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ORIGINAL: amayos

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ORIGINAL: ineedyouMistress

A few nights ago in bed I was imagining being with my Mistress, cuddling and holding, getting kissed on the forehead, being told I'm a good boy, and all that mushy stuff. In my imagination I had a very strong urge to call my Mistress "Mommy." I don't know where that came up at all.

I've thought about the relationship I have/had with my mother, and thankfully nothing indicates I have feelings in that direction. The idea is pretty repulsive at a gut level for me in fact, the same as with the idea of any other member of my family or with men (just not bi at all). So where is this from?

As I see it, Mothers are our gateways into the world. Newborn and helpless, it is through the Mother one first experiences love, nurture and discipline, and so many other things. The deepest roots of our first experiences with the world are through Her. A Mistress is inevitably a visceral extension of the spirit of Mother—of Her authority and power—no matter how darkly it is used. It is said some wounded men groan and cry for their Mothers on the battle field. It makes sense men would cry for Her in deep submission, too.

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ORIGINAL: rob425

Currently watchin an episode of 'Real Sex' and they are at an Adult baby party with plenty of "Dommy Mommy's"

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ORIGINAL: Imajican

Just because you feel (or want to feel) the safety and care that a (conceptualized) maternal figure may bring into a D/s relationship doesn't lump you in with people who are oedipal or into infantilism somehow. I've had subs who call me Mommy some times and others who are strongly aware of my maternalness but who would never call me that. I often say I parent adults because in many ways I absolutely do since the way I approach D/s involves a lot of caregiving and influence outside of sex.

I have always parented my close friends to some degree, though, even before I knew what BDSM was. It's part of who I am just as much as being a dominant is. Interesting thing is that I don't have children (for a few reasons) but generally don't think I have the patience to parent them as I do adults. FTR I should note that I don't hover and do things like that, with adults, but rather if somebody needs guidance or something one would typically assign as a parental influence, I am often willing to fill that role.

The complement of the wicked, evil, unfair side of me is the soft, cuddly, safe place I want to provide to those I care about. I think each person I'm involved with would tell you that about me since they know that at my core I care deeply for them and their general well-being just as any protective figure would.

Personally I have no squick over being called whatever somebody is comfortable calling me at any given time. The worst thing one could do is have somebody feeling safe and loved and then freak out over being called "Mommy" or something similar. I tend to call my boy "baby" a lot, not because we have that dynamic actively going, but because that's what is natural for me at times just like other names or terms of endearment are appropriate at other times. It all flows how it flows, and generally it flows quite beautifully.

I wish you luck in finding your safe place *smile*

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ORIGINAL: sammyBoy1980

i like the mommy thing too (not family lol) with a Mistress..im not talking about diapers and stuff haha....just to be with a secure confident mature woman! wish i could find such a woman..would be heaven!