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RE: Lying to a master - 9/24/2007 1:10:24 PM

plspickme

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i can't even phathom lying to my Master. i don't care how small. i just don't have it in me. i kind of feel sorry for you that you didn't realize that honesty is important. Maybe that's the real reason he let you go. i wish you luck in the future.

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RE: Lying to a master - 9/25/2007 6:53:04 AM

MissHarlet

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How do you live in any world or lifestyle and think that lies are ok? Everyone has lied at somepoint but that doesnt make it ok...

Lies break trust and say you have no respect for the person you lied to... who wants a submissive or even a friend that has no respect for them?

Learn from this !!! and move on .... once trust is broken .. like fine china it might be glued back but will always remain less than ...perfect

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RE: Lying to a master - 10/7/2007 1:50:39 AM

serisa

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try not to lie, about anything no matter how small and insignificant it may seem at the time. i rarely ever tell my Dom any lies, i am very honest by nature.
however, one day i badly needed a small job doing in my house but didnt have money to pay professional. i knew myDom would have done it for me but didnt like to ask as i knew he had alot of work on at that time.

i offered a neighbour a small amount of money to do it and he accepted. however, my dom popped around unexpectedly while he was doing the work in question. after the man had left i told my Dom he had offered to do it for me, not that i offered to pay him.

anyway, of all the things, my Dom bumped into my neighbour following week and said 'thank you for doing that for her'....... neighbour replied 'neighbour replied it was no problem, i needed the money really'

gutted, caught out good and proper wasnt i? my Dom wasnt overly cross with me as he could see it happened as i didnt want to ask him as he had so much to do, then lied as i thought hed be cross for me paying someone when he would have done it for nothing.

even though there was no bad motive behind my lie i still felt very ashamed and it just goes to show how easily you can get caught out !

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RE: Lying to a master - 10/7/2007 8:32:22 AM

TwistedLady

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I've not much posted in these forums. I'd still like to take a stab at this one though. Who are we to try and act like we've never once lied in our entire lives? Bubbles maybe broken with this one, but no one has never told a lie. Whether it might be large or small, we have all said something that was false. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying lying is a good thing. However, making one mistake does not mean she should be tarred and feathered by a group of people she came to for advice. She made a mistake. Live and learn. The only true problem would be if she didn't actually learn from her mistake.

Dishonesty in a relationship is hard to bounce back from. I know, from personal experience, that when I'm lied to, it's extremely hard for me to trust that person again. On the other hand, I've fibbed myself and won't claim to be perfect by any means. I'd suggest you have a long talk with him and sincerely apologize. Take whatever punishment there may be and honestly learn from your mistake. If he takes you back, always be honest with him. If he does not, learn from it and be honest upfront.

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RE: Lying to a master - 10/7/2007 8:50:53 AM

RaynaSub

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Maybe you need to spend time working on yourself.
The fact that you did not know that lying would get you into
trouble shows that you are not ready for a serious relationship.

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RE: Lying to a master - 10/7/2007 3:48:27 PM

gentlestarZR

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lying in any relationship is bad .. but for a bdsm one.. if your putting your life in someone elses hands wouldnt you feel the need to be completely honest and him in return be just as honest.

the only thing you can do is sit down with him and talk things out .. being open and talking will help.
if it works out or not take to heart the lessons learned.

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RE: Lying to a master - 10/7/2007 4:57:12 PM

Bobbie9395

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SirEbonyPhoenix

As I am reading this topic, I have a personal philoosphy about lying which can be summed up in this familar adage:"Fool me once, shame on me. Fool me twice, shame on you." But I also believe that getting back at a Master or slave is only going to bring about nothing but misery for the one who dismissed or was dismissed, so the best thing to do is let them go and move on. And that's my $7.50 on this topic. (Sorry, but inflation keeps rising! LMAO)

Not that it's any big thing, but actually it's "Fool me once, shame on YOU; fool me twice shame on ME." I totally agree with the rest of your response.

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