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When Master/slave become husband/wife - 9/21/2007 5:18:01 AM

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How does that affect the BDSM relationship?Or does it?

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RE: When Master/slave become husband/wife - 9/21/2007 5:21:09 AM

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My opinion is it`s entirely up to the couple concerned. The concept of M/s is still there and it`s a matter to what extent you want it to play a apart in the marriage. Do you want it to be a private thing, or public, or mixed

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RE: When Master/slave become husband/wife - 9/21/2007 5:30:14 AM

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How does that affect the BDSM relationship?Or does it?

good question - will tell you the answer in 9 months

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RE: When Master/slave become husband/wife - 9/21/2007 5:55:03 AM

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my Mistress and i are planning to get married. She will always be The Mistress. i will always respect Her as my Mistress. A question that W/we have had is there a traditional D/s wedding?

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RE: When Master/slave become husband/wife - 9/21/2007 6:07:17 AM

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From the few marriages I have seen sometimes the D/s does slow down a bit. As life becomes more complicated at times, this is not surprising. But this is not to say this is true in every case. Its all very individual.

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RE: When Master/slave become husband/wife - 9/21/2007 6:22:08 AM

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Social and religious stuff aside, marriage is just a state of mind. So it seems like there would be similar changes to the relationship if/when you move in together, too - the commonality here being that you are going to share living space, resources, and a big(ger) chunk of your time together. So how does the relationship work when you're not in a D/s moment? Can you function well together during transition times, or when you're doing laundry, or some other entirely vanilla type of necessary chore?

That's a good barometer for whether or not marriage will make a significant difference, I'd say.

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RE: When Master/slave become husband/wife - 9/21/2007 6:46:01 AM

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We've been married over a year a few month's ago. For us it only heightened our relationship. We have more defined roles.
Play, well that has stayed about the same. However now it is more random than it once was.
Not a lot has changed. Nothing major.

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RE: When Master/slave become husband/wife - 9/21/2007 7:05:28 AM

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Marriage intensified our relationship. We were living together a couple of years as Master/slave and planned to get married for 'pragmatic' reasons more than anything else. It became a bit more than that.

Maybe it was expressing many of the vows and sentiments we exchanged in our M/s 'contract' publicly with families and friends in attendance. Maybe it was confirming with 'tradition' a 'un-traditional' relationship. Somehow, the 'pragmatic' became a source of confirmation. Not for us, that wasn't necessary, but for those around us.

We won't bore you with the sappy sentimental aspects or the disgusting perversion aspects. The 'head space' that comes with being 'Husband & Wife' is empowering for the both of us in a different way than 'Master & slave'. Different - NOT qualified as 'better' or 'worse'. Although beth's "Mrs Merc" persona is fun to observe when she's dealing with salespeople or service clerks who don't 'serve' up to "Mrs. Merc's" standards. she no longer feels intimidated and/or 'submissive' in public settings representing me when I'm not there.

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