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RE: I need some...input, please - 7/18/2005 6:39:41 AM

plantlady64

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Hello There,
I think if I was in your shoes I'd find a Master with a family dynamic that's accepting of you. To have your Master , but have his relationship with his wife causing friction does not sound desirable to me.
I think you're seeing the differences in what he has to offer, and what you desire & need to be happy. You need to weigh the sacrifices and benefits, and at the end of your contract & take the lessons you're learning and improve your life choices for your next contract you sign, with him or another.
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RE: I need some...input, please - 7/20/2005 6:06:38 AM

tinkJH

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It might be just me..

If his wife is a slave, and he wants a poly relationship, why is he allowing her so much control?

He allows and lets one slave treat another poorly with bad attitude and then blames you for how she treats you? He won't visit with you without her because "she doesn't trust you"? After over 2 years?! Why would you want to be in a relationship like that. Why would you even want to have someone who calls themselves a "Master" like that? You are taking blame for every little thing and even for things considered basic human instinct. "Your supposed to desire and want him at all times even when he isnt there, but it shouldnt bother you" What kind of BS is that?

To top it off, you don't seem to want any help. You've gotten many idea's and you have found some excuse not to use them. The majority is right. Your just a play toy that he gets to have. He isn't a Master, nor if he remotely knowledgeable as to what a poly relationship is or how it works.

You need to basically.. tell him what YOU want from the relationship and if he wont give it, leave. Because, as is.. nothing is going to change. So unless you want to live out the next 10 years of your life like this.. well, I guess that is up to you. He's broken you, a lot of you, and maybe you can't see that. But, at least I can.

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RE: I need some...input, please - 8/16/2005 10:25:04 PM

OscarHargraves

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I have to agree with Faramir. The choice is yours to make. Either live with it, change it or get away from it. My choice would be to get away but that may not be yours.

I disagree with the numerous comments that were made about married men however. Not all married men would act the way this person does/did. In many cases a married man is the safest to become involved with since he has the most to lose if things 'blow up'. They are, in general, clean, D&D free, more experienced and less likely to become hostile. The other side of that coin is of course that they ARE married and will probably stay that way so your relationship with them will be limited by that fact.

I can only suggest that you go forth again with your search and choose wisely of the man that will receive your submission.

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