make sense here .........
~greed~

I change my girl's behavior because I like doing that. Part of what I fancy about her is the fact that she is moldable. I change the behavior of my submissive, because she can be better and do better in many areas. There's always more to learn about our lives, our selves and the rest of the world. Changing the bad habits she has learnt in those vanilla relationships that have been very bad for her mental health (she believes that any vanilla relationship would be bad for mental health). Changing her false perseptions of the world around her.

Lastly, and possibly most importantly, of course, changing her habits just because I can. What other reason does one need, really?

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