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HotFaerieMama -> RE: here i go *deep breath* (9/19/2007 10:09:31 AM)

i have a few things to say

1. no i won't look at your profile..
2. quit being a whiney ass its annoying
3. be clear are precise in your profile so people will know that you are serious
4.  ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS 



e01n -> RE: here i go *deep breath* (9/19/2007 10:09:46 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MasterJBK: I get pissed at slaves that don't think I am a Master. now i am going to ask Master's, by looking at my profile (not by my age) would you consider me a Master?

1 - the fact that you get pissed at slaves that don't think you are a master with a capital M should be the first clue that you are claiming a title that hasn't been earned.

1a- A "computer expert" that can't get a java app working on his machine isn't much of an expert, is he? So why would he call himself an expert to begin with?

2 - If you're going to ask Masters something, there is a forum section entitled "Ask a Master." I'd also recommend not asking their possessions (indicated by the use of the genitive "'s") - it's poor form.

3 - Your profile reeks of HNG. You live for so many things you have no mention of experience in - this generally means that it's fantasy and not reality. If it is such, then say that you're curious about it or that you're a beginner at it.

3a- There is, in general, a lack of transparency and openness about the profile. It just looks like a guy looking for some easy tail and not a real BDSM relationship of any type.

And look, I didn't even mention the fact that your age and the pictures make you look like a drunken frat boy looking to score with minimal effort... well, until now. [;)]

Have a nice day!



HotFaerieMama -> RE: here i go *deep breath* (9/19/2007 10:29:43 AM)

*raises her glass* i agree with e01n



e01n -> RE: here i go *deep breath* (9/19/2007 10:38:23 AM)

He asked for it... I was nice enough to answer honestly.

So, HFM - what's in the glass, and can I get a drop of the same myself...



chellekitty -> RE: here i go *deep breath* (9/19/2007 10:43:14 AM)

don't tell him! he doesn't need any help....



cuffnspankme -> RE: here i go *deep breath* (9/19/2007 10:46:52 AM)

I was going to look at the profile but didn't. I couldn't bring myself to do so. Ugh. If someone has to ask if they are something they usually are not.
As a few have said, rework the profile, not that I read it, to reflect WHO you are. Take out all the HNG stuff, take out all the sex stuff and rework the interests list. If you have never tried it and want to, throw it in the curious section.
Gain some confidence in yourself. A lot of what makes a master attractive is the aura he emmanates. And that comes from confidence in yourself, your abilities and your knowledge of things BDSM and lifestyle related. Until you can get that confidence I am afraid that you will not be taken very seriously.



e01n -> RE: here i go *deep breath* (9/19/2007 10:48:18 AM)

Hey! We drunken frat boys stick together. He might be a worthy brother, so I'll give him enough rope to either do some lovely macrame or go hang himself....

In all likelihood, the boy doesn't know Egypt from his ass... but he might just.

(Seriously, if you were making a faux pas you'd want to know - right?)



soultoshare -> RE: here i go *deep breath* (9/19/2007 10:55:16 AM)

OK, I couldn't help it...I looked......must have made some changes to it since the original posting.  Didn't detect anything whiney in the profile, but definitely a tad arrogant in the post.......just the post alone wouldn't impress me much.  Gives me the image of a little kid stomping his foot and shouting "NO" when he doesn't get his way.  Slaves, or subs, don't immediately start out calling one Master, just on HIS say so.  You need to earn the "title" first, and even though you said not to look at your age as an indication of your "Mastery". I'm sorry......23 is way too young to be jumping out there as one.  I have a lot more respect for newbies that admit they are than others who don't.  Expectng someone to call you Master on your say so is what smacks of arrogance.

It wouldn't hurt to think about getting a mentor, seeking others out who actually ARE Masters, and start to learn from them.  I'm in agreement with those that say you're coming off as a frat boy looking to hook up for some kinky sex.  And I'm concerned that since you may have no knowledge or experience with what it is you want to do, that you're going to hurt someone.  Take the time to learn about the lifestyle, ask questions, do research, think about what you want before just jumping in head first......and use the BIG head, not the little one!

Just this one sub's thoughts.

PS......I agree with e01n....lose the pic you have on the profile!



HotFaerieMama -> RE: here i go *deep breath* (9/19/2007 10:55:47 AM)

*gives e01n  some yager*




cuffnspankme -> RE: here i go *deep breath* (9/19/2007 10:55:54 AM)

Hmmmmm the things that can be done to drunken frat boys. Oh lots and lots of fun things. e01n, are you volunteering?...heh, teasing, so teasing, but ummmmmmm...I will hush now



e01n -> RE: here i go *deep breath* (9/19/2007 10:58:16 AM)

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ORIGINAL: HotFaerieMama: *gives e01n some Jager*

Thanks - I was starting to come down with something...



umisprite -> RE: here i go *deep breath* (9/19/2007 10:58:21 AM)

I've joined the discussion late, as usual. It appears you have changed your profile already and after viewing it it seems you have decided to share a bit more about who you are as a person, which I think is a good step. A profile here is just the beginning. It's only one step in establishing the kind of relationship you want. To put it simply, it's only words. Your thoughts and your actions, how you treat a potential partner after that initial contact, is what truly shows what you are all about.
 
If I can make one contrary comment speaking as the old cynical submissive woman I am...unless you are prepared to dismiss every worthy girl who approaches you because she is not bisexual you might want to remove that line from your profile. If it is an absolute must then leave it in. Non-negotiable items should be mentioned in a profile so people don't waste their time or yours. But it really is so cliché to claim monogamy but only if your girl is willing to get with another girl in front you. Would you really let go of or not even consider a wonderful woman if she had no interest in that? ...just a thought.



Stephann -> RE: here i go *deep breath* (9/19/2007 10:59:50 AM)

e01n,

this thread originally was in Ask a Master; a mod moved it.  Personally, I think the advice given was well worth suffering the original post though.

Stephan



e01n -> RE: here i go *deep breath* (9/19/2007 11:01:10 AM)

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ORIGINAL: cuffnspankme: Hmmmmm the things that can be done to drunken frat boys. Oh lots and lots of fun things. e01n, are you volunteering?...heh, teasing, so teasing, but ummmmmmm...

No, I'm horribly out of practice... [;)]

Back to the Topic: yes, he's made some edits. But the most offending portions are still there.



sambamanslilgirl -> RE: here i go *deep breath* (9/19/2007 11:07:52 AM)

sorry, the Human Resources Dept of CollarMe could not in good faith grant you all the rights, access and permission to you as "master".  we in this department feel you haven't fully grasped the concept that being a master is just more that having a slave who'll love you because of the power you have over her.

we have a problem that you're a college student and according to you studying is most important to you.  so we would like to know how will you have to time a train a 24/7 slave if you're in classes? will she be doing your homework for you? this dept agrees accordingly you  really have nothing to offer a potential slave at this moment, junior.  please submit your application for "master" when you've grown up a bit.

thank you for applying
Human Resources Dept of CM



chellekitty -> RE: here i go *deep breath* (9/19/2007 11:09:24 AM)

ooo ooo...do me next...i am feeling emotionally masochistic today



HotFaerieMama -> RE: here i go *deep breath* (9/19/2007 11:10:51 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: e01n

quote:

ORIGINAL: HotFaerieMama: *gives e01n some Jager*

Thanks - I was starting to come down with something...




more than welcome to help a friend out...



SirMIkeSD -> RE: here i go *deep breath* (9/19/2007 11:13:42 AM)

One thing that comes to mind when you say "I get pissed at slaves that don't think I am a Master" is that MAYBE you are not acting like one.

Just a thought.
Mike




Stephann -> RE: here i go *deep breath* (9/19/2007 11:16:46 AM)

For the record,

While not night and day different, his profile has changed a lot.  He may not have included much more about himself, but he did pull the five paragraphs about his sexual fantasies out.

quote:

ORIGINAL: chellekitty

ooo ooo...do me next...i am feeling emotionally masochistic today


Hiya chelle,

Actually, some of the advice I gave him would apply to your profile too.  We know you're a submissive who enjoys leather and cuddling, but that doesn't give us a clue as to who you are.

Write about the things you're passionate about, the things that make you excited (not the wet kind [;)]) and really make you feel great.  Write what your goals are in life; study?  work?  children?  where do you want to live?  Where do you want to travel?  Where have you been?  Who do you respect in life?

These are things that will flesh out who you are as a person, and those who share your tastes will be more likely to write you as opposed to just passing you by in favor of writing someone else who has more information about themselves.

I know I don't know what to write people, if they don't have any personal information.  Obviously, I'm an outgoing and friendly person; but if I were to write you cold from the 'other side' all I could write was

"Hi,

I see you live about an hour from me.  I just moved to Austin, and have been in the lifestyle for seven years. "

Basically, boring stuff.  I dont know anything about you, so I can't write about you; or more importantly, what we might share.

Warm regards,

Stephan



HotFaerieMama -> RE: here i go *deep breath* (9/19/2007 11:22:20 AM)

who died and made you king?



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