KiandPhoenix
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Let's see. . .any day when Phoenix works less than 8 Hours she does the cooking, and serving of meals. When she works, and I don't she typically makes me meals when she is cooking for her kids and herself before work, and then she decides if she is hungry or not and calls me to have her dinner ready after work. For those dom's who have a problem cooking, I think it if a fair compromise considering I don't work. She does the majority of the cleaning, but I do laundry, dishes, and trash. I don't really use 90% of the house, so she takes care of it to her satisfaction (neat freak) daily. On occasion there is an issue where she has not cleaned the house, and it disgusts me, so I typically tell her that I will do my jobs when she does hers. It never takes more than 8 hours to be fixed, usually a LOT less.
When one of us is sick the person who is the most well typically takes care of he less well person. I order Phoenix to stay in bed, and to tell me when she needs anything. I will never forget once when I made her set up a chair and a water foot massager after she had come home from work one evening. She thought it was for me. Then I ordered her into it, and retrieved her book telling her that if she needed anything she must ask me for it. She had a hard time asking for an item just out of her reach, when I was in the other room. She had worked a full hard day though, and needed the rest.
Over all I think being in charge is more than just ordering the nice stuff for myself. It is taking care of all the needs my sub has, even when they need to be pampered. With her working and taking care of kids, she needs a break frequently, and I do my best to give it to her when we can afford the time.
I pay the bills. She wanted to take care of her own money at first, but then she got stressed out about it, and turned it over to me. I already take care of three other peoples bills, so it is no big deal to add one more person to the mix. I am also in charge of making sure she does not over spend on anything.
We do most of the shopping together, but maybe 25% of the time I will go alone while she is working. She usually says we need X things, and then I spend way to much. She told me we needed meat like hamburger, pork, and steaks once, so I bought several types of pork, and several different steaks. about $100 worth. Then she told me she wanted something other than Dr. Pepper to drink, and to see what I could find for her, and I bought seven or eight cases of other things. She had a nice variety.
I make sure most other things get done, but I drag her along to whatever needs done. I handle her divorce lawyer 95% of the time. I found and brought home our new car (only car we could get so not like I made a choice without talking to her first) I try and make sure everything gets taken care of, but we work together on them because I say "it's time to get this done".
I have chosen the majority of our toys. I know pretty well what she is going to enjoy, and what she is not. We visit the leather shop together, but other than that I have gotten the majority of them. I got her a nice cane, some spreader bars, and a ball gag for her birthday. Seams like I got some more toys also, but I can't remember.
Phoenix does not drive, so I suspect when it is time for pta meetings that I will be there. We had an in home visit before preschool a week or two ago. She started it alone, but I joined in just after it started. Mostly I am there, but she handles all things children related. They are not my kids, so I don't exactly have much of a say. I like to have the teachers see me so that if there is an emergency, they will know me by sight, and know I am listed to get the kids.
Over all we are balanced. She cares for the hose more, and I care for the things that need getting done. I do the major chores, but she takes care of the hours of cleaning that have to be done regarding all the little things. She works, but I baby sit for her at night, so we take that on a cheep note as $30 a night toward my income. It sort of balances.
OK /ramble off. I been drinking a little to long this evening.
~Ki
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. That, He's not so great at. As smilezz said, I am very organized and it brings me peace to keep things in order. So, as far as the bill-paying example, I guess you could say we work together. I keep track of when to pay them and He actually pays them. 
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