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A Spin on "Princess" - 9/13/2007 5:17:00 PM

TreasureKY

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In a thread earlier today where submissives were discussing the names that their dominants used for them, I mentioned that I’ve always wanted to be called “princess”. I’ve noted that many dominants are revolted by that diminutive because it typically represents the spoiled, little, rich girl and brings to mind the type of woman who uses her feminine wiles to get her way.

FirmhandKY and I had a conversation just about a year ago where this subject was brought up and I thought I’d share what I explained to him was my take on “princess”.

In very ancient history, “princess” was a title used for a woman belonging to a Prince. A princess was a Prince’s property, whether she was his consort or his wife. A little later in history, “princess” began being used to refer to daughters of Kings.

Now while I’m sure there were plenty of princesses who don’t fit the behavioral mold I will expound, in general princesses were chattel... property. Valued, of course, but still property of the King before they became property of their husband. They had no say in what they did, where they went, and who they wed. They obeyed.

They were raised to be owned… valuable property to be traded for political reasons. They were trained to obey, and to obey gracefully. Those who learned well knew how to maintain their dignity while obeying, even when it was something they abhorred. They saw the larger picture... understood the role they played, and their obedience was the evidence of their fealty to their King.

As a little girl, I was enamored with princesses. They were the epitome of femininity to me and I’m sure I had more than one fantasy of being found to be some long lost princess.

However, there was a bit deeper desire hidden within those fantasies. It wasn’t so that I could be whisked away into a life of luxury… not that I would have minded.

But the thought of being whisked away to become the property of some Prince... a man of great intelligence and power that I could serve.

lol… Yes, I wanted nothing more than to be a princess, then. It’s not necessary now as I belong to my Prince, even if he doesn’t have a title.

Of course, this is simply my own perception and the general public will never adopt it. But perhaps a few here might start looking at that term of endearment in a new light.

By the way... FirmhandKY still doesn't call me "princess".

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RE: A Spin on "Princess" - 9/13/2007 5:20:42 PM

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*smiles at treasure*

that's very much how Sir calls me princess. as a pet, as a treasure of his, as someone who makes his life brighter. and while some of the things we do together may indicate he spoils me....i am always under his control, and heeding to his wishes.

the otherlove calls me princess too, but he doesnt dom me at all. ;)

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RE: A Spin on "Princess" - 9/13/2007 5:34:46 PM

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"By the way... FirmhandKY still doesn't call me "princess".

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i'm really sorry to hear that princess, hope you have a good day.

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RE: A Spin on "Princess" - 9/13/2007 5:36:40 PM

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is it weird that in the fairy tale fantasies as a kid growing up i never wanted to be the princess, but instead i wanted to be the barn cat or the cat walking the battlements?

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RE: A Spin on "Princess" - 9/13/2007 5:46:33 PM

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I was known as the princess of porn once upon a time (pardon the pun).
I was quite enamoured with the title then but not so sure now, chattel!! *rolls eyes*

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RE: A Spin on "Princess" - 9/13/2007 5:48:38 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: orfunboi

"By the way... FirmhandKY still doesn't call me "princess". "

i'm really sorry to hear that princess, hope you have a good day.

lol... I don't mind. He's the dom... it's his choice what he wants to call me and I'd probably feel horrible if he did start calling me "princess". I'd feel like I was making the rules. That, I really don't like.

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RE: A Spin on "Princess" - 9/13/2007 6:29:35 PM

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oh if he only would-- for now he calls me girl-- baby or whatever.. we haven't broached it yet- but I would adore if he called me his princess.

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RE: A Spin on "Princess" - 9/13/2007 6:32:30 PM

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Nothing wrong with being a princess if spoiled and well kept is what you're going for :)

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RE: A Spin on "Princess" - 9/13/2007 6:45:14 PM

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well the word resonates with me-- and thats a wonderful thing. He will understand it and take it under consideration if I know him.
by the way LA I love your posts--

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RE: A Spin on "Princess" - 9/13/2007 6:49:42 PM

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mmm I am a total princess and my ex used to call me his princess.

I think any man who did call me that would make me fall in love with him that much more :)

I have known a couple guys who called me "brat" in an endearing way and I hated it. I not only hate the word but I hate the very concept and I don't know if that's how they saw me or if they just wanted a brat to tame. Needless to say none of them were ever my boyfriend - for reasons beyond that, but that was definitely included.

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RE: A Spin on "Princess" - 9/13/2007 7:28:05 PM

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One of the best pieces of bdsm M/s erotica out there in my opinion is the Claiming of Sleeping Beauty...and she was called his princess.

I like for it to be mixed up, slut, babygirl, princess, slave..hell, I don't mind cunt when "my" is in front of it. For me, all of those things are in me, and the best man will be able to nurish and bring out all of them. That is the good stuff...when if you are feeling naughty you can say "your cunt" when you are going to say something, or if you need a little more care "your babygirl or princess". Plus, I find it's a good way to know what his mood is in. If he calls you princess you know he is in a different mood then when he calls you slut.

I just like the mixture honestly...and that includes the princess in me that waits for her prince charming...*smiles*.

Well wishes,
Kelika

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RE: A Spin on "Princess" - 9/13/2007 7:40:25 PM

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in Daddy's eyes, i'll always be His lil princess among the other names He lovingly bestows upon me

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RE: A Spin on "Princess" - 9/13/2007 8:05:42 PM

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Ach! who wants to have a prince and be his princess when they can have a FirmHand instead?....~wink~/Tempting

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RE: A Spin on "Princess" - 9/13/2007 8:12:41 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: TemptingNviceSub

Ach! who wants to have a prince and be his princess when they can have a FirmHand instead?....~wink~/Tempting

Oooohhh... you do so have a point, Tempting!

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RE: A Spin on "Princess" - 9/14/2007 1:04:40 AM

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A refreshing post, Treasure. I really dig it.
I have never had the urge or inclination to be called 'princess' - not because of the spoilt image it has to carry on it's back, but because of the colour and taste the word invokes due to my synaesthesia, and its a colour that is not on the top of my chart!
When my relationship with Darcy progressed and developed, He began (and still does when it suits him) call me His.dark.queen, which rocks in a deep redandpurple kinda way and tastes like chocolate souffle...

Peace
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RE: A Spin on "Princess" - 9/14/2007 2:59:18 AM

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i don't usually interject when an OP has gone this far but.......ladies, be grateful you have been born in this time period. For all of history, women have been chattel- until the early part of the 20th century when women began to demand 'rights'. There are still places on the planet where women are bought/sold/traded for various reasons and they don't have the right to speak their minds. The modern romanticized notion of 'princess' stems from Grimms Fairy Tails and of course....marketed by the media and toy companies. Most of you seem to have very healthy and individual takes on what the word means to you......enjoy!

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RE: A Spin on "Princess" - 9/14/2007 4:11:26 AM

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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

A refreshing post, Treasure. I really dig it.
I have never had the urge or inclination to be called 'princess' - not because of the spoilt image it has to carry on it's back, but because of the colour and taste the word invokes due to my synaesthesia, and its a colour that is not on the top of my chart!
When my relationship with Darcy progressed and developed, He began (and still does when it suits him) call me His.dark.queen, which rocks in a deep redandpurple kinda way and tastes like chocolate souffle...

Peace
the.dark.

hate pink, huh? *smiles* Sir calls me his faeriequeen at times, or his shining queen.

he's definitely the Dark person in our relationship.

kitten

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RE: A Spin on "Princess" - 9/14/2007 4:15:27 AM

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ORIGINAL: mefisto69

i don't usually interject when an OP has gone this far but.......ladies, be grateful you have been born in this time period. For all of history, women have been chattel- until the early part of the 20th century when women began to demand 'rights'. There are still places on the planet where women are bought/sold/traded for various reasons and they don't have the right to speak their minds. The modern romanticized notion of 'princess' stems from Grimms Fairy Tails and of course....marketed by the media and toy companies. Most of you seem to have very healthy and individual takes on what the word means to you......enjoy!

if i hadnt been born now and in this country, i wouldnt have survived pneumonia at 18 months, again when i was 15... nor would i be here now, i'd be dead of childbirth.

i *am* grateful for those things....i'm also grateful that the heavy handed behavior i recieve at the hands of my Sir is tempered with mercy, and with love...and not delivered as my ex did, with cruelty and intent to harm.

kitten

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RE: A Spin on "Princess" - 9/14/2007 4:55:40 AM

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Princess is usually reserved for when I'm in my "over the top" little gurl mode. I like to revert to being five, and have a love for all things pink, sparkly, and girlie. I love the Disney princesses and will demand that Daddy buy any merchandise I see in the store. NO, demanding doesn't get me what I want, but it is damn fun to do.

He did buy me a Disney princesses bath towel once that I use on special occasions.

I think being called a princess is sweet and it makes me feel small, special, and totally His.

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RE: A Spin on "Princess" - 9/14/2007 5:13:28 AM

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i would love the term princess. Especially after the OP's explaination. i could really go for that well-kept feeling.

i'm usually just called my name, by necessity, because of our children, but princess could work there. When i'm anything else, it's usually slut, baby, or my girl, which are all good. Not my choice anyway, but it would be nice.

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