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What are the expectations involved in a DaddyDom relati... - 9/14/2007 1:12:27 PM

taintedgypsy

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Ok I know this sounds basic but I am not interested in the obvious. It is the actual interaction stuff that I would like to know more about.
Do they have more of a tendency to micro manage as a DaddyDom? Is it more about the nurture, dress her up, playful stuff? Is it a gentler type of discipline, less corporal type punishments? How much of the relationship is based on the subs child like characteristics or is all about an age play?
Or am I entirely on the wrong track and it is just like any other D/s or M/s relationship?

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RE: What are the expectations involved in a DaddyDom re... - 9/14/2007 1:13:55 PM

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I think it could very well be any of the above. Every couple will have their own unique dynamic. In my last relationship, it worked well because of our age gap.

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RE: What are the expectations involved in a DaddyDom re... - 9/14/2007 1:44:44 PM

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yes it is more loving and kind. Punishments are usually scoldings followd by an over the knee spanking and maybe corner time. you are doing adult play, but being treated like a little girl. like Daddy's girl. It's really quite beautiful and i love it. Especially when i'm in the corner and he says that if i've learned to be a good girl i may come over to him. Then after saying how sorry i am, Daddy lets me have his lollipop. i never call him Master, but Daddy. He always calls me little girl or sweetheart or Princess. it's really cute. If you have any more questions i'd be happy to answer them for you. :)

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RE: What are the expectations involved in a DaddyDom re... - 9/14/2007 2:24:30 PM

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it depends on the Daddy and the girl...some girls need a Daddy that will watch them every second to make sure they are not getting in trouble - micromanage...and some girls every thought is what will make my Daddy happy - not micromanage..and there is everything you can think of in between...basically just like every other Dom/sub relationship...i don't know what makes it different...i am a Daddy's girl...i don't do well in relationships with Dominants who don't self identify as Daddy-types...why? i don't know...if someone can figure it out it might make things easier for me to explain...but...as is...i just look for already self realized Daddies lol....

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RE: What are the expectations involved in a DaddyDom re... - 9/14/2007 5:32:41 PM

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not all daddy/dom relationships are based on age play; not all daddy/dom relationships are about nurturing; not all daddy/dom relationships are about role-playing, and not all daddy/doms scold their partner like a child...

in other words, just like all the other relationships in the world, it's different to every individual and every individual relationship.

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RE: What are the expectations involved in a DaddyDom re... - 9/14/2007 5:48:48 PM

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have to agree with that above statement.

Daddy and i don't have an age-play type of relationship. we have more of a nurturing type of relationship (something missed when i was growing up with my real father) that is not micro-managed yet designed perfectly for two independent people. punishments include scoldings, groundings and long lectures ...i do enjoy being spoiled like a little girl when we go shopping.

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RE: What are the expectations involved in a DaddyDom re... - 9/14/2007 5:58:46 PM

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My daddy does not micromanage me and I honestly wouldn't allow it, because I am not the type of person that does well with micromanagment.

Ok, maybe I'd allow him to micromanage a few things like school work and hygein routien lol.

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RE: What are the expectations involved in a DaddyDom re... - 9/14/2007 6:04:05 PM

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I consider my boyfriend a DaddyDom. I am an AB (adult baby). Our relationship revolves largely around my childlike personality traits. He will treat me like a child sometimes and his rules fit that. We started out with just a D/s relationship but it changed after we got to know each other better. The punishments were a lot more severe back then. I don't know if that's because he views me more as a child now or because he loves me and doesn't really want to hurt me. He isn't as strict with me as he used to be. There is a lot less stress on my part. The control aspect is still there though, which is nice. I wish that we could take this to a higher level but my Dom doesn't have the time.

I'd like to add that our relationship has a lot of age-play in it but, as others have mentioned, it's more about the nurturing aspect of it. He kind of plays the role of the father I never had. He allows me to experience the joy and innocence of a child which I wasn't able to do when I was young.

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RE: What are the expectations involved in a DaddyDom re... - 9/15/2007 4:30:24 AM

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Thankyou very much for your replies. My last relationship developed some daddy type aspects that became very important to me ... I was just wondering what relationships where the Dom Identified as a DaddyDom would be like.

Thankyou all for taking the time to reply.

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RE: What are the expectations involved in a DaddyDom re... - 9/15/2007 3:28:36 PM

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He's Daddy. He's the dom. He doesn't micro-manage. I am very independent and opinionated. We don't play dress up. I don't act as if I'm 5. Well not most of the time. There's is nothing childlike about me. Yes, I can be playful but so can many adults. He's nurturing but probably not more nurturing than some of the guys who don't like the term "Daddy". We don't do punishment. He hurts me cause it makes his Cock hard. Harder the more he hurts me.

Works for us.

And it is clearly individual.

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RE: What are the expectations involved in a DaddyDom re... - 9/17/2007 11:55:04 AM

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Ditto on the talk that it is individual and includes a range of variety. One thing that I would add is that don't worry so much about the labels or if there is a right way or a wrong way. When I first plunged into my Daddy / daughter relationship we both spent too much time on whether something was vanilla, Daddyish or Masterish, subish, slavish or daughterish. That labeling was a collasal waste of time and a distraction. Just be and enjoy!

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RE: What are the expectations involved in a DaddyDom re... - 9/17/2007 7:24:45 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: arayofsunshine55

He's Daddy. He's the dom. He doesn't micro-manage. I am very independent and opinionated. We don't play dress up. I don't act as if I'm 5. Well not most of the time. There's is nothing childlike about me. Yes, I can be playful but so can many adults. He's nurturing but probably not more nurturing than some of the guys who don't like the term "Daddy". We don't do punishment. He hurts me cause it makes his Cock hard. Harder the more he hurts me.

Works for us.

And it is clearly individual.

Wow! I could have written that to explain my relationship with my Daddy.

He does have this desire/need to see me fulfill my potential and to become an independent woman capable of taking care of myself. By doing that, he feels that my submission will be all the more valuable. It is his Daddy role that enables me to get through school and the rest of daily life, and to face the unknowns at the age of 41.

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