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sambamanslilgirl -> moving towards 24/7 (9/20/2007 4:02:34 PM)
*not looking for wanking material - only sincere, firsthand experiences* my SO/Dom and i are making plans for me to move from here to there (he lives in Oregon) by July 2008. i feel nervous, terrified, anxious, flustered, etc all rolled in enchillada now that reality of becoming 24/7 has hit me ...especially since my UMs will be coming as well. i'm talking about changing schools to neurologist for my oldest UM (she's brain injured). i hate packing. i have discussed my corcerns with him (and will continue to do so as the move date gets closer). i'm merely looking for in sight from those who have crossed this journey in their D/s dynamic. how did you feel when that reality of moving and being 24/7 hit you?

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: moving towards 24/7 (9/20/2007 5:34:32 PM)
My situation seems to be different. We didn't go from LDR to live in- I'm thinking that's a LOT bigger of a change and requires a lot more time for the shock to wear off and adjustments to be made. We were seeing eachother nearly every day, spending every weekend together already. But as we drove across the country together, I was thrilled that I'd finally get to sleep in my bed which had been in storage for two years with someone I truly loved. And then had to teach him NOT to turn on the lights when I had a migraine.

SolarAndViolet -> RE: moving towards 24/7 (9/20/2007 6:59:28 PM)
Hi, I don't have UMs, but I am moving away from my family and friends to Chicago to be with my Sir in 10 days. Once the decision was made I felt happy but also, nervous, anxious, scared... and all other things you've mentioned. I am both hating and loving te packing process... and I keep having dreams about how things are going to be, some are good, others are not. It hasn't happened yet, but it's damn close, and I'm both excited and nervous beyond words. So I understand how you feel. Just make sure not to let all those feelings overwhelm you. Always take a look past them and if the idea of moving still makes you happy then it will be fine. Difficult but fine. This may not have been helpful but I do wish all best to you in your decision. 'violet'

breatheasone -> RE: moving towards 24/7 (9/20/2007 7:04:09 PM)
I remember when I moved to Virginia from Michigan 6 months after I was married. I was 20 and had a 2 year old and was expecting my second. It was VERY scarey...but It turned out to be the best thing that ever could have happened to me. I wish you the very best and Godspeed on your journey....

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: moving towards 24/7 (9/20/2007 7:09:57 PM)
packing's a bitch, isn't it? lol it did help a little ...i'm trying not to let my emotions overwhelm the outlook of beginning a new life with my SO even though July does appear to be so far away. on a good note, my UMs are looking forward to moving to the west coast.

SolarAndViolet -> RE: moving towards 24/7 (9/20/2007 8:31:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl packing's a bitch, isn't it? lol it did help a little ...i'm trying not to let my emotions overwhelm the outlook of beginning a new life with my SO even though July does appear to be so far away. on a good note, my UMs are looking forward to moving to the west coast. Oh it really is! It's worse when you packed all the big things and what's left are the little stuff... AGRRRR... Driving me nuts right now :) I also must pick and choose what I take with me, my Sir's place is not big and I'm not sure how we will fit all. LOL. And I'm glad it helped. I get overwhelmed with all worries and thoughts a lot, but when I do, I stop and remind myself of the great reasons why I'm moving. One is being with my Sir, two is being on my own, three... I'll be able to get my sanity back (won't go into it :) ) . The UMs positive attitude will help you too :) 'violet'

breatheasone -> RE: moving towards 24/7 (9/20/2007 8:41:33 PM)
Be as organized as humanly fuckin possible. Make lists.....and make sure you have a good travel bag for the kids...[;)]

whiteslavebitch -> RE: moving towards 24/7 (9/21/2007 12:11:21 AM)
After many delays, and one still unresolved delay, I will soon be moving much closer to Master. I am almost fully packed, I've found an apartment in New Jersey. I'm thrilled that it's almost time. Work isn't an issue, because I will be transferring within my company. UM's aren't an issue, they're mostly grown, except one who lives with her father. Basically, I'm just frustrated while waiting for my nurse's license to come through in New Jersey, as that's the only holdup.

lovingdomwanted -> RE: moving towards 24/7 (9/21/2007 1:33:18 AM)
Can I ask, is it the BDSM element that is making you nervous? As for the children, they will probably see it as an adventure. Any big step like this can seem huge. Another thing is, here in England if a child has Special Needs, they are organisation attached to that particular need that will be able to provise volunteers to help with things like transportation, packing etc.....I don't know if it's the same over there. But can I say, good luck and hope you all have a wonderful new life together..... xxxxxx

liljoy -> RE: moving towards 24/7 (9/21/2007 2:54:19 AM)
i moved here to be with Master 2 1/2 months ago. i sold or gave away most of my stuff. Loaded my car down with as much stuff as i could fit in it and took off.. As moving day got closer i got more excited and more panicked. It was a HUGE step and i freaked out on Master many times. Each time He calmly talked me through it. my car broke down twice during the trip argh! When i finally got here though it was so worth it. There is nothing in the world better than being at Master's feet except being in His arms

Areflectionofyou -> RE: moving towards 24/7 (9/21/2007 3:17:16 AM)
I moved from Ct to Florida to be with him in late march. I moved 3 kids , 2 dogs , and a guinea piggy down south. The hardest part was moving my daughter who was finishing her Freshman year in highschool. Now everyones fully adjusted and happy. It took a few months.

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: moving towards 24/7 (9/21/2007 4:36:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lovingdomwanted Can I ask, is it the BDSM element that is making you nervous? the BDSM side to our relationship is not making me nervous. we're going to be a Dom/sub couple yet keeping the kink behind closed doors (or as he puts it - a nilla couple with chocolate swirled in). quote: Another thing is, here in England if a child has Special Needs, they are organisation attached to that particular need that will be able to provise volunteers to help with things like transportation, packing etc.....I don't know if it's the same over there. wish the states had that here - i would need help finding a secondary school that will adhere to her IEP plan and a neurologist who's also into alternative medicine. looking at my current place now - about 40% of what i own won't be coming across country when we move - GARAGE SALE ...bargain prices!

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: moving towards 24/7 (9/21/2007 4:42:21 AM)
my oldest is a Freshmen in HS so she's really looking forward to camping during the weekends to exploring Mt. Hood to horseback riding. she cannot wait to pack her stuff and move.

Littlepita -> RE: moving towards 24/7 (9/21/2007 5:07:05 AM)
I moved to be with my dom and brought my teenage UM with me. I didn't have much to pack because I got rid of almost everything I owned, so that I could start from scratch with my dom. He did the same thing, and if you are financially able to begin new it's fantastic. Now, we have a home that is entirely reflective of who we are, with only a few things from our past that really mean something to us. It is an adjustment learning to live with someone, and adding in UM takes lots of work and patience. Just go slow and communicate a lot!! We have been living together for 18 months and life truly can't get any better. Best of luck to you and yours. [:)]

TreasureKY -> RE: moving towards 24/7 (9/21/2007 8:02:57 AM)
I'm confused... is this your Daddy you are moving to? Or the boyfriend you met here? Or the new guy you're planning to see?

toservez -> RE: moving towards 24/7 (9/21/2007 8:21:40 AM)
I just did it a couple of months ago. I do not have the Unmentionables, I am very lucky to have a career that I can find good work anywhere and I have moved around my entire life so many of the stress factors were less on me then many who do this. Even with that it was a very big deal for me and quite stressful. For me, the biggest hurdle was opening my brain to such a move. I recommend you just focused on the tasks at hand that never seem to run out and just deal not let thoughts of all the things you are actually doing wear on you. I am talking about the actual task as I infer from the OP and not about the tasks of a LDR and going to real time 24/7. The feeling of going 24/7 I ran too and could not get to fast enough, but was not my first time nor his and we were fortunate enough that we were able to see each other a lot in person before I made the move so it felt like not a huge leap. You got a high school um to want to move? You are so far ahead of the game!

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: moving towards 24/7 (9/21/2007 2:36:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TreasureKY I'm confused... is this your Daddy you are moving to? Or the boyfriend you met here? Or the new guy you're planning to see? Daddy and i have a separate relationship outside this one with new guy i've met here link to boyfriend - over and done with months ago ...wow you really did some searching ...new guy - meeting again.

wideeyedgirl -> RE: moving towards 24/7 (9/21/2007 5:43:34 PM)
quick reply Its a scary as heck feeling. Im dealing with it now. Right now...Sir and I are LD...He is in Washington State, Im in Penn. The goal is once I graduate in December...to move out there, straight to live-in 24/7. So I definatly feel your pain. I dont have UMs to worrry about..Ide be that much more freaked if I did. I stress daily about what to do with my crappy furniture, my vehicle, how to move 3000 miles when I was off-kilter for a month after moving 5 miles. How to start a new program in a different school, new certifications for work, new..everything. The best advice I can give..is tell Him how it makes you nervous. Is it the general idea or specifics? Like finding a neuro-doc. Take care of stuff that you can..beforehand. Look at the schools when you visit, sit with the administration and tell them you are moving to the area in a year. That kinda thing. Just whatever you do..dont bottle it up. Dont let it eat away at you. Find out his expectations. Discuss what the day to day will be like. Discuss the practical boriness - who takes care of health insurance for example? what His expectations of you are. What will the UMs know about the dynamic? How will everything be managed. But overall..if He is worth His salt..He will understand Your concerns..and will do His best to ease the passage.

KatyLied -> RE: moving towards 24/7 (9/21/2007 5:57:09 PM)
Okay, I feel dim here. Are you moving to a Dom or to the Daddy you are collared to? I assumed it was the guy in your sigline.

YourhandMyAss -> RE: moving towards 24/7 (9/22/2007 2:59:33 AM)
My daddy dom and I are currently also trying to get to be live in. We need to find an apartment that'll allow a 50 pound dog and a 30 pound dog, when most won't allow any more than 20 pounds, and we need money. We've decided to ask a friend if he wants to go halvesies on it, however and that's a big help. I'm nervous I'm pyched I am impatient, I am full of dreams of how it'll finally be, I am hopefull. and I have doubts about finding a place cause I have very high standards, and I am worried about his dog fitting in, and being accepted which I am learning to lower. However I found 3 apartments that sound delicious have in washer and dryer units walk in closets, and accept dogs up to 70 pounds. This is the first time I've ever wanted to live with someone, so it'll be an interesting journy.

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