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scening - 9/15/2007 1:27:08 PM

murmur

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I'm wondering about the word *scening* in which two or more people involves themselves in sensual play at home or in a public area.

For me, a scene or scening was at first a direct reference to a theatrical lexique of something that is a comedy or drama, but false and yet, this shows something so real and personal...i wonder why the term is even applicated. In a dungeon or at parties, i could understand, cause this is public (or semi-public). But at home?

Is it an exhibitionnist show for you? The demonstration of trust for someone else? Fun?
In those three cases, it shows something real. Why is it called by a term who appear to be something false?

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RE: scening - 9/15/2007 2:10:21 PM

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I hate verbing the noun in this case, so I don't use the verb to scene.

I play scenes, because that's what instances of play were called when I entered the SM scene and that's what they're still called today in my area. The change of semantics involved in the internet discussions of the early 90's didn't change that, though now we tend to refer as often to the superset of activities called bdsm as we do to SM alone - at least locally.

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RE: scening - 9/15/2007 2:18:10 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: murmur

I'm wondering about the word *scening* in which two or more people involves themselves in sensual play at home or in a public area.

For me, a scene or scening was at first a direct reference to a theatrical lexique of something that is a comedy or drama, but false and yet, this shows something so real and personal...i wonder why the term is even applicated. In a dungeon or at parties, i could understand, cause this is public (or semi-public). But at home?

Is it an exhibitionnist show for you? The demonstration of trust for someone else? Fun?
In those three cases, it shows something real. Why is it called by a term who appear to be something false?

Is Valyraen really a cajun rapist who is going to flog my skin off my back and turn it into lampshades?

No. He's not. But him pretending to be one in our bedroom sure gets us both hot and bothered. It's a bit of theater and it's really fun. But hey, it's real theater.

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RE: scening - 9/15/2007 4:20:34 PM

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flogging is really an ineffective skin removal technique for making lampshades....

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RE: scening - 9/15/2007 4:21:38 PM

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But it tenderizes so nicely...

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RE: scening - 9/15/2007 4:22:44 PM

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true...perhaps if you were going for a patchwork look....

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RE: scening - 9/15/2007 4:23:23 PM

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Could be cute!

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RE: scening - 9/15/2007 5:19:56 PM

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but how would he explain it to the parental units when they come to visit?

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RE: scening - 9/15/2007 5:23:17 PM

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I don't use the term. Seems to have no relationship to what we do. We make love in some very painfilled ways. He sometimes uses the word playing I think to differentiate if from going out to lunch.

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RE: scening - 9/15/2007 6:46:07 PM

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I use it mainly because hey, it's one word instead of ten. There are quite a few words I use in daily life that I'm not crazy about, but they save time and energy, and prevent me from having to speak six times as much.

Sometimes things just need a name, and if there's not a perfect one, you deal with an imperfect one.

As always, just my opinion.

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RE: scening - 9/15/2007 6:47:54 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: murmur

I'm wondering about the word *scening* in which two or more people involves themselves in sensual play at home or in a public area.

For me, a scene or scening was at first a direct reference to a theatrical lexique of something that is a comedy or drama, but false and yet, this shows something so real and personal...i wonder why the term is even applicated. In a dungeon or at parties, i could understand, cause this is public (or semi-public). But at home?

Is it an exhibitionnist show for you? The demonstration of trust for someone else? Fun?
In those three cases, it shows something real. Why is it called by a term who appear to be something false?

The applicable term I use for my sex play is "fun"

If it was anything else-I'd not bother.

I'm a person, not a sacred entity.

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RE: scening - 9/15/2007 7:39:04 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: chellekitty

but how would he explain it to the parental units when they come to visit?

Hmmm... it's a new type of fabric that looks like skin?

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RE: scening - 9/15/2007 7:45:07 PM

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*grins*

thanks for your thoughts folks. It was just a random question really...so much that i *cough* forgot about the thread..........
bad me bad bad baaaad me.
laughs - have a nice day all.

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RE: scening - 9/16/2007 7:37:05 AM

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One of mine always referred to it as "sessioning". The next time I "session" you ... In our last "session" ...

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RE: scening - 9/17/2007 3:57:34 PM

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Think of the word in another context-

When a toddler causes "a scene" in the middle of the grocery store by throwing a tantrum, is it false?

Words have different contexts- one version does not apply to all contexts.

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RE: scening - 9/17/2007 6:29:13 PM

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scene: n. derivation from the greek: scaena (temporary shelter)
1) structure forming the background for a dramatic performance, 2) a single sequence or situation in a play, 3) a stage setting, 4) the place or occurance of an action, 5) a display of strong feeling, or emotion, 6) a sphere of specialized activity. (the fashion scene, or the BDSM scene)

None of these definitions of "scene," taken directly from Webster's, are inapplicable to our purposes. Quite often a dungeon, either at home or in a semi-public event, is a background for dramatic sexual events. If you've visited many , you'll note their very theatrical design and lighting. Indeed, they are settings for dramatic action! And certainly our communities can be effectively refered to as a "scene" every bit as much as there is an "art scene" or a "NASCAR scene" or a "fashion scene." You should also note, that at any given play party, there are plenty of subs and Dom(mes) who are making scenes with playful, overly-dramatic displays of emotion and erzatz villany.

Theatre, dear murmur, isn't always fiction. No, many great peices of drama are based on fact, on biography, and on history. The object of theatre (classical stage, sexual, or otherwise) is to involve people's emotions, and cause them to reexamine their sense of what it means to be human, to be alive, and to be in their particualr niche of history. Even if the framework of a particular sexual encounter is fictional (or if a theatrical play is based in fiction) the emotional reactions to the drama are not! At least they shouldn't be, if the writer, director and performers are up to snuff.

Can you apply the term to what you do at home? Yes! The only three things you need, to qualify for the creation of theatre, the creation of a "scene," are: one performer, one audiance member, and an agreed upon set of preconceptions.

Now, doesn't that sound like the start of a romantic evening to you?

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