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natureschild -> Wanker or Not? (9/14/2007 10:05:54 PM)
Alright I've been talking to this one guy on Yahoo, and he's very sweet. We seem to relate pretty well, in our intrests and things. But then I sign back on this after noon to find rather odd and...crude offline messages. This has me at a bit of a loss for what to think of him now. Ex - (My last message to him the night before) "Talk to you tomarrow maybe? Im off to bed." (His offline messages) "okie day", "ill cum with you..", "my bed this time right?" To say seeing this was a turn off, is putting it lightly. It didn't make me mad, it was just the random "Ew" factor. I can handle a few dirty or sly jokes....but what exactly is....this? I did not say anything that would have brought on those comments. Is he just talking sweet to me, to try and cover the fact all he wants is sex?

Shadowen -> RE: Wanker or Not? (9/14/2007 10:14:10 PM)
My guess would just be, just from the information I have, random attempt at humor shrugs Not very original humor but sometimes the worst jokes get the best amusement. Its the groan factor I think. That would be my first reaction. Best it would be worth in my opinion is a roll of the eyes. Unless there's more to it , I wouldnt make anything of it but thats just me.

RRafe -> RE: Wanker or Not? (9/14/2007 10:19:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: natureschild Alright I've been talking to this one guy on Yahoo, and he's very sweet. We seem to relate pretty well, in our intrests and things. But then I sign back on this after noon to find rather odd and...crude offline messages. This has me at a bit of a loss for what to think of him now. Ex - (My last message to him the night before) "Talk to you tomarrow maybe? Im off to bed." (His offline messages) "okie day", "ill cum with you..", "my bed this time right?" To say seeing this was a turn off, is putting it lightly. It didn't make me mad, it was just the random "Ew" factor. I can handle a few dirty or sly jokes....but what exactly is....this? I did not say anything that would have brought on those comments. Is he just talking sweet to me, to try and cover the fact all he wants is sex? be suspiscious when he wants to show you his stiffy on the web cam.[:D]

Damocles809 -> RE: Wanker or Not? (9/15/2007 12:17:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: natureschild To say seeing this was a turn off, is putting it lightly. It didn't make me mad, it was just the random "Ew" factor. I can handle a few dirty or sly jokes....but what exactly is....this? I did not say anything that would have brought on those comments. Is he just talking sweet to me, to try and cover the fact all he wants is sex? Of course he's just sweet talking. Same way I wish my friends and co-workers good-night saying "Sweet dreams! Hugs, kisses, and spooging all over your face!" It's called chivalry. Sheesh.

Babybass -> RE: Wanker or Not? (9/15/2007 2:52:27 AM)
Well, while it is a bit 'ewww' - you know him so you should be able to tell if he's really a bit slimy or if he's a nice guy just attempting humor!! He obviously thought you were still online when he sent them so I think you should give him the benefit of the doubt and take the messages in the context of the conversation!! He was trying to be funny.

MissMagnolia -> RE: Wanker or Not? (9/15/2007 2:54:48 AM)
He's in Yahoo and you need to ask if he's a wanker?????????

RaynaSub -> RE: Wanker or Not? (9/15/2007 5:21:40 AM)
This question is easy- wanker.

Squeakers -> RE: Wanker or Not? (9/15/2007 6:04:11 AM)
What does 'okie day' mean?

donnaamarie -> RE: Wanker or Not? (9/15/2007 6:05:08 AM)
Hey!!!! I met my Master in Yahoo, and he's not a wanker. LOL At least to me he's not. Admittedly this was 5 years ago, and Yahoo has changed a bit since then. Why doesn't the OP just ask him why he chooses to leave ewwwwwww kinds of offlines?? That would suffice for me. Maybe he is a full fledged wanker. Maybe it's his unique pick up approach. Even scarier of course. We've all been there, done that I'm sure.

eyesopened -> RE: Wanker or Not? (9/15/2007 6:24:31 AM)
my advice would never put too much analysis on yahoo offline messages. i'd cut the guy some slack... not everyone is glib and it sounded to me like an attempt to flirt. Perhaps a poor attempt but i wouldn't let it bother me. You'll find out soon enough if he's just a wanker when he comes up with much more creative reasons why the two of you will never meet...OR he comes up with elaborate reasons why he can only meet you during the daytime in a motel room or the back of his car.

SirCache -> RE: Wanker or Not? (9/15/2007 7:46:29 AM)
He may have not known that his offline messages would still be received by you, and this was something he did to 'get off'' a little, thinking you'd never know. Either way--major creepy factor in there, especially if he was decent the rest of the time.

SirDraco7 -> RE: Wanker or Not? (9/15/2007 7:55:44 AM)
I'm with most of the others in saying it was an attempt of humor. He's not a wanker. Perhaps he was trying to flirt or get you to smile or something. You just started talking so I'm guessing he didn't think you'd react negatively about it. Just a step in getting to know someone, sometime you misjudge and trip. Basically talk to him about it. Let him know it... upset you and that you're not comfortable with such comments at such point in time. Take to heart and place more value in the active conversations with him aside from the single message posted mostlikely right after you left. If you are getting along well and clicking well and he's not acting like a wanker or throwing sex stuff down your throat(no pun intended) then he's not and it was just an error on his part. I'd say don't be mad or upset about it and just let him know calmly that it wasn't appreciated. Just my thoughts. Good luck. :)

SmokingGun82 -> RE: Wanker or Not? (9/15/2007 9:44:31 AM)
I think I'm going to go with the people saying he was either flirting, or trying to be amusing. Sometimes something that'd be really funny/appropriate (not that these necessarily would have been) can seem just creepy a few hours out of context. Since I'm usually invisible when I'm online, I've gotten quite a few offline messages that make no sense- it's them continuing to talk after I've said "Goodnight" or "Gotta run" or whatever. And if the analysis of perverted strangers on the internet doesn't satisfy you, go to the last resort- ask him about it.

FullCircle -> RE: Wanker or Not? (9/15/2007 9:52:29 AM)
How dare he say such a thing! I hope you bleached your eyeballs afterwards.

nephandi -> RE: Wanker or Not? (9/15/2007 11:44:43 AM)
Hi If he is otherwise sweet i would give him the benefit of the doubt and assume he is just terribley crude whit his jokes. Some pepole are, they never grew out of pussie and boobie jokes that the rest of us left back in kinder garden. They still say poop and luagh them self almost to death. [8\|] But that do not have to mean he is not serious. He might also be nervous and trying to impress you whit jokes and it just did not turn out well. i wish you well

velvetears -> RE: Wanker or Not? (9/15/2007 12:17:51 PM)
Let him know how you feel about being spoken to in that manner. He was testing his boundaries with you. People tend to be braver online then they would in rt so it can become an online habit to start talking like he did and not even realize it's inappropriate. How many guys in real time would mention cumming or sleeping in the bed with you, even as a joke, if it was real time and not being said from hiding behind a screen?

windchymes -> RE: Wanker or Not? (9/15/2007 4:18:15 PM)
For some men, their sense of humor never progressed out of the junior high locker room. He probably gave his wife a big wedgie afterwards. btw....that's an awesome sig line, velvetears [:)]

real2u -> RE: Wanker or Not? (9/15/2007 4:48:44 PM)
Jeez, guys on yahoo say that crap to me all the time.I just choose to never speak to them again. Sounds like he was just trying to be "cute". It is all good,if that is the type of conversations that you enjoy but it sounds like you did not enjoy it much to me. A low level of immaturity is shining here...how old is this guy? Maybe he is just feeling awkward. Hate to say it,but most guys,especially one with a low level of maturity,are going to make it known that they "want to sleep with you" one way or another...and when they find out that is not exactly what you had in mind,expect dissapointment on both ends of that convo. Only YOU would know what YOU are comfortable with so be sure to tell him that you were not ammused if it offended you,and just go from there. Me,if I liked the guy,I would let it slide,until it came around again in an actual on-going conversation where it can be adressed properly.Good Luck!

mnottertail -> RE: Wanker or Not? (9/15/2007 4:53:23 PM)
some real sherlock holmes kinda gals out here, impeccable logic, keen insight---card sharps. A. Conan Doyle

Lordandmaster -> RE: Wanker or Not? (9/15/2007 7:00:49 PM)
A man who wants to have sex with you grosses you out? It won't be too long before you'll be longing for the days when men wanted to have sex with you. The wheel of life, kiddo.

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