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How many... - 9/16/2007 1:59:29 PM   
daddysprop247


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Status: offline 		...sexual partners have you had?

the "sexual past" thread on the General board sparked this question, which i'm sure has been asked before, but never by me, so there you go.

i'm curious not just about the answers but about how many of us here are actually bold enough to share...after all, it's just sex right? no biggie. and "sex" btw, in this thread will be defined as any act of oral sex, anal sex, or intercourse with another person or persons.

so how many? also i'd be interested in knowing your age (or age range), and what percentage of your partners were casual vs. romantic/relationship partners. and don't worry, i'll spill the beans myself shortly.
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RE: How many... - 9/16/2007 2:54:19 PM   
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ORIGINAL: daddysprop247


after all, it's just sex right? no biggie. and "sex" btw, in this thread will be defined as any act of oral sex, anal sex, or intercourse with another person or persons.



I prefer quality over quantity, always. Also, sex being a very important part of me and my life, it's really not a no biggie and something to talk about casually for me. Being bold has nothing to do with admitting something so personal, so i'll stop here as i am just not understanding the meaning of this thread.

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RE: How many... - 9/16/2007 3:10:34 PM   
daddysprop247


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Status: offline 		hi murmur, thanks for even reading the thread and giving a response, if not answers. i started this thread out of curiousity's sake, both for fun and reflection. i'm curious to see if i'm really such an oddball, regarding my openness and rather casual attitude as far as sharing basic facts about my sexual history. for me the number of men i've sucked or been f*cked by is not intimate, hush-hush information. it's just facts and figures, part of me, but nothing that touches my spirit or heart, and therefore not intimate. so, sharing this information with anyone really, is indeed no biggie. for many others i know it is different, and i guess i'm also curious to know/understand just where those people are coming from to....just what makes it difficult or unthinkable to share this, and not the millions of other far more personal and intimate things people share here everyday?

btw, to respond to my own thread.....my exact number is unknown, it's somewhere between 100 and 115. maybe if i sat down and thought for a while i could come up with a closer range. the vast majority of these have been non-romantic partners...i've only had 3 serious relationships in my life. i'm 26 years old, have been owned for 7 yrs this october, and about 80% of my sexual partners are men i've been with since being owned (my Master likes to share).

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RE: How many... - 9/16/2007 3:17:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't have random encounters anymore though I had a few when I was in my late teens.  I'm 33; first had a sexual encounter when I was 16 and even if you exclude anal and oral the number remains the same as I don't and never had those kind of random encounters. I would never have done "just oral" or "just anal" because it's "no biggie" because for me it is and always will be.

The number is under 25 and more than 10 I could exact it if I decided to count.  I choose not to.

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RE: How many... - 9/16/2007 3:21:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		Even my casual relationships were a part of what makes me me, at this moment present. They didnt touch my spirit, but showed me things of life and of people that, even now, i cant think of casual.

I think, by reading your post, what passed through my head and ticked me off the most (no offense) was that i couldnt think of someone i've been with, even for a little while, as a simple number.  They are people as well and i respect too much people and the idea/concept of individuality to think that.

I respect your history and now understand better your reasons to share such a post



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RE: How many... - 9/16/2007 3:23:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		murmur you and I differ greatly in that regard...while I don't regret my encounters there is one or two I wish was only a number and I will admit...there is still one, who's name we'll never know......am I proud?  not really; it is what it is.

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RE: How many... - 9/16/2007 3:23:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hi Prop, interesting question...when i was 16 i sat down with my best friend, and we were gonna write down how many sexual partners we had ever had...at that time the number was in the high seventies...so now at the ripe old age of 43 i'd say the number is right at 100....yeah ok ...i was a hose bag...so what?  

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RE: How many... - 9/16/2007 3:26:54 PM   
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I don't have random encounters anymore though I had a few when I was in my late teens.  I'm 33; first had a sexual encounter when I was 16 and even if you exclude anal and oral the number remains the same as I don't and never had those kind of random encounters. I would never have done "just oral" or "just anal" because it's "no biggie" because for me it is and always will be.

The number is under 25 and more than 10 I could exact it if I decided to count.  I choose not to.


thanks for sharing. i can understand not counting, i think that's natural for most people when they past no. 10...i remember i kept perfect track of numbers, dates, names, until i got to 11 or 12...and then i just lost interest. thanks too for sharing your start age, that's an important factor....mine was 13 (consensually). i wonder if younger (mid 20s and below) women are more likely to have had more partners than their older counterparts? i do believe so, with young western teen's current blase attitude toward sex in general. as many partners as i've had, i have a 21 yr old cousin who by the time she's my age i'm sure will have far surpassed me.

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RE: How many... - 9/16/2007 3:30:23 PM   
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Hi Prop, interesting question...when i was 16 i sat down with my best friend, and we were gonna write down how many sexual partners we had ever had...at that time the number was in the high seventies...so now at the ripe old age of 43 i'd say the number is right at 100....yeah ok ...i was a hose bag...so what?  



wow...so at 16 your no. was in the high 70s, but some 27 years later that number has only increased by 20something? sounds like you either took a vow of celibacy or went monogamous for a while there....far from a hose bag.

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RE: How many... - 9/16/2007 3:32:11 PM   
murmur


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Status: offline 		Different people means different types of interactions. I could have had encounter (and may, i'm still young) with the people you are talking about and may not have interact with them the same way as they would have with me. That's how opinions are formed.
Opinions are so easily manipulated by perception, it's fascinating

earthycouple, i'm sorry it has happened that way... it sure made you who you are now or formed you into a person with greater insight. Wiser people are the most attractive, remember that.

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RE: How many... - 9/16/2007 3:39:54 PM   
NefertariReborn


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Status: offline 		I feel like an underachiever here.  I'll attribute it to an aversion to being touched early in adult life.  subs/slaves of the past have been service slaves (which is My thing, makes Me hot, but I digress).  Sexual partners as in the penis inside vagina sense - 4.    I feel so so so virginal.  Strappie inside a sub's ass intercourse 6.  And 2 of the strappie belong to the penis group.  Seriously, I don't have a problem with the number.  I have another 50 years to catch up to you people.  Some of you are too far though.  I'd have to start today and f*ck every day until I die probably.  Not sure My back could take the pressure.  I'd probably only raise the strappie ratio anyway. 

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RE: How many... - 9/16/2007 3:53:53 PM   
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ORIGINAL: daddysprop247

quote:

ORIGINAL: breatheasone

Hi Prop, interesting question...when i was 16 i sat down with my best friend, and we were gonna write down how many sexual partners we had ever had...at that time the number was in the high seventies...so now at the ripe old age of 43 i'd say the number is right at 100....yeah ok ...i was a hose bag...so what?  



wow...so at 16 your no. was in the high 70s, but some 27 years later that number has only increased by 20something? sounds like you either took a vow of celibacy or went monogamous for a while there....far from a hose bag.

Good observation...i got married 4 years after that "list" was made... i have been married for 24 years...until about a year ago i had not had ANY kind of sex with any man other than my husband. One year ago my husband gave me permission to seek out a Master...in that year i have had 4 sexual encounters.

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RE: How many... - 9/16/2007 4:17:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		I can honestly say that I do not know the number. As someone else said after 30 or so you sort of stop counting. I would guess it is somewhere in the 80s or 90s. At 47 and having never been married I have lived my life the way I wanted to and have no regrets on my past.  

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RE: How many... - 9/16/2007 4:53:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		My numbers are rather "up there" at 21 years old (almost) I've had 70+ sexual partners... and those are just the ones I can remember. 

I spent a great deal of time at the Power Exchange in San Francisco from October 2005-October 2006, going out there almost every weekend for a year... I acquired the length of my list at that time with men, most of whose names I will never know. 


And in talking with my ex, I discovered that in the past 8 months I've had 10+ sex partners. 

I can't say that I regret any of it... though I will admit its left me feeling a little empty inside sometimes, because I had always thought I'd be one of those girls who'd only ever be with one man... I was engaged at 16, spent three more years with that same boy, and then when that ended, I discovered the freedom of sex, and the honest difference between good and bad sex. 


I've had my fun, but I don't think I'll be exploring much... I've been safe, and maintained my health so far... I don't see any reason to risk my life for someone I'm not serious about, anymore. 




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RE: How many... - 9/16/2007 5:07:30 PM   
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and those are just the ones I can remember.

LMAO....i can relate to this....


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RE: How many... - 9/16/2007 5:20:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		Probably about ten.  My claimed age is twenty-one.  (I'm only counting penis-vaginal pentration for the purposes of this consideration.)

About half were long-term partners.  The other half were.. well, I suppose a fellow's prone to a few indiscrissions.  All in all, I suppose I would take back all but three if I could.  Not so much for romantic reasons, and certainly not for religious ones, though.. at times.. I think back and just realize that having been with some of them just makes me feel sick.

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RE: How many... - 9/16/2007 5:31:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ah. Well. I stopped counting at 200 before I was out of college. My group--we used to pride ourselves on only sleeping with our friends.

Consider that I'm a child of the sixties--my age is 58--so I was, um, 'active' during the seventies... and we all remeber how crazy the sixties and seventies were! Or not. Depending on how many drugs you took back then.

The kind of interesting counterpoint to that is how picky I am now. I've had sex (by any definition) with two people in the last 10 years, with similar numbers in the previous two decades. Gotta love that serial monogamy!

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RE: How many... - 9/16/2007 6:06:59 PM   
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Probably about ten.  My claimed age is twenty-one.  (I'm only counting penis-vaginal pentration for the purposes of this consideration.)

About half were long-term partners.  The other half were.. well, I suppose a fellow's prone to a few indiscrissions.  All in all, I suppose I would take back all but three if I could.  Not so much for romantic reasons, and certainly not for religious ones, though.. at times.. I think back and just realize that having been with some of them just makes me feel sick.


why would you take them back? even if they were bad experiences (or bad people) it was still a learning experience, and that leads to growth. if nothing else, it'll make you value the good ones that much more.

btw, just curious, but why are you only counting penis-vagina intercourse? oral and anal are sex too.

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RE: How many... - 9/16/2007 6:12:51 PM   
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I have only been in 3 serious relationships with men, including the current one.  I am currently 36.  Six of the men were prior to my 19th birthday and the first was not consensual.  One of the casual encounters was actually the best thing that could have happened to me.  After being raped, I was on a downward spiral and he gave me a kick in the ass, told me I was better than what I was doing and that I needed to get my shit together.  I took the advice to heart and did.

Prior to my Lord, I was celibate for almost 10 years.  It may have been more; I didn't really mark the time.

I imagine that in the years to come the numbers will increase because he likes to share.

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RE: How many... - 9/16/2007 6:28:23 PM   
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I was in a heavy metal band, in the eighties (two photos of me, at that time, in my photos, on my profile).
 
I was married (faithfully) from 1986 until 1995.
 
After my divorce, I was introduced to the swinging lifestyle.
 
I need a ruling from the judges: can I just count serious "relationships", please?
 
 
 
 
 
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