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BossySSBBW -> Am I on the wrong website? (9/17/2007 1:17:41 PM)
I have looked around, perhaps I am not using the proper words for a search. I am really into the D/s side of life and not the BDSM side of it. I do not feel there is anything wrong with either lifestyles, I just have more interest in Dominance than the BDSM side of life. I do mention these issues in my profile and journal, yet men still contact me wanting me to brutalize them physically. I always wish them luck with their search and let them know in mail replies that unfortunately that is not my interest. Perhaps someone has another website I should be registering on.

SlaveOwnerDave -> RE: Am I on the wrong website? (9/17/2007 1:33:25 PM)
Hi, BossySSBBW; [:D]I once received the message "did you find a master, sir?" [sm=whap.gif]I replied "I am an Owner, I don't need a Master." As to finding good subs/slaves, I quote: "They're there... You just have to find them!" [:'(]I just keep sifting, sifting... sifting, sifting, sifting.... What else can One do? Dave

MistressSassy66 -> RE: Am I on the wrong website? (9/17/2007 1:53:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BossySSBBW I have looked around, perhaps I am not using the proper words for a search. I am really into the D/s side of life and not the BDSM side of it. I do not feel there is anything wrong with either lifestyles, I just have more interest in Dominance than the BDSM side of life. I do mention these issues in my profile and journal, yet men still contact me wanting me to brutalize them physically. I always wish them luck with their search and let them know in mail replies that unfortunately that is not my interest. Perhaps someone has another website I should be registering on. I hate to say it but Your on the right site. My profile is very clear and still I get mail from those who dont fit what I want,whether its business or pleasure. My first reply is simply no thanks. The next one if they write again...is not nice.Then of course they get pissed and all of a sudden the sexy Domme I was has turned into a cow within seconds... So ...anyway...I just chalk it upto ignorance or prehaps desperation and block them.

SubJordanTyler -> RE: Am I on the wrong website? (9/17/2007 2:03:31 PM)
I got an e-mail from a male dominant telling me I need to submit to him. Obviously he didn't look at my profile, as it says I want a female dominant, as I believe in female supremacy over the male. I'm not going to submit to a male dominant. I just blocked him and deleted the message. I don't think there is much more you can do than that - other than write back showing him/her how much of an idiot they are and then block them!!

MissSCD -> RE: Am I on the wrong website? (9/17/2007 2:07:36 PM)
There is nothing on your profile. You have opened yourself up to anyone, and you like to post. We look at that stuff. Regards, MissSCD

earthycouple -> RE: Am I on the wrong website? (9/17/2007 2:12:54 PM)
I don't quite understand why people continue to complain about this. Fact is that some people will email anyone, for any reason and all you have to do is hit delete. There is no magic cure for the stupid and overly eager. Eventually you'll find what you need...but you shouldn't piss and moan about it when you put yourself on a public forum and get things you don't like.

MsBearlee -> RE: Am I on the wrong website? (9/17/2007 2:27:06 PM)
In my opinion D/s IS part of BDSM; which to me includes Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & submission, and Sado masochism. Perhaps it is the S/m part that you have no interest in. <shrugs> BDSM is like a smorgasbord; you get to pick and choose what it is you want on your plate. While I agree with D~ about email, I didn’t see anything but a request for other websites that are more about D/s only. I wonder if it wouldn’t help for the OP to Google ‘50s lifestyle’ goddess and female supremacy stuff and perhaps ‘male wives’ or ‘domestic discipline’ (which really isn’t so much about BDSM at all). B

toservez -> RE: Am I on the wrong website? (9/17/2007 2:38:56 PM)
You have to have realistic expectations. I read your profile and it jumps out as a profile asking for a free servant and little more. Yes, there are people like that in this life and this site is as good as any and in my opinion better then all others but what you are looking for a the preverbal needle in the haystack. Submissives are human beings and as human beings they have needs that they cannot toss away to serve someone. For a very large majority they will have sexual needs and also require physical manifestations of the power exchange to enjoy it at a level that most are wanting when they search out this life from both sides. Like others have written you will have to be patient and ignore the people who write and do not take your profile seriously. There are people out there but most submissives are not wired for what you are wanting so it might take some time.

xoxi -> RE: Am I on the wrong website? (9/17/2007 2:41:44 PM)
To the OP: I know exactly what you mean. I often feel I'm in the wrong place because I'm looking for D/s...not kink, not sadomasochism, not public play, not sharing...and so many people think that just because you are dominating me that means you should be fisting me or dilating me or fucking me in public. Meh. I just want a good old fashioned relationship with rough sex and punishments for not being pleasing. Is that so hard to find [:(]

bandit25 -> RE: Am I on the wrong website? (9/17/2007 2:44:19 PM)
Donna, The new picture is stunning. Or I should say that you look stunning in the new picture.

earthycouple -> RE: Am I on the wrong website? (9/18/2007 6:57:15 AM)
Thanks, Bandit!

bandit25 -> RE: Am I on the wrong website? (9/18/2007 7:02:05 AM)
You are welcome.

Stephann -> RE: Am I on the wrong website? (9/18/2007 9:16:49 PM)
The same advice I give to all women who complain about the quality of their mail. Turn your profile off, and do your own research. Punch in the criteria for men that you want; age, location, interests, whatever. Start writing those people thoughtful intelligent letters. Even with a profile turned off, you can receive mail. I think while the quantity of mail you receive will drop dramatically, the quality will rise drastically. Stephan

DiurnalVampire -> RE: Am I on the wrong website? (9/18/2007 9:21:15 PM)
You are in the right place, you just need a lot of patience. Ther eare subs who will write to everyone, with the same letter, and ask for what they want. They havent as much as looked at your profile, so they cant really tell what you want. But you are female, dominant and thats all they need to know. Welcome to the club, we all get it. Just keep looking, get rid of what doesnt fit, and keep what does. DV

johntom571 -> RE: Am I on the wrong website? (9/18/2007 9:24:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: earthycouple I don't quite understand why people continue to complain about this. Fact is that some people will email anyone, for any reason and all you have to do is hit delete. There is no magic cure for the stupid and overly eager. Eventually you'll find what you need...but you shouldn't piss and moan about it when you put yourself on a public forum and get things you don't like. Bloody Amen to that JT

Satyr6406 -> RE: Am I on the wrong website? (9/18/2007 9:53:37 PM)
I get some of the weirdest e-mail on the planet ... JordanTyler: I got the same e-mail and my profile CLEARLY describes me as "dominant" (and straight). Don't feel special! LOL!!!! To the O.P.: As some have already said: you just have to set your filters and take some time. To be honest, I kind of wish I had your issue. As a male, I don't get all that much mail. It would certainly make things easier for me but, if you want to grow beautiful roses ... yada ... yada ... yada. I would think that any submissive worth having is worth spending time looking for. Sure, it can get disheartening. Don't these ladies know how lucky they could be? Don't they see how wonderful I am? I'm joking (partially). I took a great deal of care to write my profile and to be fairly specific (without feeding people info that they can regurgitate for me). I post on here, often (some would say: "too much"), and I write in my journal, when the spirit moves me. All of these things give potential submissives a look into who I am and what I'm about. I will admit that there have been times when, I receive mail and as I'm reading it, I'm thinking: "She must think I'm hot because she, obviously, didn't read my profile!" LOL!!! Chin up. Don't let the side down and suck it up and drive on! Peace and comfort, Michael

havnfun4now -> RE: Am I on the wrong website? (9/18/2007 11:52:26 PM)
This is the internet with is share (large) of wierdos. Just this week i got mail from a male sub in New Jersey who wants to serve me on week days during the day and some weekends. A male Dom from New York asked me to lunch or dinner. By the way, i'm in Arizona.

MaamJay -> RE: Am I on the wrong website? (9/19/2007 12:11:33 AM)
OK OP, obviously You have worked on Your profile and journal so it is now pretty clear what You are seeking. However, what I don't see is what the sub is going to get out of it. For many, what You call "brutalizing" they call play, and seek the pain for the pleasure and subspace it brings ... it's their reward for tasks well done. Some like to dress that up in roles as pretend punishments ... but still crave it for the reward. Few subs in My experience are so task oriented that they will get all their reward and satisfaction from no strings housework alone, which seems to be largely what You are seeking. For most people (though not all, there are always the exceptions but looking for them can take a long time!), relationships are a 2-way street and both seek to have their needs met. So what of a sub's needs are you prepared to meet and how? When You have thought about that ... Your chances of success may well rise substantially. Aside: It seems strange pointing this out to a Domme ... usually We're pointing out to the sub boys ... what are you going to do for Her besides what you want Her to do to you! Maam Jay aka violet[A]

BossySSBBW -> RE: Am I on the wrong website? (9/19/2007 7:42:52 AM)
I wasn't aware that physical pain is the only way to hold control over someone. I have found some men who just mentioning that they won't be allowed conversation or even being in the same room with the Dominant causes them pain. As for my statements about brutalization, I just don't think I have to leave welts, bruises, blood stripes for a man to still feel pain. Of course there are those in this world who do need, want and love the pain, it is just not my cup of tea. I do believe in touching, communication and letting the submissive know that he/she has displeased me. I guess I just have different ways than some. That is what makes the world go around of course, is our differences. I guess mine are just so narrow it will be much harder to find the right person to fulfill them.

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